Waching daily Jan 3 2019

hi Saar here and in this Sign of Life video I'm going to tell you why you can't stop being selfish

I want you to think of someone you know who's

selfish.

Do you have someone in mind?

I assume you don't admire that person, right?

In her book 'The Virtue of Selfishness' Ayn Rand wrote the following: "In popular usage

the word selfishness is a synonym of evil."

And you know what?

She has a point I mean we all find someone else's selfishness

infuriating or upsetting.

But I want you to think about it for just a few seconds - why does it actually bother you?

Well, let me tell you this: it's not because you care about the greater good.

It's because you care about yourself, first and foremost.

Surprise! you are selfish too!

But wait, don't get upset.

As Ayn Rand wisely wrote the problem isn't with being selfish as much as it is with our

perception of it.

Selfish - lacking consideration for other people; concerned chiefly with one's own personal

profit or pleasure.

Think about it, the first part of this dictionary definition really dictates our perception

of the word 'selfish' and we've got it all wrong.

Being concerned with your own profit doesn't mean you lack consideration for others.

But on the other hand, being concerned mainly with other's personal pleasure means you lack

consideration for yourself.

I want you to listen very carefully now - being selfish isn't a choice.

It's a given.

It's actually goes deep down into the very core of our existence - we want to survive

which is possibly the ultimate selfish act.

And that's totally fine.

Like all other animals, we are wired to put ourselves first.

I want to share something personal with you - some years ago, I had a traumatic incident.

Someone attacked me, viciously.

He punched me straight in the face and kicked me several times while shouting "I'm going

to kill you."

This person was my neighbor.

He is my parents' age and he had known me since I was a toddler but that didn't stop

him from being so violent.

And while he was punching me I noticed another neighbor standing close by, watching the whole thing.

A week later that neighbor came to see me and he said: "I don't know what happened to me.

I wanted to help but I just...

I couldn't.

I froze in place.

And while it's hard to accept this, and trust me I've had problems accepting this myself

- it's only natural to fear for your own life even when you see someone else in need.

Let me say this out loud: I try to be as selfish as I can.

Yes, you heard right.

Being selfish should be an aspiration.

And sure, you can definitely put others first and do things for them but here's the catch:

You simply won't have time or energy left for yourself.

But if you let go of the common misconception of selfishness and put yourself first, not

only you're going to be able to fulfill yourself, but you're also going to be able to help others

in a more concrete way.

On Medium, where I publish my articles, There's a whole section called: 'Self.'

Yet most people still don't want to be called 'Self-centred'

It's because of the way we portray it - it's one of those twisted moral high ground of

ours.

That's why saying "I'm happy with my life" is conceived as bragging.

With my articles and my videos, I'm always encouraging people to be a little more self-centred.

And there's nothing wrong with that.

You see, I truly want to help others live a more fulfilled life but even this desire

comes from within so it's fair to say that it's a selfish act.

And there's absolutely no shame in that.

I'm fulfilling myself by helping and guiding you through your own fulfillment.

It's not a contradiction - it's a perfect loop of selfishness.

But ultimately, it's up to you to be consumed with your self-fulfillment journey.

To be fanatic about it.

To be selfish.

After all, that's why it's called: self-fulfillment.

The moral message of this video is that we can't keep misusing the word selfish because

otherwise we will never allow ourselves to be selfish.

What we need is a better word or phrase to define those who don't care about others at all.

If you have any suggestions please share them in the comments section below.

I'd like to finish by saying this: don't be just a little selfish every now and then.

Be really selfish.

Ask yourself whether you're helping others but not helping yourself.

Ask yourself if you're actively pursuing fulfillment and finally don't be afraid to be called selfish.

Thank you for watching, if you want to learn more about this video's topic - you can find

a link below to my article on Medium.

As always, hit all the right buttons if you want to support Sign of Life and don't forget:

it's never too late to fulfill yourself.

For more infomation >> This Is Why You Can't Stop Being Selfish - Duration: 4:57.

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'The Blacklist's Hisham Tawfiq: Season 6 Is A 'Whole Different Dynamic' — Dembe's 'On His Own' - New - Duration: 3:18.

'The Blacklist' is switching things up in season 6. With Red going to jail, where does this leave Dembe? Hisham Tawfiq spoke with HL EXCLUSIVELY about the evolution of his character.

The Blacklist is kicking off season 6 with a two-night premiere on Jan. 3 and Jan. 4 on NBC. Hisham Tawfiq, who plays Red's right-hand man Dembe, stopped by HollywoodLife to talk about his character in season 6. The season 6 preview has revealed that Red is going to be behind bars. Hisham revealed that the new season is going to feature Dembe stepping out of Red's shadow and on his own.

"All throughout the seasons, you've seen Dembe hand-in-hand with Red," Hisham told HollywoodLife. "I think only one time when I supposedly poisoned him, you saw me out doing some things on my own. What I think is interesting about this season with Red being locked up is you're going to see Dembe hitting the streets, going out there on his own, and doing these things that can kind of help his case as far as getting him out of jail. You're going to see more of Dembe kind of rolling around by himself, doing a lot of things that Red usually does."

Hisham noted that there's a "huge difference" between season 6 and the past seasons because of Red being in jail. "The first 5 seasons are predicated on Red being out and helping the task force," Hisham continued. "It's a whole different dynamic with him being locked up. Things can't operate the way that they used to. It sets such a stage for things to happen and things to unfold that have never been seen before."

Last season dropped the bombshell that Red is not really Raymond Reddington, and Liz Keen knows about it. Liz is one step ahead of Red this time around. With Red being locked up and Dembe and Liz on the outside, these two characters will be interacting more this season. "This is the first season where Dembe and Liz have some conversations," Hisham said. "The last time Dembe and Liz had a conversation was the season where Red was in this plastic bubble wrap, I think he had just gotten shot, and I told Liz, 'Go to his house, get this key.' That was the last time I had a conversation with Liz. In season 6, we have numerous conversations which is pretty cool to do ad II think it's going to shed some light on where Dembe's mindset is. He's conflicted with seeing her trying to get these answers, Red is locked up so now she comes to me and we have these conversations." After the two-night premiere, The Blacklist season 6 will air Fridays at 9 p.m.