Waching daily Feb 3 2019

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THANKS FOR JOINING US FOR TODAY'S PROGRAM.

IN TODAY'S FAST-PACED, SELF-FOCUSED WORLD

IT'S DIFFICULT TO FIND QUALITY, BIBLICAL TEACHING.

MUCH LESS TEACHING THAT SIMPLIFIES PROFOUND TRUTH SO THAT IT CAN BE APPLIED

TO YOUR OWN LIFE AND, AS TODAY'S MESSAGE TELLS US, TO YOUR OWN MARRIAGE.

WE HOPE THAT YOU'LL HAVE YOUR BIBLES OPEN

AND BE READY TO FOLLOW ALONG WITH PASTOR ADRIAN ROGERS

AS WE BEGIN A NEW SERIES THAT WE CALL, "ONE LORD, ONE LOVE."

WHAT IS GOD'S DESIGN FOR THE HOME?

ABRAHAM AND SARA SOMETIMES HAD TO LEARN THE HARD WAY.

SEE WHAT PRINCIPLES THEY LEARNED AND WHAT PRINCIPLES WE CAN LEARN FROM THEM

THAT WILL GIVE US A FOUNDATION FOR OUR HOMES IN TODAY'S MESSAGE FROM ADRIAN ROGERS.

ADRIAN ROGERS: SOMEWHERE YEARS AGO I, I READ ABOUT A,

A CITY THAT HAD A LAND FILL, A CITY DUMP, IF YOU WILL.

AND IT, IT GOT FILLED AND A ENTERPRISING ENTREPRENEUR BOUGHT IT,

UH, FROM THE CITY FATHERS.

HE WENT OUT THERE AND BEGAN TO HAUL DIRT ON TOP OF THE GARBAGE

AND TOOK A BULLDOZER AND SPREAD IT OUT AND TAMPED IT DOWN.

AND AFTER HE HAD COVERED IT WITH DIRT,

HE LAID IT OUT INTO A SUBDIVISION.

BUILT STREETS AND CURBS AND, UH, BEGAN TO BUILD HOMES

AND IT BECAME A VERY ATTRACTIVELY LOCATED,

UH, AND, AND BEAUTIFUL SIGHT FOR HOMES.

AND YOUNG COUPLES MOVED IN, BOUGHT THOSE HOMES

AND IT WAS A WONDERFUL COMMUNITY.

LITTLE CHILDREN WERE RIDING AROUND ON THEIR TRICYCLES.

EVERYTHING WAS FINE UNTIL AFTER A NUMBER OF YEARS.

AND THEN SOMETHING STARTED TO HAPPEN.

UH, UH, WALLS IN THOSE HOUSES BEGAN TO SAG AND ROOFS, UH,

BEGAN TO, UH, SWAY AND CRACKS AND FISHERS CAME UP

AND THE CURBING WOULD BREAK AND THE SUBSOIL GAVE WAY

AND AFTER A WHILE FAMILIES MOVED OUT AND IT WAS DESERTED.

AND THE OLD TIMERS, UH, THEY KNEW WHAT HAD HAPPENED.

THEY KNEW THAT, UH, THAT THIS, THIS COMMUNITY

WAS BUILT ON GARBAGE. THEY KNEW THAT.

AND TH

EY KNEW THAT, THAT THE PROBLEM WAS WITH THE FOUNDATION.

NOW THAT'S WHAT'S HAPPENED IN AMERICA.

WE'RE TRYING TO BUILD OUR HOMES, VERY FRANKLY, ON GARBAGE.

WE DON'T UNDERSTAND THE TRUTH OF GOD'S WORD.

AND ONE WISE MAN SAID, "WHEN THE, WHEN THE BOTTOM FALLS OUT,

MAYBE YOU OUGHT TO EXAMINE THE FOUNDATION."

HAVE YOUR BIBLES OPEN TO THE BOOK OF FIRST PETER CHAPTER THREE

AND STAY WITH US FOR TODAY'S MESSAGE, "THE DIVINE DESIGN."

AFTER 42 YEARS OF MARRIAGE, I KNOW WHAT THESE MESSAGES

HAVE DONE FOR MY OWN MARRIAGE AND I BELIEVE

THEY'LL DO THE SAME FOR YOU.

AND DON'T FORGET, DOWNLOADS OF TODAY'S PROGRAM,

OUTLINE, NOTES AND OTHER MATERIALS RELATED

TO TODAY'S MESSAGE ARE AVAILABLE ON OUR WEBSITE; LWF.ORG.

I'LL BE BACK AT THE CONCLUSION OF THE PROGRAM FOR MORE INFORMATION

ABOUT HOW YOU CAN CONNECT WITH LOVE WORTH FINDING MINISTRIES.

NOW, LETS JOIN ADRIAN ROGERS.

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ADRIAN: WOULD YOU BE TAKING GOD'S WORD AND FINDING FIRST PETER CHAPTER THREE.

WE'RE TALKING TODAY ABOUT, UH, INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE, "ONE LORD, ONE LOVE."

