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Homemade Natural Talcum Powder For Men & Women (No Talc & 100 % Safe) - Smells Amazing! - Duration: 3:40.

Hi friends, this is Ramya from wildturmeric. I am very very excited to share

a wonderful talcum powder recipe for body for both men and women. This talcum

powder is very gentle to be used even on the most sensitive skin. It smells

amazing, is smooth and silky and is 100% natural without any side effects.

This talcum powder when used underarms acts as a natural deodorant

due to its high absorbent properties. Many people are allergic to store-bought

deodorants which can lead to under arm darkening, for them natural talcum powders

like this is a good option. Usually talcum powder are made by mixing talcum

which is hydrated magnesium silicate with corn flour and synthetic fragrance. Here I have

used china clay which is one of the mildest natural clays available. I tried

two recipes, one for men using sandalwood scent and another for women using rose

scent. Both came out very good. Please give this recipe a try,

I am 100 percent sure, you will love it as much as I do.

The first ingredient we need for the recipe is corn flour. Corn flour absorbs moisture and a silky

smooth so it is always used in talcum powder we

can get confluent all the department is Towson India the second ingredient we

need is rose petal powder or sandalwood powder make it rose petal powder in all

the herb shops in India try to buy organic rose petal powder for best

results if you're making it at home collect fresh rose petals and Sun try

them till cress once and I tell Chris grind in a dry mixer I even use four men

sandalwood powder is a very good option the third ingredient we need is coal in

clay also called as china clay it's a very very fine and lightly that has

natural absorbent and cleansing properties it is the mildest of all

place and does not try out the skin at all it is hard to get good quality china

clean shops in India unusually outer tone line and I'll leave the link for

the one that I use in the description box below the final in

vanitas rose essential oil or Sanford essential oil both these essential oils

have antiseptic properties so they greatly help prevent skin infection in

body order to make the powder take two tablespoons of corn flan a bowl adding a

tablespoon of kaolin clay to it adding a teaspoon of rose petal powder or

sandalwood powder to finally I had in five to six drops of rose essential oil

or sandalwood essential oil now mix well with a spoon if there are any lumps

sieve the mixture and store in an airtight box away from moisture this

powder certainly smooth and smells really really wonderful

I would suggest making small batches so the smell remains fresh though you can

use this powder for children I'll share an even more milder body powder for them

soon I would highly suggest substituting store water compadre with this neutral

body powder this powder does not spoil if stored away from moisture but the

smell start fading if stored for too long I hope you found this video useful

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 Manchester United arrived at the stadium for last night's Champions League group stage match with Valencia just 45 minutes before the scheduled 8pm kick-off

 But the players only began their warm-up at around 7.40pm. It meant the match was delayed by five minutes

 After the game, Mourinho was asked about their late arrival and claimed the police "refused" to offer an escort

 "We left the hotel at six o'clock, hoping that 30 minutes would be enough," he said

 "Which normally is but this time the police refused to do an escort so we come by ourselves

 "And we took from the Lowry Hotel, 75 minutes. "And Uefa were nice, the referee was nice to allow us to start the game five minutes later because we at least need half an hour to be prepared but was not a problem with the club organisation

 "We anticipate everything that it could be dangerous, in the sense of arriving late but we were informed the police refused an escort

" But GMP have now responded to Mourinho and revealed they had spoken to United months in advance

 GMP's Silver Commander, Chief Insp Andy Sutcliffe, said: "All police deployments are carried out following a comprehensive risk assessment process and specifically in respect of escort team buses, are only ever undertaken on occasions when there is intelligence or information to suggest a risk of threat or harm to the players

 "GMP has previously used police vehicles to accompany a team's coach but after a review of our core policing responsibilities, it was decided that we would no longer provide this service at every fixture

 "We consulted with the relevant football clubs over a period of months to allow them adequate time to plan ahead for their journeys to the stadium

 "Every fixture is assessed individually and we will continue to work with all clubs to provide an appropriate policing response

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NDIS Vision For a Plan - Jan Kruger - Duration: 16:02.

[Music Plays]

Thank you for inviting me Deb and, yeah, I hope what I have to share is helpful.

So this is my family, so as Deb mentioned, we're from Canberra but we haven't

always lived in Canberra. We used to live in northern New South Wales on a

property, but when my husband decided to become a teacher he dragged me to

Canberra to..., to live, but it's been wonderful. So my three daughters here, my

eldest Heidi, she's having a break from university and exploring her options.

