decide that you are deserving of your own love it doesn't matter what happened
in the past because the point of power is in the present moment you have the
power to choose in the now it is my deepest wish for you to live a happier
life and to see yourself in a loving way because you deserve your own love and
you truly are loveable hey guys my name is Kristia and welcome back to my
channel so chances are if you're watching this video you might be curious
about this idea of self-love I know it's everywhere you also might be
going through something difficult and you're here on the internet looking for
who wouldn't self-love or how do I change my life then well today I'm here
to talk about what's up love is and how it changed my life and why you need to
cultivate it in order to live a happier life so the first time I've heard of
this phrase self-love was back in 2012 when I was going through a life crisis I
was going through a heartbreak it's a guy that I had a relationship with was
emotionally abusive to me and it was also the same guy whom I thought I was
gonna be ending up with you know married have kids with but turn out I was wrong
but that actually worked out well because or else I would be married to an
emotionally abusive guy so I'm thankful that we broke up but anyway I digress
yeah in some 12 I was going through a series of things beautiful things
painful things I was going through that breakup and I was also alienated from my
family we were going through a big misunderstanding at the time so I was
alienated and I also lost my grandfather at the same year I lost my job as well
long story short I was going through a bunch of painful experiences in 2012 and
one day I had enough of the pain I was like I don't want to change my
life so I scoured the internet on how I changed my life so I stumbled upon this
book by Louise L hay you might know her she is she was r.i.p
she was a great spiritual teacher and I found her book online called you can
heal your life which is an amazing book Here I am going to share with you what
I've learned how self-love helped me changed my life so I think that the book
and started reading it at first I thought it was you know a very
narcissistic idea to love yourself because you know I grew up in a
conservative family and I was taught to belittle myself you know be humble and
all that and to not have my needs met when I learned about this idea of
self-love it was really weird to me but you know I already lost everything at
that time so what else could I lose if I follow this principle caller this
teaching it was hard at first I started to see myself in a loving way by being
kind to myself it's hard to treat myself in a better way
instead of depriving myself I would let myself and go for something that I want
which was fun and also at the same time was hard because I wasn't used to it to
me self-love is more than just physical
self-care it goes way beyond going to the spa getting massages getting facial
exercising eating right although it's part it's all part of self-love you know
physical self-care is part of self-love but what I think self-love actually is
it's learning to accept and befriend yourself no matter what you have to
accept yourself flaws and all even if you have a certain aspect about yourself
that you don't like the self loving way is to really take that aspect and
embrace it for example I see myself as a shy person and others also see it as
something that something not to like about myself I struggle with denying
that part of myself that you know denying that shai part of myself yeah
and I struggled a lot because you know it's a part of me I can't change it
all I could do was to see it and accept it and see it in a positive loving way
so I told myself yeah okay I may be shy but when I'm quiet I give a sense of
peace to others into myself when I'm quiet I got to be introspective and I
get to reflect in my inner world and see what's in there
when I'm quiet I have two listening ears that actually actually listen to others
when they speak and the funny thing is when I started to see my shyness in a
positive way it sort of exaltedness straight in me of being an empath and I
don't really see myself as a shy person anymore an opposite example might be you
know you might have this trait in yourself that you don't like that you're
too emotional or too loud to see yourself in a loving way you might say
that oh I may be loud I may be emotional but I don't hold things back from others
and I say things just like they are others don't have to guess what I'm
thinking I'm expressive other people won't be
scared that I might have a hidden agenda because I lay it all out i express my
emotions healthily because I'm loud and expressive being self loving actually is
radically accepting yourself being your own best friend being kind to yourself
no matter what being the parent that you never had I think that's what self-love
is when you go through this journey to love yourself is that going to be easy
contrary to what other people might say that when you say an effort nation ten
times and will instantly your lives and
unchanged although affirmations work yes they do work in my opinion I don't think
they work instantly because you've been programmed to sing negative thoughts in
such a long long time I don't think you can change an overnight but with
consistent practice and awareness definitely you can change your life so
find a pre well for yourself and your perceived flaws and then you might get
the inspiration to ask yourself what the next best kindest thing for you to do is
and go and do that letme yourself is the first crucial step to living a happier
life because when you love yourself it will be reflected back to you by others
people who don't respect you will start to treat you with respect because
whatever you think that's gonna be mirrored by your external circumstances
this actually happened to me so the first relationship I had was a
really bad one and then when we broke up that's when I started to be curious
about self-love and learn about it and practice it but with deliberate
consistent practice I attracted a new relationship that mirrored my more self
loving state he was a nicer guy another example was I was let go of a job that I
didn't really like any more so when I started to love myself I actually also
attracted a better job with a higher pay was happening here is when I
deliberately practiced daily self acceptance and befriending myself and
there the way that others treated me and the way life treated me so again if you
want to live a happier life accepting yourself and befriending yourself is a
very important first step decide that you are deserving of your own love it
doesn't matter what happened in the past because the point of power is in the
present moment you have the power to choose in the now that power of choice
is never lost to you and is always available to you at any time
so don't lose hope if you want to change your life and yeah so those are my
thoughts on what self-love is and how they changed my life and how they could
change yours it is my deepest wish for you to live a happier life and you know
to see yourself in a loving way because you deserve your own love and you truly
are lovable so thank you for watching if this helped you in some way maybe
inspire do you click thumbs up and subscribe to my channel for more of this
videos I'll see you take care bye
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