THE TITLE OF THE STUDY TODAY, "ONE LORD, ONE LOVE:

THE DIVINE DESIGN." THE DIVINE DESIGN.

WHAT HAS GOD DESIGNED FOR THE HOME?

I HEARD RECENTLY ABOUT A MAN WHO WAS AT BREAKFAST.

HE WAS BEHIND THE NEWSPAPER DRINKING HIS COFFEE

PAYING ABSOLUTELY NO ATTENTION TO HIS WIFE, NONE WHATSOEVER.

SHE SAID TO HIM, "YOU SITTING THERE BEHIND THAT PAPER,

I BET YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT TODAY IS."

HE PUT THE PAPER DOWN, HE SAID, "OF COURSE I KNOW

WHAT TODAY IS. DO YOU THINK I HAVE FORGOTTEN?"

SO THAT DAY, IN THE MIDDLE OF THE DAY

SHE RECEIVED A BEAUTIFUL BOUQUET OF ROSES.

LATER ON DURING THE DAY, SHE GOT A BOX OF CHOCOLATES.

LATER ON DURING THE DAY, THE MAN DELIVERED TO HER DOOR,

SOMETHING EVERY FRILLY FOR HER TO WEAR AT NIGHT.

AND WHEN HE GOT HOME, THE TABLE WAS SET, WITH A BEAUTIFUL

LINEN TABLECLOTH.

THERE WERE CANDELABRA ON THE TABLE, FRESH CUT FLOWERS,

A MAGNIFICENT MEAL AND AFTER IT WAS ALL OVER,

SHE GOT FROM HER CHAIR AND MOVED OVER

AND TOOK HIM BY THE HAND, LOOKED HIM IN THE EYES

AND SAID, "SWEETHEART, I WANT TO THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS

THE MOST WONDERFUL GROUNDHOG DAY I HAVE EVER KNOWN."

[AUDIENCE LAUGHTER]

I THINK THAT WE HAVE SOME MEN TODAY

WHO NEED TO WAKE UP AND TO LISTEN.

FIRST PETER CHAPTER THREE VERSE ONE, "LIKEWISE, YE WIVES,

BE IN SUBJECTION TO YOUR OWN HUSBANDS; THAT, IF ANY OBEY

NOT THE WORD, THEY ALSO MAY WITHOUT THE WORD BE WON

BY THE CONVERSATION OF THE WIVES.

WHILE THEY BEHOLD YOUR CHASTE," OR PURE,

"CONVERSATION COUPLED," OR JOINED, "WITH FEAR."

NOW, I WANT TO SAY THERE'S NOTHING MORE POLITICALLY INCORRECT

IN THE BIBLE THAN THESE TWO VERSES.

I MEAN, THE, THE RADICAL FEMINISTS TODAY ALMOST SPLIT

THEIR SPLEEN TO READ THESE VERSES, UH, THAT, THAT A WOMAN

IS TO BE IN SUBJECTION TO HER HUSBAND.

THIS IS TOTALLY, TOTALLY, POLITICALLY INCORRECT, UH,

FOR A WOMAN TO SAY, "I AM GOING TO SUBMIT MYSELF TO MY HUSBAND."

AND TO MAKE MATTERS WORSE, UH, SOME CHRISTIAN WOMEN

HAVE DIFFICULTY WITH THIS BECAUSE IT TEACHES

THAT A, A WIFE IS TO SUBMIT HERSELF TO HER HUSBAND,

EVEN IF HER HUSBAND IS NOT OBEYING THE WORD OF GOD.

NOW WHY IS THIS?

WELL, VERY SIMPLY, GOD SAYS THERE MUST BE ORDER IN THE HOME.

AND FOR THERE TO BE ORDER IN THE HOME RATHER THAN CHAOS

THERE MUST BE SOME HEAD.

YOU'VE HEARD ME SAY MANY TIMES THAT, "ANYTHING WITHOUT

A HEAD IS DEAD AND ANYTHING WITH TWO HEADS IS A FREAK."

AND THAT IS TRUE IN ANY ORGANIZATION.

IT'S TRUE ANYWHERE.

IT'S TRUE IN THE CHURCH.

IT'S TRUE IN THE HOME.

AND THE HUSBAND IS THE HEAD OF THE WIFE.

THE BIBLE MAKES IT VERY CLEAR AND VERY PLAIN.

NOW, SOME WOMEN THINK AUTOMATICALLY THAT THIS MEANS

THAT THE BIBLE TEACHES THAT WOMEN ARE INFERIOR.

PERISH THE THOUGHT, THE BIBLE DOES NOT TEACH THAT.

LET ME GIVE YOU SOME VERSES TO PUT TOGETHER.

THE FIRST IS FIRST CORINTHIANS CHAPTER 11 AND VERSE THREE.

PAUL SAYS, "BUT I WOULD HAVE YOU TO KNOW THAT THE HEAD

OF EVERY MAN IS CHRIST AND THE HEAD OF THE WOMAN IS THE MAN,

AND THE HEAD OF CHRIST IS GOD."