Annie is..., sorry, Heidi's 21 and Annie is 19, and she's at the University at the moment in Canberra,

and Lily is in year 10 at the local school, and Jack is the reason I'm here

talking today, because Jack happens to have a disability and has moved into the

NDIS scheme a couple of years ago. And of course, my gorgeous husband, the

one that dragged me to Canberra. Yeah, so that's a little bit about who my

family are.

[Audience Question] How old is Jack?

So Jack's 14, he's in year 9 and he's a downhill skier, he's a drummer

he's a friend, and he's a soccer player. So he joined the local soccer club when

we moved to Canberra, when Jack was about four, and he's been playing ever since,

and we've had our ups and downs, our good years and bad years, but he's very much

part of that community. So we make sure that Jack has a lot of different

experiences. We want him to have a life similar to his sister's where, you know,

they've also experienced a lot over the years, particularly you know, going

through school and doing things outside of the school,

you know, that's, you know, what Deb often talks about is 'life tasting', because

that's how we're going to find out where Jack's niche is

and where he can find success, and build relationships with people. So, yeah, he's

probably not doing a lot of those things now, but he's moved on to a whole new lot of

experiences since I put that slide together, so. But what sort of helped

us in, you know, helping Jack try a lot of different things - and it's not just a

matter of just going along once to something and thinking, 'that didn't

really work, we won't worry about that, he didn't seem that interested.'

It's actually really, you know, sticking it out for a good term or something to...,

and doing all we can to help Jack feel successful, because he's got a lot of

pride. He is a teenager and he wants to feel successful, and

probably like a lot of other teenagers, he thinks he's got to be good at it

from the get-go, and so helping him understand that, you know, everyone's

learning, you're not going to be brilliant at whatever you do the first

time you do it, so, sticking with it. So what led us to doing this is having a

really clear vision, and I liked this, that think big and don't listen to

people who tell you it can't be done, life's too short to think small. And I

think that, you know, we may not even be thinking big enough for Jack, but it is

really important, as a parent, to think big for Jack otherwise he's going to

be very limited in his experiences, and we certainly don't want that for him. So

some key guiding principles, I guess, for our vision for Jack, is to hold really

positive relationships and when we talk about positive relationships, we're

thinking about even the acquaintances that he has at the local shops. So we

make sure that Jack's very well known; all the butchers

at the local shops - I don't know whether many of you know Canberra very well but

it has a lot of little hubs, like community hubs, and shopping centres so

we've got a butcher's, an IGA,

a bakery, a local cafe, and Jack's actually well known by name in all of

those, and it is actually kept him safe on numerous occasions - he's quite an

adventurous soul and when people are know Jack and look out for him they have

kept him safe. We've even had a few phone calls from the people in the IGA

occasionally saying, "Jack's just here by himself and we're just wondering if that's

okay?", that was a few years ago, and it's just so lovely to know that, you know,

people in the community are looking out for him.

Now he's more than happy to go to the shops by himself, being a 14 year old,

and that's all good. But that's being known in the community and being valued.

So we make sure that Jack's being seen as holding valued roles. So sometimes we

we're quite intentional about, you know, Jack going into the shops in his soccer

uniform so people see him as a soccer player, or, in his school uniform so they

see that he goes to the local school and not a special school. So it's just trying

to shift, you know, some mindsets and myths around, in particular, Jack's

disability and seeing the person that he is. So we definitely want him

contributing, we often hear about, you know, we want people to participate and

communicate in the community..., contribute in the community, but we believe the way

Jack can do that, and we all do that, is through socially valued roles. So we're

always on the lookout of where Jack can be participating through roles that are

valued in the community. So we also really make sure that Jack's

following an ordinary rhythm of life and, you know, it's very lucky that we've got...,

he's got three older sisters that help us stay true to that. So we look at what

their rhythm of life is, like, what do they usually do during the day and

Jack's not doing things at a bizarre time where

nobody around. We make sure that he's going to soccer when all the other 14

year-olds are going to soccer and he, you know, will go to the shops when other

people go to the shops and be seen like hanging out at the shops after

school is when all the other 14 year-olds are there, and that's when we

try and make sure that Jack's there too. Because that's where we find that sense

of belonging that we all want and, you know, it's through relationships that we

find that sense of belonging. So that's very, you know, a very strong guiding

principle of ours for Jack's life. So Jack's vision is our guide and

you might be wondering why I'm talking about the vision but it has actually

been instrumental in moving into the NDIS scheme and we've made sure

that Jack's vision defines his needs rather than the needs define our vision

otherwise it's going to be very small if we do that. It's been our compass, so we

