Waching daily Apr 3 2018

10 Amazing Reasons Why Buttermilk Is The Best Skincare Remedy For Summers

One of the best ways to pamper yourself on a crazy hot summer noon is to indulge in buttermilk, chaach or chaas.

And if you thought this was just about quenching your thirst or refreshing you, think again.

Being a dairy product, buttermilk also comes loaded with some wonderful health and beauty benefits that are too good to be ignored.

But, just in case you are one of those who are not too fond of the sour taste or the smell of buttermilk, then give this a good read.

1. Buttermilk and orange peel is an effective skin lightening agent

Buttermilk contains large amounts of lactic acid, an Alpha Hydroxy Acid (AHA) that helps to soften and brighten skin, acting as a natural solution to dark spots and tanned patches on the skin.

Grind dry orange peel and combine it with buttermilk to make a paste.

Massage this paste very gently on your skin.

Let it stay for 30 minutes, and then wash it off with cold water.

If you do this regularly, you will notice visible changes within a month.

2. Buttermilk and tomato juice for sunburn

Buttermilk acts as a natural lotion that helps soothe sunburn.

Simply mix buttermilk with tomato juice and apply this mixture on the affected area.

The vitamins A and C in this mixture will help in healing the skin better.

After rinsing this mix off, you will feel much cooler and considerably relieved of the painful burn sting.

3. Buttermilk and honey together have anti-ageing benefits

Buttermilk mixed with honey works as a great anti-aging solution.

The AHA, lactic acid, is what many anti-ageing lotions use.

Honey acts as a natural cleanser while buttermilk moisturises, lightens and exfoliates the skin.

Once the preliminary work is done by honey, buttermilk comes into play and restores the glow and rectifies the imperfections of the skin.

If you have oily skin, you can add a tablespoon of lemon juice to this mask.

4. The 'Cleopatra buttermilk bath'

Legend has it that the secret to the vibrant glow of Cleopatra's radiating beauty lied in her routine buttermilk bath.

Why deprive yourself of that? Just add a cup of buttermilk and oats mixture to your bathtub, and soak in it for 15-20 minutes to get the baby-soft skin.

5. A buttermilk hair mask for great hair

Having extremely dry, brittle, badly damaged hair in the hot summers is very common; especially, if you have been washing your hair too regularly.

A buttermilk mask acts as a deep conditioner to soften your hair, no matter how damaged it is.

Simply mix a banana and 2 tsp of honey in a cup of buttermilk.

Apply this mixture as a mask on your scalp and hair, and leave it for 45 minutes before washing it off.

You will be left with unbelievably soft and shiny hair!.

6. And, here is the best one....buttermilk keeps your weight under control

Buttermilk is lower in fat and calories compared to milk.

Apart from this, it can make you feel full for a long period of time, meaning you will be less hungry, and so aiding in weight loss.

Since it helps in healthy digestion and also regulates bowel movements, it further promotes weight loss.

Buttermilk is very easy to digest and helps absorb nutrients from other foods too, making it one of the best choices for low-fat diets.

7. Keeps body heat under check

This has been one of the favourite reasons to drink buttermilk for ages.

Buttermilk helps cool down your body temperature and can be used as a natural refresher in summers.

This is also useful for pre- and post-menopausal women as it provides temporary relief from the hot flushes.

8. Best for your digestive system

Buttermilk is a natural probiotic, which means that it provides the "gut friendly" bacteria that aids better digestion.

It also helps to reduce frequent heartburn, and regulates the acidity that usually follows a spicy meal.

9. Boosts immunity

The wonderful lactic acid in buttermilk also fights harmful pathogens and bacteria that enter the body through various external agents.

The probiotic properties also help to arm the digestive system and also strengthens your immune system, thus help you fight against common colds, infections, etc.

10. Packed with nutrients

Buttermilk is low in calories, but high in several essential nutrients like vitamin B12, calcium, phosphorus and riboflavin.

These nutrients work together to promote healthy bones, skin and immunity.