THAT'S VERY INTERESTING BECAUSE WE SEE FROM

THIS VERSE THAT, UH, HAVING ONE OVER US AS OUR HEAD

DOES NOT MEAN THAT WE'RE INFERIOR.

LET ME ASK YOU THIS QUESTION: IS GOD THE SON INFERIOR

TO GOD THE FATHER?

OF COURSE NOT.

IS GOD THE FATHER THE HEAD OF GOD THE SON?

OF COURSE HE IS.

THAT'S WHAT THIS SCRIPTURE TEACHES.

THERE IS A DIVINE ORDER: GOD THE FATHER, GOD THE SON,

THE MAN AND THE WOMAN.

BUT IS A WOMAN EQUAL WITH A MAN?

OF COURSE SHE IS.

LISTEN TO THIS SCRIPTURE, GALATIANS THREE VERSE 28,

"NEITHER IS THERE JEW," OR, "THERE IS NEITHER JEW

NOR GREEK, THERE'S NEITHER BOND NOR FREE, THERE'S NEITHER MALE

NOR FEMALE FOR YE ARE ALL ONE IN CHRIST JESUS."

THAT IS, IN CHRIST JESUS, UH, WE'RE ALL ONE.

UH, IT TOOK AS MUCH OF THE BLOOD OF JESUS TO SAVE A WOMAN

AS IT DOES A MAN AND WHEN THEY'RE SAVED, THEY'RE ALL PART

OF THE BODY OF CHRIST.

BUT THE DEVIL TODAY IS TRYING TO OBLITERATE

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE SEXES.

AND, UH, IT IS THE DEVIL'S ATTEMPT TO MAKE MEN AND WOMEN

ALIKE UNDER THE GUISE OF MAKING THEM EQUAL.

THEY ARE EQUAL, BUT THEY ARE NOT ALIKE.

THEY ARE DIFFERENT AND GOD MADE US DIFFERENT THAT GOD

MIGHT MAKE US ONE.

NEVER FORGET THAT.

THE BIBLE IS AGAINST, UH, SHE-MEN AND HE-WOMEN.

WE'RE GOING TO TALK ONE WHOLE SESSION ABOUT THE DIFFERENCE

BETWEEN THE SEXES.

IT, IT, IT, HA, HA, WE'RE GOING TO HAVE A, A GOOD TIME THAT DAY,

WHEN WE TALK ABOUT THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE SEXES.

THE BATTLE OF THE SEXES REALLY OUGHT NOT

TO BE A BATTLE AT ALL.

AS A MATTER OF FACT, GOD MADE US DIFFERENT

THAT HE MIGHT MAKE US ONE.

NOW, LOOK IF YOU WILL IN VERSES THREE AND FOUR,

"WHOSE ADORNING," THAT IS, WHOSE BEAUTY,

"LET IT NOT BE THAT OUTWARD ADORNING OF THE PLAITING OF,

OF HAIR," ER, UH, "PLAITING THE HAIR,

OR WEARING OF GOLD, OR PUTTING ON OF APPAREL,

BUT LET IT BE THE HIDDEN MAN, THE HIDDEN PERSON

OF THE HEART.

IN THAT WHICH IS NOT CORRUPTIBLE."

UNDERSCORE THAT PHRASE, "THAT WHICH IS NOT CORRUPTIBLE.

EVEN THE ORNAMENT OF A MEEK AND QUIET SPIRIT, WHICH IS IN

THE SIGHT OF GOD, OF GREAT PRICE."

NOW, MODESTY, MODESTY IS A TRAIT THAT SAYS,

"I HAVE SELF-CONFIDENCE."

BUT, UH, IMMODESTY SAYS, "I AM SELF-CENTERED,

SELF-CENTERED."

SO, A WOMAN IS TO HAVE A SERENE, UH, BEAUTY ABOUT HER.

SHE IS TO HAVE AN ADORNMENT OF SERENITY.

GOD CALLS IT THAT, THAT, "ORNAMENT OF A MEEK

AND QUIET SPIRIT, THAT WHICH IS NOT CORRUPTIBLE."

NOW LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING LADIES, YOU OUGHT TO KEEP

YOURSELF ATTRACTIVE FOR YOUR HUSBAND.

BUT YOUR GREATEST BEAUTY IS INWARD BEAUTY

AND IF YOU DON'T REALIZE THAT YOU ARE FIGHTING

A LOSING BATTLE.

I'M GOING TO TELL YOU THE TRUTH AND YOU LISTEN TO ME.

MY WIFE IS MORE BEAUTIFUL TO ME TODAY THAN SHE WAS

WHEN I MARRIED HER.

I MEAN THAT WITH ALL OF MY HEART.

GOD IS LISTENING TO WHAT I'M SAYING.

BECAUSE OF THE, THE CHARACTER OF THAT WOMAN.

BECAUSE OF THE BEAUTY OF THAT WOMAN.

AND THAT BEAUTY IS, IS INTERNAL BEAUTY AS WELL AS EXTERNAL

AND SHE GETS MORE BEAUTIFUL DAY BY DAY AS SHE WALKS

BEFORE THE LORD.