always go back to those guiding principles and to make sure that Jack is

leading a typical life like his sister's, his cousin, and his peers, that don't have

a disability and it provides us with a clear direction. It keeps us focused when

there's a lot of decisions to be made and I think you'll find that that's the

case when you move into the NDIS scheme. There are a lot of decisions to be made

and if you've got those guiding principles that you can keep falling

back to, it will help you make the decision that's going to get you closer

to your goals and dreams for the future. And it's always evolving, you know, things

change as you grow older and therefore you could be writing..., we write a vision

statement as well as the guiding principles and that's always evolving

because Jack's, you know, life is always changing and his

interests are always evolving as well. We also make sure that Jack owns the vision.

It's not just us coming up with it without Jack being involved. So we do

this by really helping Jack notice what's going on in the communities. So

being 14..., when we make sure that he is thinking about his future, particularly

around employment and where he's going to live, so he often talks about where

he's going to live. He's going to move in with his cousin when he leaves school and, you

know, I have to be careful about that because I reckon he's gonna want to do

that the next day. So yeah..., but at the moment, he's very keen on being a

businessman. He's been talking about being a lifeguard for a number of years

now and helping him understand what are the responsibilities and the tasks

involved in being a lifeguard; it's not just, you know, enforcing the rules of the

pool, you know. there's other jobs that go along with it as well. Being a waiter

at the local cafe - there..., it is a cafe..., I don't if any of you know Tilly's, but

there's probably only one man employed at Tilley's and I think he's got his eye

on that job, so watch out Josh. And being a university student he actually just

presented to some occupational therapists the other day and so just

being in around the university life he's, you know, thinking that looks pretty good

so we're working hard towards that, and yes, that has raised a few questions, when

we talk about Jack going to university, but it's not 'pie in the sky'. It does

happen at Sydney University, it may happen here, I'm not sure, but people with

an intellectual disability are attending University and well-supported to do

so. So we're trying to work with the universities at the moment in painting

the way for Jack. So, yeah, he talks about living by the beach also having a family,

getting married. So there was a time there for

that he didn't think getting married was a good idea, he was quite happy to live

by himself, but he's come back around now that, yeah, actually having a nice

relationship with a lady would be great company, and something that he

dreams of just just like everybody else. So you probably can't read that but, I'm

a bit long-winded, and this is sort of the vision statement that we come up

with each year, and it changes and evolves every year. We've just started

homeschooling Jack this year so that certainly tipped it on its head and we

had to be very intentional about how we could help Jack be fully embedded in the

community where he can still be building relationships, even if he wasn't going to

school for the moment. And this is what we've used to really guide our thinking

in crafting goals for the future, for the NDIS scheme, and it's been really really

powerful in doing that. So in getting started on developing a vision sometimes I...,

like we didn't have one written down until Jack was about eight and sometimes

you need a catalyst to do that and we found the catalyst for us was when

Jack was playing soccer one year and the coach didn't particularly value his

contribution to the team and play Jack as an extra, much to our horror, and, you

know, he didn't even really sub him on and off he just said "Oh he just comes on

and off whenever he feels like it." Now, that just sent massive messages, not only

to us, or the team, or the opposition, but particularly to Jack and he was, you know,

really starting to, you know, move away from wanting to play and didn't really

feel valued at all because, of course, he wasn't by his coach. So it almost was

the tipping point for us to think - actually, he just can't do this anymore,

this has been dreadful - but we use that experience to think - well, okay, that's a

horrible experience, how could..., what..., what would it take for Jack to be fully

valued and a contributing team member for..., for the following year, and what

would we need in a coach - So we really went after looking for that coach the

following year, but in the meantime that was the catalyst for us to actually

write down a vision statement for Jack and..., because, then we could share it more

easily with people without friends and and with the coach for the following

year. So I'm pleased to say that we did find a fabulous coach the next year and,

you know, Jack just oozed confidence after having him..., after having his

guidance for the year and we've had great coaches ever since but, you know,

you have to go looking for them and don't just expect they're going to land

in your lap, and work really closely with a coach to make sure Jack's fully

involved. So if you haven't got your vision statement written down..., I just

put..., I mean, look, there's some vision statements out there..., I know that Marg and

Jeremy Ward, for their daughter Mina, had just one line; for Mina to be a valued

member of her community. It was something along those lines but every single one of

those words, they knew exactly what it meant and whoever was involved in Mina's

life, they knew exactly what that meant. So it's..., you've got to own it. You can't

just write something down and..., and use the rhetoric, like many services do, that

we want an inclusive life but then actually don't follow..., you know, walk the

talk. So I've just got some some ideas here

from Janet Klees. If you haven't started writing down a vision statement, that

might, sort of, help guide your thinking because it's..., it is really powerful

to have it written down. It helps you get it clearer in your own mind as well, where

you're heading, and so I would highly recommend it.

