hey it's Abbi J your life coach and
today I wanted to talk about something
that is pretty serious when you think
about your goals in the personal
progress that you're going after but
have you ever stopped and asked yourself
do I even like want this goal? Or how do
I know if this goal is right for me? And
that is what we're discussing today in
this video because the last thing you
want to do is go after a goal that you
aren't even sure if you really want it
or if it was your idea in the first
place so let's talk about what to do if
you're questioning if the goals you're
going after are the right goals for you
in the first place. And be sure to stay
to the end of this video for an
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let's dive right into these tips and the
first step of like figuring out if this
goal is right for me is identifying
where this goal came from in the first
place. Was this your idea? Was it your
mother's idea? Was it your girlfriend's
idea? Was it you know your co-worker or
your boss's idea?
Did somebody suggest this goal to you?
The reason you need to ask yourself this
is because if this goal doesn't
originate from you or at least doesn't
get you excited and riled up then it's
probably not a goal worth going after
all goals I don't care if it's you know
personal or career or financial goals
are hard to achieve that's why it's
goals that's why I feel so amazing to
accomplish them but if this isn't
something that was your idea or
something that really gets you excited
or you feel likes a good idea then it's
not the right goal for you and that's
okay to admit I think sometimes we get
really afraid to say that you know what
I don't want that as a goal because
usually all goals are a really great
thing but depending on your unique
situation you might not want to be a
manager you might not want to go after
certain things you might not want a
brand new car if that's a goal for
somebody else all really great things
but if it's not part of like your life
plan your goals personally gets you so
weak
sited then don't feel any guilt and
taking it off your list especially if
this is a goal that you almost felt like
pressured to like have you know oh you
know what my parents would really like
it if I accomplished that goal but I
could care less you know what my
challenge for you is to just take that
off your list don't worry about it and
focus on the goals that really do count
my second tip is to ask yourself this
question why do I want it this question
is hugely important when it comes to
goals because yes, it might have passed
the first test that this was like your
own idea in your own goal that you
thought about but maybe you didn't
actually think it through and take this
time to stop and think why did I want
this goal like I have goals all the time
I think it's a really cool thing for you
to try but I keep a lot of my goal like
lists or journal entries of pascal's
because it's fun to look back and say oh
man I thought this goal was so important
but now I really don't want that for my
life or my life has changed so
drastically that that goal isn't
something that I want anymore and so
it's important to constantly be asking
yourself why do I want this because if
you are not feeling motivated if that WHY
is not strong enough then you're not
going to accomplish it and so just right
now ask yourself why do I want this and
if it's not compelling enough or if it's
not worth the cost of that goal then
that goal is not right for you my third
tip for you is to ask yourself this am I
discouraged just because it's hard now
that might seem a little weird but hear
me out
I'm sure that if you clicked on this
video or um if you know this came up in
your feed you're thinking about goals
and setting goals but I'm sure there was
part of you that said oh yeah I have
some goals that I don't know if right
are right for me I don't know if I
really want them now my question what
this point is are you feeling like you
don't want this goal because it's hard
are you feeling discouraged and this
might be a low moment for you because I
think we've all been there or we have a
like I'll use the example losing weight
and instead of losing weight this month
you gain weight and so you start to
think you know what this is ridiculous I
actually look fine like why am I trying
to lose weight or you know we start to
justify these goals and we start to
think well was that even a good goal for
me now you know if you pass the other
the other tips in this step and you've
come to this one well it's time to
seriously ask yourself am I just
discouraged am i just feeling like I've
hit a roadblock right now because if
this goal is still something that gets
you jazz if it's still something that
you want then it probably is still worth
your time and you're just feeling a
little discouraged and I promise that
this will pass as you continue to work
on those really hard goals it will pass
and discouragement can go away but you
know if it's more than that if it's like
you know what knowing it's not just cuz
it's hard you know it's not I can
actually do this I've actually made
progress toward this but my life has
changed my goals have changed then yeah
maybe this goal isn't for you anymore
maybe it's a goal that you put on the
shelf and say you know what I'm gonna
re-evaluate and come back to that maybe
in a couple years maybe in a couple of
months after I get some clearer focus on
some of my other goals it's okay to put
goals on the shelf so to speak but just
make sure that you know what it's for
you're about self-interest either way to
either say this goal isn't for me or I'm
gonna buckle down and get this goal done
and my last tip for you is what now what
are you supposed to do now and I think
that's a vital question to ask yourself
because yes
if you've either taken this path and
gone through these tips and you're like
nope this goal isn't for me or you know
what yes it actually is and I've got to
rethink this goal this is the time to
say okay what now what now now that I've
gotten rid of a goal I need to replace
it with something and I would hope that
you could reverse kind of engineer these
steps and find a goal that really
matters to you I've got some videos on
goal-setting I'll link down below but
it's okay to change your mind about what
you want but that doesn't mean that you
don't set other goals it does
mean that maybe you take that goal that
you had that now isn't fitting exactly
your mindset where you want to be and
you just change it you just tweak it a
little bit so this step is all about
okay what now how do I move forward from
where I am whether you've gotten rid of
a goal and you need to add a new one or
whether you're revising a goal or
basically telling yourself you know what
soon up we're gonna do this we are going
to accomplish this goal because it still
matters to me and I might have been
discouraged I might have been feeling
like it wasn't worthwhile anymore but
I'm reinvigorated and I I can do this
now so constantly ask you yourself this
question of what now what am I going to
do with my future? So there you have it
those are my top tips for what to do
when you are questioning whether a goal
is right for you anymore and I think
we've all been there and I think you
need to give yourself permission to
revise your goals it doesn't mean you're
giving up are you being softer and
yourself it means that you're serious
enough about your future that you're
constantly checking in on yourself and
your reevaluating if your goals are
still worthwhile to you which is huge
and it says so much about you and the
personal development like style and
steps that you are at right now so I
think you're amazing for watching this
video and please like this video and
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some of these videos that i have posted
on the side here and can't thank you
enough for watching this one so best of
luck to you in your goals and your
process and I hope that this video helps
you in discovering if your goals are
right for you.
So I will see you in the next video Abbi J out.


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