BUT IF YOU PUT ALL YOUR EGGS IN THE BASKET

OF PHYSICAL BEAUTY, I'M GOING TO TELL YOU WHAT YOU CATCH HIM WITH

IS WHAT YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO KEEP HIM WITH.

AND BEFORE LONG, YOU KNOW THERE'S A NEW BEVY OF BEAUTIES

BEING BORN EVERY DAY. DID YOU KNOW THAT?

UH, HUH, THEY SAY THAT, UH, "BEAUTY IS SKIN DEEP;

UGLY GOES ALL THE WAY TO THE BONE.

[AUDIENCE LAUGHTER] BEAUTY FADES, BUT UGLY HOLDS ITS OWN."

NOW, HA, HA, HA.

[AUDIENCE LAUGHTER] WHAT I'M, WHAT I'M TRYING TO SAY TO YOU

IS THIS FOLKS, THAT, THAT GOD SAYS, SHE IS TO HAVE AN ATTITUDE

[CLAP] OF SUBMISSION.

SHE IS TO HAVE AN ADORNMENT [CLAP] OF SERENITY.

AND NO WOMAN, LISTEN CAREFULLY, NO WOMAN

WITH A REBELLIOUS SPIRIT

CAN HAVE AN ADORNMENT OF SERENITY.

IT'S JUST ABSOLUTELY IMPOSSIBLE.

NOW HERE'S A THIRD THING.

NOT ONLY HER ATTITUDE OF SUBMISSION, NOT ONLY HER ADORNMENT

OF SERENITY, BUT HER AFFIRMING SPEECH; HER AFFIRMATION

OF SPEECH.

LOOK IN VERSE SIX OF THIS SAME THING, "EVEN AS SARA

OBEYED ABRAHAM, CALLING HIM LORD, WHOSE DAUGHTERS

YE ARE AS LONG AS YE DO WELL AND ARE NOT AFRAID

WITH ANY AMAZEMENT."

ALREADY HE SAID IN, IN, UH, VERSE ONE, THAT A WIFE

IS NOT TO NAG HER HUSBAND AND NOW SHE TALKS ABOUT

SARA WHO CALLED ABRAHAM LORD.

NOW THAT DOESN'T MEAN LORD LIKE WE USE THE WORD LORD TODAY.

SHE DIDN'T MEAN THAT YOU'RE MY LORD AND MASTER AND SHE

GROVELED AT HIS FEET.

BUT THE WORD LORD WAS A RESPECT; A, A, UH, TERM OF RESPECT LIKE,

UH, WE MIGHT USE THE WORD SIR, UH, TODAY.

BUT THE POINT IS THAT SHE SPOKE VERY RESPECTFULLY

OF HER HUSBAND.

SHE WAS VERY WISE IN HER USE OF SPEECH AND, AND GOD KNOWS

THAT A WOMAN IS, IS TO A MAN WHAT A WIND IS TO A FIRE.

SHE CAN FAN HIM UP OR BLOW HIM OUT.

UH, SHE, BY HER SPEECH, HER WORDS.

DO YOU KNOW WHAT A MAN WANTS FROM A WOMAN?

LAD, LADIES LET ME TELL YOU WHAT A MAN WANTS FROM A WOMAN.

HE WANTS HER ADMIRATION.

THAT'S, YOU SAY, WELL THAT'S WHAT WOMEN WANT FROM MEN.

WELL, WE'LL GET TO THAT IN A MOMENT.

BUT HE WANTS HER TO ADMIRE HIM.

FROM THE TIME I FIRST STARTED DATING JOYCE, I ALWAYS WANTED HER

TO ADMIRE ME.

I USE TO GET ON MY BICYCLE AND RIDE BACKWARD DOWN

THE STREET IN FRONT OF HER HOUSE, UH, [AUDIENCE LAUGHTER]

SO SHE WOULD, SHE WOULD COME OUT AND SEE ME DOING

THOSE HIJINKS.

[AUDIENCE LAUGHTER] I DON'T KNOW IF I REALLY ENJOYED

PLAYING FOOTBALL OR NOT, I MEAN IT HURTS.

I'D GET TIRED.

WE'D ALWAYS TALK ABOUT THE FUN OF THE GAME.

REALLY, IT'S NOT THAT MUCH FUN.

[AUDIENCE LAUGHTER] THE FUN PART IS TO HOLD

THE CHEERLEADER'S HAND AFTER THE GAME AND LET HER LOOK UP

AT YOU AND ASK, "ARE YOU HURT?"

YOU KNOW, "NO!"

AND, AND THAT, [AUDIENCE LAUGHTER]

THAT'S, THAT'S THE FUN PART.

I HAVE A PICTURE, ONE OF THE BEST PICTURES THAT I HAVE

IS A PICTURE OF JOYCE.

SHE WAS IN HER CHEERLEADER OUTFIT; AND BY THE WAY, UH,

HER CHEERLEADER OUTFIT IN THOSE DAYS DIDN'T LOOK LIKE

THEY DO IN THESE DAY IF YOU WANT TO KNOW.

BUT UNDERNEATH THAT, THAT, THAT PICTURE OF HER ARE THESE WORDS,

IT'S ONE OF MY CHERISHED POSSESSIONS.