[Music Plays]

[Music Fades]

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Raising Safety Awareness for Children with Autism - Emotional Interview with Mom Who Lost Her Child - Duration: 26:58.

Mary Barbera: Hi everyone.

It's Dr. Mary Barbera here, and I am thrilled to have Melissa here with me.

Melissa is a former client's mom, and I worked with her little bit Braden when he was two

and three years old back in 2010 I believe.

And tragically, Braden drowned three years ago, and we are going to talk about that because

I wanna highlight some of the safety issues that are just really a concern for kids with

autism.

And you know, Melissa has been telling her story since the tragic incident and losing

her son.

Mary Barbera: But before we get into the aspects of safety and things, I'm gonna ask Melissa

to tell us about Braden, and tell us about like his development, when she started noticing

signs of autism, and then we'll go on to talk about the tragic drowning and also some safety

advice that Melissa could give us all to make our kids safer.

Mary Barbera: So why don't you tell me about Braden and you know, what year he was born,

and how his development was?

Melissa: Okay.

Braden was born in December of 2008, and he was perfectly healthy when he was born.

He hit all of his milestones up til about, I would say, 15 months.

Around that time we started noticing he stopped making eye contact.

He did not respond when we called him.

He didn't like to be touched, he didn't want to have his diaper changed, he stopped playing

with his toys.

Instead of actually playing with his trucks he would line them up.

Melissa: And it actually took my mom to say something is wrong for me to realize there's

something wrong.

I was in complete denial.

Mary Barbera: And this was your first child?

Melissa: It was.

It was.

Mary Barbera: And you don't have an education background and ...

Melissa: Correct.

All of my, you know, infant/toddler experience was from babysitter and my younger brothers

and sisters.

But as a mom, I didn't want to think something's wrong with my baby.

So, we eventually had him evaluated, and he was diagnosed with autism.

He had lost all of his speech.

Mary Barbera: At what age was this?

Melissa: He was diagnosed three weeks before his second birthday.

So it took me about six months or so to actually come to grips with the fact that something

was wrong.

But after he was diagnosed, I dove in, I got all the books.

I got your book.

Not even knowing who you were.

And I read everything online, and I said I'm gonna do whatever I can to get my baby better.

Melissa: So, that's when we were paired up with you.

Mary Barbera: So, he remained nonvocal for four years.

Melissa: Up until his death, yes.

Mary Barbera: Up until his death he did not speak at all.

Melissa: No.

Maybe once or twice he would say, "No."

I know I remember one time he said, "Out."

He wanted to go outside.

But no mama, no dada, no nothing.

Mary Barbera: Yeah.

So, along the way from when he was diagnosed at two until he was six, did you have a lot

of safety concerns with Braden?

Melissa: Yes.

Braden had zero concerns for safety.

He had no safety awareness.

He would touch hot things, he burned his hand on light bulbs a couple times.

Mary Barbera: Burned to the point where you had to-

Melissa: Like blister.

Mary Barbera: Okay.

You didn't have to seek treatment about it?

Melissa: Not ... No, no, no.

Mary Barbera: But you constantly had to be worried about him touching hot things?

Melissa: Yes.

Running into the street when we were out in public.

And we found that Braden did not respond to the word, "Stop," at all.

You could scream it, you could yell it.

Did not matter.

But if you said, "Give me your hand," he would stop, come to you, and hold your hand.

So you know, that took trial and error.

Melissa: But I remember when Braden's team would come to the house, they would come in,

and I would close the door and lock, lock, lock all the locks.

And everyone would laugh at me and say, you know, "It's like Fort Knox in here."

Melissa: And I tell them, "It's not to keep the bad guys out.

It's to keep Braden in."

You know, because he was- Mary Barbera: Did he ever leave the house

before?

Melissa: He did one time at my house.

He went out the back to go play on the sliding board.

Now, I know when he went to his dad's house, he would get out of their house and go play

on the trail behind their old house.

You know, and I would say, "You need to lock all your doors.

You know, put a chain up.

You know, that he can't reach."