So, a tall glass of buttermilk every day can take care of many of your nutritional needs.

Although it cannot replace a meal, it is one of the healthiest options to have between meals in case you get those hunger pangs, when on a diet.

For more infomation >> 10 Amazing Reasons Why Buttermilk Is The Best Skincare Remedy For Summers - Duration: 12:47.

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NVC when your kid is triggered - Duration: 11:23.

So, what to do when your kids are triggered?

By which I mean that they are super angry, or sad, or having any other kind of unpleasant

emotion and they want your help.

I'll be demonstrating what to do with Nonviolent Communication, because I think it is super

helpful to take care of your kid that way - and also take care of yourself.

Because in Nonviolent Communication that's really an essential part as well.

So I'll be demonstrating it with Laura.

She is nine years old, and in our case there was a little extra challenge, because Jasper

- her brother – was also involved.

He was also triggered.

They were having a fight together.

And this requires a little extra step that I'll be demonstrating as well.

So maybe you don't have any kids..

I think it's still very interesting to watch how NVC with kids is going, to see these kind

of demonstrations.

Because kids are reacting so genuinely, their face is so clear, what they are feeling and

how your words arrive.

So I think it's a really great way to learn NVC.

If you haven't seen my former video about kids, it's called '5 minutes kick start

your NVC with kids' – something like that.

It's very helpful, because I was demonstrating the basic things to do.

That video is about what to do when your kid is not triggered, how to connect with them

with NVC.

So this is a little more challenging step – what to do with NVC when they are triggered?

So please watch that video as well if you haven't done so yet.

And a little kind of warning: it was quite challenging to do this video, to be honest.

Because I had put my camera and lights and everything and then I just had to wait until

some kid would get triggered.

But then they would still have to get in front of the camera.

I would have to switch on my microphone and camera, because if I would let them rolling

all the time, they would go out of batteries.

So, I was doing this, doing this, and then I kind of forgot to be in front of the camera

myself.

So you kind of see my nose, but okay, you're just going to have to trust that it's me

doing this demo.

I hope you can see through that little technical aspect.

So, I'll see you after the demo.

"Do you want me to help you..?

" "Do you want to sit on your blue pillow?" "What the problem is, Jasper, usually he

doesn't stop.

When I say stop he continues a little longer."

"Do you find that a bit annoying, that he continues?"

"Yes."

"You are a bit angry at him, aren't you?"

"Yes.

And also because, we were just playing a game, that I would bury him, and then he started

imitating a baby Hulk.

He said 'I am a baby Hulk – wehhh wehh'.

That is annoying.

I was going to bury him with blankets and stuffed animals so you wouldn't be able

to see his face."

(Jasper in the background: "Then why didn't you do that!?")

"Because you did 'nehhhhh nehhhh'."

(Jasper: "Yes, what mahhhh nahhh I am doing nahhh bwahhh".)

"Yes, so he didn't do what you had hoped for?"

So Jasper is joining in, and they are both triggered.

So in this case, you focus on the most triggered kid first.

And if you feel uncomfortable about that, or even guilty, realise that you are not siding

with them, you are not blaming the other kid for the situation.

It is just that the end goal is to get the needs met of all people involved, and you

get there the fasted by starting with the most triggered person.

And sometimes it's enough to just focus on one kid and let the other kid do whatever

they want.

But sometimes, actually quite often, I need to isolate the person by, for example, going

to another room with the most triggered kid.

But in this case I had to stay with the camera, and I didn't give enough clarity and attention

to Jasper, so he will come back.

"No."

"So you hoped for something else?"

"Yes."

(Jasper making sounds in the background.)

"That's what he's doing.

WEHHHH, WEHHHH.

That."

"Yes, and you find it super annoying, this sound?

It hurts your ears?"

"Yes, a bit."

"(Jasper: "I think you are being angry on purpose.")

"No, I'm not."

(Jasper: "Yes you do.")

"I am really ANGRY."

(Jasper: "Yes you dooo.")

(Laura screaming "AAAAGHHHHHGH..."