SHE SAID, "I WILL ALWAYS CHEER YOU ON!"

THAT'S MEANINGFUL TO ME.

AH, AH, WORDS OF AFFIRMATION, HER AFFIRMING WORDS.

I WISH I HAD MORE TIME FOR THAT, BUT, UH, LET ME GO ON AND,

AND THE LAST THING IS HER ACCOMMODATING SERVICE.

LOOK IF YOU WILL IN VERSES FIVE AND SIX.

IT TALKS ABOUT SARA IN VERSE FIVE AND VERSE SIX, IT SAID

SHE OBEYED ABRAHAM, "CALLING HIM LORD."

AH, TO OBEY LITERA

LLY MEANS TO PLAY CLOSE,

CLOSE ATTENTION TO HIS NEEDS.

AND, AH, A WOMAN OUGHT TO ASK HERSELF, "WHAT CAN I DO

TO BE A HELPMEET TO HER HUSBAND, TO MEET

HIS NEEDS PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY, SPIRITUALLY

IN EVERY WAY."

WELL, I MUST LEAVE THAT BECAUSE I WANT TO GET

TO GOD'S DESIGN FOR THE MAN.

MOST SERMONS ON THE HOME, WE START ON THE WOMEN AND WE NEVER

GET TO THE MAN, SO LET'S GO ON TO VERSE SEVEN,

"LIKEWISE YE HUSBANDS." NOW I'M GLAD THAT'S THERE.

NOW LADIES DON'T SAY I DIDN'T SAY IT.

DON'T SAY WE NEVER GOT TO IT.

WE'RE GOING TO SAY MORE; GOD REQUIRES FAR MORE OF THE MAN

THAN HE DOES OF THE WOMAN.

LISTEN TO IT, "LIKEWISE YE HUSBANDS, DWELL WITH THEM

ACCORDING TO KNOWLEDGE; GIVING HONOR UNTO THE WIFE

AS UNTO THE WEAKER VESSEL AND AS BEING HEIRS TOGETHER

OF THE GRACE OF LIFE THAT YOUR PRAYERS BE NOT HINDERED."

NOW WHAT THIS SAYS IS THAT MEN WE ARE TO WISE UP.

WE'RE TO, "DWELL WITH THEM ACCORDING TO KNOWLEDGE."

VERY FRANKLY THAT'S HARD.

YOU HAVE TO WATCH A MAN THAT SAYS HE UNDERSTANDS WOMEN

'CAUSE HE'LL LIE ABOUT ANYTHING.

HU

H, [AUDIENCE LAUGHTER] IT'S HARD.

THE OTHER, THIS LITERALLY HAPPENED

LAST, UH, FRIDAY NIGHT.

I WAS DRIVING OUT HERE TO THIS AREA AND I GOT BEHIND

A PICK UP TRUCK AND IT HAD A BUMPER STICKER.

AND I GOT UP CLOSE TO READ THE BUMPER STICKER

AND HERE'S WHAT THE BUMPER STICKER SAID ON THAT PICK UP TRUCK.

THIS LITERALLY HAPPENED LAST FRIDAY NIGHT.

IT SAID, "THE MORE I LEARN ABOUT WOMEN,

THE MORE I LOVE MY TRUCK." [AUDIENCE LAUGHTER]

THE MORE I LEARN ABOUT WOMEN, THE MORE I LOVE MY TRUCK.

I SAID, "WELL THAT'S A FRUSTRATED GUY DRIVING THAT,

[AUDIENCE LAUGHTER] THAT TRUCK."

I WANT TO TELL YOU SOMETHING, FOLKS, THE MORE

YOU LEARN ABOUT JESUS, THE MORE YOU'LL LOVE YOUR WIFE.

[AUDIENCE: AMEN] THAT'S WHAT THE BUMPER STICKER

OUGHT TO SAY, "THE MORE I LEARN ABOUT JESUS,

THE MORE I LOVE MY WIFE."

THE BIBLE SAYS THAT WE ARE TO, "DWELL WITH THEM ACCORDING

TO KNOWLEDGE." MEN ARE SOMETIMES ARE SO STUPID.

YOU THINK THAT BECAUSE YOU ARE THE HEAD OF THE HOME

YOU'RE SUPERIOR.

THE THEORY OF A MALE, I KNEW A MAN THAT, UH, SUBSCRIBED

TO THE THEORY OF MALE SUPERIORITY UNTIL HIS WIFE CANCELED

HIS SUBSCRIPTION. [AUDIENCE LAUGHTER] WHAT IS A MAN TO BE?

WELL, FIRST OF ALL HE IS TO BE THE PROVIDER IN THE HOME.

THE MAN IS TO THE PROVIDER IN THE HOME.

IN GENESIS CHAPTER TWO AND VERSE 15 GOD SAID VERY CLEARLY

THAT IT WAS THE MAN'S JOB TO, "DRESS AND TO KEEP THE VINEYARD,"

THE GARDEN OF EDEN.