Melissa: And we actually even at my house had window alarms, or door alarms, so when

the door would open it would sound so that I knew he was like trying to get out.

But yeah.

Like, he wandered away at Dorney Park one time.

Melissa: He would, if I didn't have my eye on him, or if he wasn't in the cart, he'd

run to the books at Walmart when we would go shopping.

So it was a constant, you had to watch him 24/7.

Mary Barbera: And you had two other children at the time?

Melissa: Correct, yes.

Mary Barbera: So how old were your other kids when he was six?

Melissa: When Braden was six, my daughter Kennedy was two, and Michael was a little

over a year.

Or no, not even a year.

Mary Barbera: Wow.

So you really had your hands full?

Melissa: Yeah.

Mary Barbera: Yeah.

And you and his father were never married?

Melissa: Correct.

Mary Barbera: So he would go to his house sometimes, and stay with you?

Melissa: Yeah.

Every weekend he would go to his father's house to visit, and I had him during the week

so that I could, you know, facilitate school and therapy sessions and everything.

Melissa: Then, in June of 2015, Braden went to his dad's house.

And I got a phone call that Saturday morning that Braden wasn't breathing.

And his dad was in the bathroom, and Braden got out of his bedroom and went downstairs,

and went outside.

And went into the neighbor's yard and either jumped, fell, I don't know what happened,

but ended up drowning.

Mary Barbera: And this was a sunny day?

Melissa: Beautiful.

Mary Barbera: In the middle?

Melissa: In the beginning of June.

Mary Barbera: In the middle of the day or the morning?

Melissa: It was probably around noon that I got the call.

Mary Barbera: Yeah.

And how?

I mean, you must've been ... Did you know he drowned at that point?

Melissa: Shocked?

Yes.

Mary Barbera: Okay.

Melissa: I had finally gotten, because his dad said, you know, "Braden's not breathing."

And I was like, "Well what happened?"

And the first thing is you don't believe it.

You know, it's like, "Stop.

Stop playing with me.

This isn't funny."

And then I heard the panic and the worry in his dad's voice, and I knew that this was

real.

Melissa: And you know, you hear people say, you know, "I would die if anything happened

to my child," and that's almost what it feels like.

Like my heart literally stopped.

You know, I didn't know what do to, you know?

Melissa: So I rushed to the hospital, and I saw his dad sitting there on the floor crying,

and I knew.

Because at the time that his dad had called me, he wasn't pronounced dead yet.

So the whole way to the hospital, I had this, you know, this doesn't happen to me.

You know.

I'm a normal person.

You know?

Mary Barbera: He's gonna start breathing and it's gonna-

Melissa: Right.

He's gonna be fine, I'm gonna go.

He's gonna have to stay in the hospital for a couple days, they're gonna monitor him.

Everything's gonna be okay.

And I go in, and I see his dad.

And I realize that that's not the case.

Melissa: And then, I think I cycled through all of the stages of grief within 20 minutes,

because I started screaming at his dad.

You know, "You had one job.

Your one job was to bring him home to me safe on Sunday nights.

That's all you had to do.

I didn't care what happened, what you did, just bring him back to me."

Melissa: And then, you know, sit there and you think of all the things that you did wrong.

You know.

How many times did I force him to eat french fries that I made at home?

You know, how many times did I tell him to stop flapping, and stop spinning, and don't

throw, and don't line things up.

I didn't know.

I didn't have that, you know, a lot of time.

Melissa: You know, if I would have known that I only had six and a half years, maybe I wouldn't

have been so hard on him.

You know?

And you have that guilt.

Mary Barbera: You were good.

I mean, you were a great mom.

And his dad was a great dad.

I know his dad too, and it's not like, you know ... You were great parents.

And you were young.

Melissa: Thank you.

Mary Barbera: And you weren't married, but you were great.

You were both great.

And I do remember that.

Melissa: Thank you.

Mary Barbera: And so, you know, it's just a tragic accident.

And you know, you think of the times when he got away from you at Dorney Park, or when

the street, and it could've- Melissa: This could have been so, you know,

it could have been on my watch, you know?

Mary Barbera: Right.

Right.

Easily.

Anybody's watch.

Melissa: And then, you know, I felt bad for making his dad feel bad, because he was already

feeling horrible enough.

Mary Barbera: I can't imagine.

Melissa: You know.

You know, and then they let me in his room, and he looked like a little angle with his

cute full lips, and it's just ... It's hard.

It's really hard.