Jasper laughs, Laura: " I don't think it's funny..")

"Jasper, I am first talking with Laura now, do you want to talk afterwards?

Because I sense that you don't like it as well."

"Come, Laura, we will first talk with the two of us."

"Do you want to say it again?

You are still angry, aren't you?"

"Yes..

He does this more often.

And sometimes he doesn't listen to me at all.

When I say 'shall we do this?' he just continues."

So she repeats herself here because she is not fully heard yet, there is too much interruption.

And this is exactly why you want to isolate the triggered person, then you're able to

connect with each of the triggered kids fastest.

"And this also happens when..

Sometimes I play a game outside with other kids.. and.. one time, I asked: 'Shall we

do this..?' and then nobody listened.

And then someone else suggested another game and then everyone said yes.

And Jasper does the same thing sometimes."

"Do you mean that when someone else is suggesting a game, they say yes, but with you they said

no?"

"No, then they say nothing at all."

"They say nothing at all?

As if they didn't hear you, is that what you mean?"

"Yes."

"Is it that you want people to hear what you say?"

"Yes.

It also happened sometimes with the girl next door.

Then I said: 'Shall we play hide and seek?'

And then some people say no and some people say nothing.

And then she says 'Shall we play babybell', and then most of them say yes."

"And you also want that you are able to choose?"

"Yes."

So here she is relaxing a bit, you might notice from her face and her posture.

And she is relaxing not because there is a solution but because she realises someone

is listening.

And listening with NVC means being present in silence, reformulating and guessing feelings

and needs from my feeling and need list.

"Yes, so you would like, when you are playing, that you can also choose what you are doing?"

(Jasper: "Here I am again!")

So Jasper is saying something to us again, and now I want to be more clear about why

I want to speak with Laura alone.

And I want to make sure that he has something to do in the meanwhile.

"Or that we decide all together."

"Jasper, is it okay for you if I talk to Laura first, and afterwards with you, or that

Laura comes back to you afterwards.

It is a bit difficult to talk with both of you at the same time, do you get that?"

Jasper: "No."

"Laura doesn't enjoy what you are doing, so it is not really working when you interrupt."

Jasper: "Yes."

"Do you want to play afterwards, with Laura, or with me?

Is there something that you can enjoy doing for now?

Will that work?

Okay."

"Yes, so you want to play in a way that you both enjoy it, that you like it as well?"

"I don't know what we should play.

I am a bit bored.

Because first I was planning to draw, but I don't know in which book my colouring

book is."

So now she is discovering a new layer in herself.

Actually, she is bored, and she wanted to do something else.

By realising this she is starting to solve her own problem.

And this is, I talked earlier about the self-care for parents, this is where parents can relax

a lot more.

And it's also why I love NVC for parenting, because it's a lot about stuff you can leave

out, stuff you don't need to do, and that it's even better if you don't do it.

Like solving their problem, or advising, or taking sides or educating them.

As you could see, I was quite relaxed for about eight minutes, just being with her.

And she going to find a strategy on her own, as you will see now.

"That is also not possible, no."

"But you would prefer colouring?"

"Yes."

"Would you like me to help you find your colouring book?"

"It is probably in a box with crafting stuff.

I think there are three or four boxes.

But I also want to play a game."

"Yes, a game?"

"But I don't know which one.

I don't really like any of them.

But maybe I can check which one we have."

"You want to have a look if there is one that you do like?"

So Laura is done for now, and I immediately want to check the other kid.

"Jasper, do you want to say something?

Was there something that you didn't like?"

"No, you are happy?

Okay."

So I'm very curious what you think of this demo, if you think you'll be able to do

this, or maybe you think you might still have some challenges.

Please let me know in the comments and I will get back to you.

And if you'd like to get the feeling and need list that I'm talking about, go to

CupofEmpathy.com, sign up for the email list and you'll receive the cards for free and

you also get an update when I have a new video.

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So we are really growing this community.

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So, yeah, I'd love to see you again next time! Ciao!