IT IS THE MAN'S JOB TO BRING IN THE BASIC NECESSITIES

TO THE HOME: FOOD, CLOTHING, TRANSPORTATION.

NOW IF NOT, IF IT, IF THE MAN DOES NOT ASSUME THAT BASIC

RESPONSIBILITY THERE'S GOING TO BE A LOSS OF RESPECT.

WE HAVE MANY WOMEN TODAY, WHO ARE WORKING OUTSIDE

THE HOME WHO DO NOT NEED TO WORK OUTSIDE THE HOME,

ESPECIALLY WHEN THERE ARE LITTLE CHILDREN AT HOME,

BUT THEY DO THAT FOR FULL, FOR FULFILLMENT.

WE'RE GOING TO TALK ABOUT THAT, UH, LATER ON IN THIS,

UH, IN THIS SERIES.

A LOT OF HOMES WOULD BE MUCH HAPPIER IF WE LEARNED

TO DO WITH LESS.

AND I WANT TO REMIND YOU WHAT I SAID

WHEN WE SPOKE ON THE TEN COMMANDMENTS.

WHAT THE, A GREEK PHILOSOPHER SAID WHEN HE SAID,

"TO WHOM LITTLE IS NOT ENOUGH; NOTHING IS ENOUGH."

IF YOU CAN'T LEARN TO GET ALONG ON LITTLE,

YOU'LL NEVER BE SATISFIED WITH MUCH.

NOW, WHEN A HUSBAND IS TO PROVIDE, AND BY THE WAY,

MY, MY HAT IS OFF AND MY HEART IS OUT TO WOMEN

WHO HAVE TO WORK TO, TO PROVIDE THE BASIC NECESSITIES.

BUT IF YOU, IF YOU DO WORK AND YOU DON'T HAVE TO PROVIDE

THE BASIC NECESSITIES AND YOU WORK OUTSIDE THE HOME,

LET WHAT THE MAN EARNS GO FOR THE BASIC NECESSITIES

AND WHAT YOU EARN, LET IT BE USED FOR MINISTRY AND, UH,

AND THE EXTRAS IN THE FAMILY, IF NECESSARY.

AND SOMETIMES, UH, WE CANNOT HAVE THIS IDEAL.

SOMETIMES A WOMAN HAS TO WORK AND I KNOW THAT.

I KNOW THAT.

BUT I'M TELLING YOU THAT GOD'S DIVINE DESIGN IS FOR THE MAN

TO BE THE PROVIDER IN THE HOME.

HE'S TO BE THE PROVIDER.

NOW YOU ARE TO PROVIDE FOR YOUR WIFE, SIR,

MORE THAN THE FOOD AND THE CLOTHING HOWEVER.

YOU ARE TO MEET HER EMOTIONAL NEEDS.

THE BIBLE SAYS YOU ARE TO, "GIVE HER HONOR,"

THAT'S ONE OF THE THINGS YOU ARE TO GIVE HER.

LET ME JUST READ VERY QUICKLY, THE SEVEN BASIC EMOTIONAL NEEDS

OF YOUR WIFE.

NUMBER ONE, SHE NEEDS THE STABILITY AND DIRECTION

OF A SPIRITUAL LEADER.

IF YOU'RE NOT A SPIRITUAL LEADER,

YOU'RE NOT PROVIDING FOR YOUR WIFE.

NUMBER TWO, SHE NEEDS TO KNOW THAT SHE AND SHE ALONE IS MEETING

THE BASIC NEEDS OF YOUR LIFE THAT NO OTHER WOMAN CAN MEET.

THAT IS SHE NEEDS TO KNOW BEYOND THE SHADOW OF A DOUBT

SHE IS NUMBER ONE IN YOUR LIFE, SO FAR AS PEOPLE ARE CONCERNED.

NUMBER THREE, SHE NEEDS TO SEE AND LEARN THAT YOU

DELIGHT IN HER; THAT YOU CHERISH HER AS A PERSON,

NOT AS A SEX, A SEX OBJECT, BUT AS A PERSON.

NUMBER FOUR, SHE NEEDS TO KNOW THAT YOU ENJOY

SETTING ASIDE QUALITY TIME FOR INTIMATE CONVERSATION WITH HER.

SHE WANTS YOU TO SIT DOWN, LOOK HER IN THE FACE

AND GIVE HER INTIMATE TIME.

NUMBER FIVE, SHE NEEDS TO KNOW THAT IT IS THE GOAL

OF YOUR LIFE TO PROTECT HER IN AREAS OF HER LIMITATIONS.

THAT IS YOU RECOGNIZE THAT SHE IS THE WEAKER VESSEL.

NUMBER SIX, SHE NEEDS TO KNOW THAT YOU ARE AWARE OF HER PRESENCE

EVEN WHEN YOU'RE DOING OTHER THINGS,

THAT YOU DON'T IGNORE HER.

NUMBER SEVEN, SHE NEEDS TO KNOW THAT THE GOAL

OF YOUR LIFE IS TO INVEST IN HER LIFE

TO HELP HER TO EXPAND AND FULFILL HER WORLD.