Now, it's been three years now, and I'm finally getting to the point where I can talk about

it and not break down.

Melissa: But you know, I find that it's, you know, the little things.

Like my son Michael had pretzels the other day.

And he came up and gave me a kiss.

And he had pretzel breath.

And that just triggered Braden always had pretzel breath.

You know?

So I had a little meltdown there.

Mary Barbera: Right?

So, and you had to keep going, because you had your two-year-old and a one-year-old.

Melissa: They didn't allow me to curl up in a ball and, you know, cry myself in bed all

day.

You know, I had to get up.

I had to pursue, to keep going.

Take care of the little ones.

Mary Barbera: And, you know, find some purpose, and you know.

You've been vocal about your story.

Melissa: Yeah.

And that's what I want to do.

I want to make everyone aware that it does happen to you.

It can happen to you.

You know?

I'm just a mom.

You know?

I'm just a mom.

Melissa: Things on TV and movies can happen.

You know?

You spend that extra 10, 15 minutes in the bathroom looking on Facebook, you know sharing

memes with your friends, things are happening.

You know?

And that's what happened with Braden.

Melissa: His dad went to the bathroom, took longer than he probably should have, and Braden

got out of the house.

Mary Barbera: And as they grow, a six-year-old, you know.

And they have the cognitive and language ability of less than a two-year-old.

They have no safety awareness.

But they physically, they can do more.

They can climb up on a chair, they can climb, you know, they can jump in a pool.

You know.

Mary Barbera: He always loved water, too.

Melissa: He did.

He did.

Mary Barbera: And the neighbors were not home, and they had a pool, and they had a fence

and a gate, but the gate was ajar?

Melissa: Unlocked.

Unlocked.

Mary Barbera: Unlocked?

Melissa: Yes.

Mary Barbera: Had he ever been swimming there before?

Melissa: No.

They had just moved to that house a couple months prior.

And I don't think that they were you know, friends with the neighbors to have Braden

swim.

I don't know how Braden knew there was a pool there.

You know, there are so many questions about that day that I don't know.

Melissa: You know, how long was he out of the house before he fell in?

Was he wandering around the neighborhood, and then was like, "Hey, look.

There's a pool in there.

I love water."

You know?

Melissa: And the things is when Braden was with me and we were at a pool, I always had

a floaty on him.

In the event that he would fall in a pool, you know?

He would be playing, not swimming, but he'd still have a floaty on because there's the

ladder, and he can climb up, and fall in.

Melissa: And you know, then I had guilt that I never taught him how to swim.

You know, I never taught him how to tread water.

I relied on the floaty.

You know?

And you know, then you think, "Well if he would've just known how to swim he could have

gotten to the side and gotten out."

Melissa: And then its like, "Was he yelling for me?"

You know.

"Was he crying?"

There's so many things that I don't know.

Mary Barbera: Yeah.

And I know that's one of the things that you told me is that you know, one of the safety

things that you would tell people is teach kids to swim.

Melissa: Swimming lessons.

Mary Barbera: You know, and don't rely on floaties because-

Melissa: They're not always gonna have them on.

Mary Barbera: Yeah.

Melissa: And I know Braden loved water.

He would find a glass of water, he would play in it.

I caught him dunking his head in toilets.

Mary Barbera: Oh.

Melissa: Yeah.

Yeah.

Mary Barbera: He really loved water.

Melissa: He'd come out with wet hair, and I'm like, "What."

Mary Barbera: What is happening?

Melissa: And then there's droplets all over the toilet seat, and I'm like, "Braden, thank

gosh that it was flushed," you know?

But he would love the bath tub.

He loved rain.

He loved puddles.

Anything with water, Braden was drawn to.

And you know, I just never imagined that that's what would, you know, end up taking his life.

Something that he loved so much.

Mary Barbera: Right.

Right.

Melissa: But even children less than a year can be taught to calm down, flip on their

back, float, and yell until someone finds them.

Mary Barbera: Yeah.

Melissa: You know, and if I would've taught Braden that, you know, he might still be here

today.

Mary Barbera: Right.

Right.

And you know, typically developing kids, especially if they're under four, you know under five,

they don't just have the awareness of what can happen.

And so it doesn't even have to be just for kids with autism.

You know, little children can drown.

Mary Barbera: And they can drown actually right in front of you.

You can be talking to another parent, and they can be in the baby pool or in the regular

pool, and you're turning your back and chatting.

And they can drown right in front of you.

Melissa: And yeah.

After Braden passed, I did a lot of research on drowning.

Mary Barbera: Okay.

Melissa: And what you see in the movies isn't real.

People aren't flailing, and kicking, and screaming.

Mary Barbera: And yelling.

They slip.

Melissa: No, they slip under and that's it.

It's quite.

Mary Barbera: Silent.

Melissa: And silent.

And painful.

And it's a horrible way to die.

Melissa: So and then I started researching on dry drowning.

How, like if you swallow a lot of water while you're swimming, you can drown-

Mary Barbera: Later.

Melissa: ... hours later.

You know?

And then my two other kids, they love to swim as well.

And they're always, you know.

Mary Barbera: Gulping water?

Melissa: Gulping water.

Mary Barbera: Like, "Stop it!"

Melissa: Yeah.

You can only play in little puddles from now on.

You know?

So then for the rest of the day, I have to make sure they're not dry drowning.

You know, it's just you have to be vigilant and present, and you know with the technology

today, everyone's on their phones, and that's one of the main things besides teaching your

child how to swim.

Melissa: You know, locking your doors is ... Just be present.

Not only for the kid's safety, but you never know what's gonna happen.

And you don't want to look back and be like, "Well I shared all those Pinterest pins and

I missed all of this from my kid's childhood, and now it's gone.

You know, now they're not here."

Mary Barbera: Yeah.

Yeah.

Well, I think Braden, I mean Braden taught me a lot in his short life, and I know the

educators that had him from the time he was three til six really loved him.

Melissa: Yes.

He had a great team, and whoever met Braden loved him.

Mary Barbera: He was like a little angel.

Melissa: He really was.

Mary Barbera: I mean, he had a very cherub looking face, and gorgeous little blond curls,

and blue eyes.

He was gorgeous.

And he was a sweet little boy.

And you know, I think sharing your story and giving us like the awareness.

Because it's not like an incident where, you know, a child leaves the home or leaves the

school.

And this can happen at school, too.

There's been a lot of cases where a child has left the school building and then ended

up drowning.

Mary Barbera: And drowning is a very high risk.

If a child with autism wanders- Melissa: Go to water.

Mary Barbera: ... they are almost always gonna go to water.

And you know, it wasn't a big ... Media didn't follow it.

You know, Braden's situation, it was like- Melissa: Nope.

There was tiny little blurb in the paper and that was in.

And then I decided that I wanted to get the word out.

You know, that we live in Berks County, yeah.

Little towns.

Things like this can happen.

They do happen.

Mary Barbera: Right.

Right.

Right.

And, you know, whether it's a child leaving the house and wandering and getting hit by

a car, or drowning, or you know there's been incidents where, you know, older children

with autism, or even adults with autism have wandered in cold weather.

And yo, they don't have the cognitive ability- Melissa: I'm cold.

Mary Barbera: ... to make decisions about like, "Oh, I should wear shoes before I wander

out of the house.

Or I should have a coat on because it's 30 degrees."

Melissa: Or even know where they live.

Mary Barbera: Yeah.

Melissa: You know, if Braden would've gotten out, I don't know that he could ... Now, he

could take us to Chick-fil-A and Mcdonalds, but I don't know that he would have known

how to get back to my house.

Mary Barbera: Right.

Melissa: You know, and he couldn't speak if someone found him and said, "What's your name?

Where do you live?"

Mary Barbera: And did he have any kind of alert bracelet on?

Melissa: He did not.

We tried that.

He wouldn't keep it on.

We tried it on his shoes.

He didn't want it.

I was actually researching about having him chipped in case he got out.

Mary Barbera: Having a chip actually placed inside his skin?

Melissa: Yes.

Yeah.

Mary Barbera: Okay.

Melissa: Because this was my worst nightmare.

Mary Barbera: Right.

Melissa: But even on my front door, I had a decal, a sticker that said, "Child with

autism.

May not respond to verbal commands."

You know, so I tried to do everything that I could to keep him safe in case, you know,

something would happen.

If the house was burning.

You know, the first responders would know that there's someone in here who has autism,

and you know, they can help easier.

Mary Barbera: Right.

And it's really difficult to watch anybody 24/7.

You know, you just, it's physically impossible.

Melissa: Yeah.

Like I said, I'm a mom.

I have laundry to do.

I have dishes I have to do.

I have to take care of the babies.

You know.

I couldn't watch him 24/7.

But you know, I did whatever I could to keep him safe.

Mary Barbera: Right.

Right.

Right.

So you know, I'm still very, very sorry for your loss.