YOU SAY, "PASTOR ROGERS, I COULDN'T GET

ALL THOSE THINGS DOWN."

WELL, COME BACK AT 11:00, I'LL GIVE IT AGAIN, OR ELSE,

UH, GET THE TAPE.

BUT WHAT I'M TRYING TO SAY IS THIS; THAT A HUSBAND

IS TO BE A PROVIDER FOR HIS WIFE.

BUT NOT ONLY IS HE THE PROVIDER, LISTEN VERY CAREFULLY,

HE IS THE PROTECTOR.

BECAUSE WHAT DID GOD TELL ADAM TO DO?

NOT ONLY TO, "DRESS THE GARDEN," BUT HE WAS TOLD, "TO KEEP IT."

HE WAS TOLD TO KEEP IT.

AND THAT WORD KEEP MEANS HE IS TO GUARD IT.

THE HUSBAND IS TO SHIELD HIS FAMILY, HE'S TO GUARD

HIS FAMILY, HE'S TO DEFEND HIS FAMILY.

I WANT TO SAY THAT MEN ARE TO PROTECT THEIR FAMILIES.

THE HUSBANDS IS THE PROVIDER, HE IS THE PROTECTOR

AND THE HUSBAND IS THE PASTOR OF THE HOME.

THIS V

ERSE GOES ON TO SAY THAT, "HUSBANDS ARE TO DWELL

WITH WIVES ACCORDING TO KNOWLEDGE THAT, THAT THEIR PRAYERS

BE NOT HINDERED."

WHOSE PRAYERS IS HE TALKING ABOUT?

WELL, I, HE, MAYBE TALKING ABOUT THE PRAYER OF HUSBAND

AND WIFE TOGETHER, BUT BEYOND A SHADOW OF ANY DOUBT,

HE'S TALKING ABOUT THE PRAYER OF THE MAN OF GOD.

DO YOU KNOW WHAT MY JOB, MY ASSIGNMENT FROM GOD IS?

MY ASSIGNMENT FROM GOD IS TO LOVE JOYCE AS CHRIST

LOVED THE CHURCH.

AND HOW DOES JESUS LOVE THE CHURCH?

THE BIBLE SAYS THAT HE LOVED IT THIS WAY.

THAT HE GAVE HIMSELF FOR IT, "THAT HE MIGHT PRESENT IT

TO HIMSELF A GLORIOUS CHURCH WITHOUT SPOT OR WRINKLE

OR ANY SUCH THING." DO YOU KNOW SPOTS ARE?

THAT'S DEFILEMENT.

I AM TO KEEP MY WIFE FROM DEFILEMENT.

DO YOU KNOW WHAT WRINKLES ARE?

DO YOU KNOW WHAT A WRINKLE IS?

IT'S AN INWARD SCAR.

DO YOU KNOW WHY WOMEN HAVE SUCH TENSION IN THEIR LIVES?

BECAUSE THEIR HUSBANDS HAVE NOT LOVED THEM

AS THE HUSBAND OUGHT TO LOVE THEM.

HAVE YOU EVER, HAVE YOU EVER WALKED UP TO SSS, A WOMAN

AND SEEN THAT TENSION ON HER FACE?

MANY TIMES THE HUSBAND PUT IT THERE.

MANY TIMES, UH, HE HAS NOT REMOVED THOSE,

UH, THOSE INWARD SCARS BY HIS LOVE.

MY CHIEF ASSIGNMENT FROM GOD IS TO MAKE JOYCE A MORE RADIANTLY,

BEAUTIFUL CHRISTIAN.

I AM, I HAVE THIS GOD GIVEN ASSIGNMENT: I AM TO BE PROVIDER,

PROTECTOR AND PASTOR IN THE HOME.

NOT BECAUSE I'M A PASTOR; IF I, IF I WERE A LAWYER

OR BUSINESSMAN OR WHATEVER, IT'S STILL MY ASSIGNMENT

TO BE THE PASTOR IN THE HOME.

I'M TO SAY, "AS FOR ME AND MY HOUSE, WE'LL SERVE THE LORD."

NOW FOLKS, THIS IS JUST THE DESIGN.

THIS IS NOT HOW TO HAVE INTIMACY.

WE'RE GOING TO GET TO HOW TO HAVE INTIMACY

IN THE NEXT SEVERAL MESSAGES.

BUT WHAT I'M TRYING TO DO TODAY, IS JUST TO LAY DOWN

THE DIVINE DESIGN FOR YOU TO SEE WHAT GOD SAYS

THAT A WIFE IS TO BE;

WHAT GOD SAYS THAT A HUSBAND IS TO BE.

NOW IF YOU DON'T AGREE WITH WHAT GOD SAYS

THERE IN FIRST PETER, DON'T COME AND TALK TO ME ABOUT IT,

JUST TELL GOD ABOUT IT. OKAY?

JUST SAY, "GOD, YOU'RE WRONG ABOUT THIS."

BUT DON'T COME TO ME ABOUT IT.

NOW IF I'VE MISINTERPRETED THE SCRIPTURE,

YOU COME TO ME AND SAY, "YOU DIDN'T SAY IT JUST RIGHT.