Melissa: Thank you.

Mary Barbera: And it is just tragic, but you know, I think you telling your story can hopefully

prevent this kind of thing from happening.

Melissa: And that's what I hope.

Mary Barbera: And even if this video provides one child from, you know, drowning.

Or from, you know, wandering away.

And most of my clients have stories, not with this ending fortunately.

I have my own stories.

I mean, Lucas left the house especially at around the age of six to ten, and it's a really

tough age because now, I'm you know, pretty confident that he's not gonna leave.

Melissa: Right.

Mary Barbera: But he went through that phase where ...

Melissa: But like you said, cognitively, they're a toddler.

Physically they can do everything a typical five, six, seven-year-old can do.

You know, and I see people online bash moms who have their kids on leashes out like at

amusement parks.

I would've got a leash, you know?

Mary Barbera: Yep.

Melissa: Anything.

Like they don't know your story.

So if you wanna go get a leash, go get a leash for your kid.

Mary Barbera: I know one of our members in my online courses and community, her name

is Kelsey, and she's a single mom of two boys, that they're both on the spectrum, and before

she found my course, for her older son, she had to have him on a leash and a harness all

the time when he was out in the community.

He was banging his head on hard surfaces, he was running into the street.

Mary Barbera: And luckily through programming, through pairing up the table, and pairing

up the instructional control.

Now Brentley doesn't bang his head at all, and he doesn't need a leash and a harness.

Melissa: Awesome.

Mary Barbera: And so it might be a temporary thing to get a leash and a harness, but there

are safety precautions you can take.

And I kind of like equate it to, you know, putting a gate at the stairs.

Or putting a gate at a room.

It's gonna be a short-term solution while you work on gaining-

Melissa: But it's training them.

You know?

Correct.

Mary Barbera: ... instructional control, and gaining some boundaries.

Because they can't cognitively understand, "Now I need you to stay in this spot."

But if there's a gate there, instead of somebody that keeps going after the outlets.

Get outlet covers, because it's not good for the kid to be like, "Stop touching the outlet.

Stop touching the outlet."

Melissa: Reminding them all the time.

Mary Barbera: Just put a physical block there, then you can be positive with the child.

Then you can, you know, have the boundaries just kind of be there while you try to develop

instructional control, and try to get them talking, and imitating, and you know working

on things like stop in the community, and working on if they come to the end of the

sidewalk, to actually stop.

Mary Barbera: Even though they're not going to be there by themselves hopefully.

Melissa: Right.

And honestly, it's not even, like you want them to know why to stop, but even if they

just stop, you know?

Mary Barbera: Right.

Right.

Right.

And you know, those are the kinds of things that as a child grows older and older, you're

just gonna have to keep working on.

These safety issues aren't gonna be like, "Oh, you work on that when they're six."

And then you're good.

You know?

Melissa: Right.

Mary Barbera: It's like you work on that from toddler, like even touching hot things.

You know?

It's a concern.

Kids can get burned.

They can die that way.

You know, they can choke.

They can, you know, can go into a street.

Like there's just a lot of different ways.

They can fall down the steps because they don't understand, and it's like ...

Melissa: Jumping off of things.

Braden was a jumper.

He was a climber and a jumper.

Mary Barbera: Climber.

Pulling dressers down because they're climbing on that.

You know, so there's secure things you can get for the back of the dresser.

So like, then you're like, "Oh my god!"

You know?

There's just so much.

Melissa: And there's a really fine line of allowing a kid to be a kid.

Like yes, they have autism, they're on the spectrum.

But he was still six.

You know?

I still let him run around and play.

You know, I wasn't hovering constantly.

And there's that fine line of being too protective because they have no safety awareness, and

just allowing them to play and do.

Melissa: They're gonna get Scraped knees.

You know, they're gonna fall.

Mary Barbera: And you know, anything can happen, and on anybody's watch.

So you know, being just aware.

And even though, I mean I'm sure you think about him every day, every minute of every

day.

You know, there's some reminders.

But you know, life, your life goes on, and you are out there trying to make a better

life for yourself or your other two kids, for everyone here by sharing your story.

So I really appreciate you coming today.

Melissa: Thank you.

I appreciate you having me.

Mary Barbera: Yeah.

So, special thanks to Melissa for sharing her story.

And hopefully it will help prevent some safety tragedy from happening.

Melissa: Just be present.

Mary Barbera: That's a good motto.

Melissa: Be present.

Mary Barbera: Well we'll end there.

Thanks again.