YOU DIDN'T READ IT RIGHT, YOU DIDN'T INTERPRET IT RIGHT

AND HERE'S WHERE YOU CAN BE MORE CORRECT."

BUT DON'T COME TO ME AND SAY, "THIS IS WHAT GOD SAYS,

BUT I DON'T AGREE WITH IT."

BECAUSE I'M NOT GOING TO CHANGE AND GOD'S

NOT GOING TO CHANGE. YOU'RE THE ONE NEEDS TO CHANGE.

AND IF YOU WANT TO HAVE A, A GODLY HOME, GO BACK AND READ

THE DIRECTIONS. GOD HAS A PLAN.

NOW LET ME JUST WRAP THIS UP BY SAYING THIS, YOU CANNOT HAVE

A CHRISTIAN HOME WITHOUT HAVING CHRISTIANS,

ANYMORE THAN YOU COULD HAVE A CHERRY PIE WITHOUT CHERRIES.

AND IF YOU WANT GOD IN YOUR HOME, THEN YOU'VE GOT TO GIVE

YOUR HEART TO GOD.

LET'S BOW OUR HEADS IN PRAYER.

HEADS ARE BOWED AND EYES ARE CLOSED.

NO ONE STIRRING AND NO ONE LOOKING AROUND.

LORD GOD, I PRAY TODAY THAT MANY WILL GIVE THEIR HEARTS

TO JESUS AND BE SAVED.

AND I PRAY DEAR GOD, THAT THOSE OF US WHO ARE SAVED WILL BEGIN

TO READ YOUR WORD AND TO BUILD OUR HOMES SOLIDLY ON YOUR WORD.

IN THE NAME OF JESUS, AMEN.

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LOVE WORTH FINDING IS HERE TO STRENGTHEN CHRISTIANS

IN THEIR FAITH AND TO REACH OUT TO THOSE WHO MAY NOT KNOW

JESUS THROUGH PLAINSPOKEN, BIBLICAL WISDOM AND TEACHING

OF ADRIAN ROGERS.

IF, AFTER LISTENING TO TODAY'S MESSAGE, YOU HAVE A QUESTION,

A SPIRITUAL NEED, WANT SOME STUDY HELPS OR JUST HAVE A DESIRE

TO KNOW JESUS, PLEASE CONTACT US AT THE NUMBER LISTED ON YOUR SCREEN

OR AT LWF.ORG.

NOW, WITH A SPECIAL MESSAGE HERE'S PASTOR ROGERS.

ADRIAN: WE'VE BEEN TALKING ABOUT LOVE, LET ME GIVE YOU A

GREAT

VERSE ON LOVE.

"FOR GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD THAT HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON

THAT WHOSOEVER BELIEVETH IN HIM SHOULD NOT PERISH

BUT SHOULD HAVE EVERLASTING LIFE."

IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT, EVERLASTING LIFE?

WELL IT COMES FROM THE LOVE OF GOD, SHOWN IN JESUS CHRIST,

WHO STEPPED OUT OF HEAVEN, CAME TO THIS EARTH,

SUFFERED, BLED AND DIED UPON THE CROSS THAT OUR SINS MIGHT BE FORGIVEN,

THAT WE MIGHT HAVE A HOME IN HEAVEN.

WOULD YOU LIKE TO RECEIVE HIM?

WOULD YOU LIKE TO INVITE HIM INTO YOUR HEART RIGHT NOW?

WHY DON'T YOU WAY, "LORD JESUS, THANK YOU FOR DYING FOR ME,

THANK YOU FOR LOVING ME.

COME INTO MY HEART, INTO MY LIFE AND BEGIN NOW TO MAKE ME

THE PERSON YOU WANT ME TO BE."

PRAY IT AND MEAN IT.

AND IF YOU DO, WRITE TO US AND LET US KNOW; WE'LL REJOICE WITH YOU

AND SEND YOU SOME LITERATURE TO HELP YOU

TO GET STARTED IN YOUR CHRISTIAN LIFE.

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WE HOPE THAT TODAY'S MESSAGE HAS BEEN A BLESSING

TO YOU.

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NEXT WEEK, JOIN US AS WE CONTINUE IN OUR SERIES, "ONE LORD, ONE LOVE,"

AS PASTOR ROGERS ADDRESSES THE DIFFERENCES

BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN THROUGH THE LENSE OF GOD'S WORD.

ADRIAN: I WANT TO ASK YOU A QUESTION. [SILENCE]

WHO IS BETTER; THE MAN OR THE WOMAN?

THE ANSWER TO THAT QUESTION IS YES. [SILENCE]

A MAN IS INFINITLY SUPERIOR TO A WOMAN AT BEING A MAN.

AND A WOMAN IS INFINITLY SUPERIOR TO A MAN

AT BEING A WOMAN.

GOD MADE US DIFFERENT THAT HE MIGHT MAKE US ONE.

JOIN US NEXT TIME FOR, "CELEBRATE THE DIFFERENCE."

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THANKS FOR JOINING US TODAY.

WE'LL SEE YOU NEXT WEEK.

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