You said she hasn't cooked for you since then.
We should find out how hurt she was then.
Let's talk to their mother.
Hello, ma'am.
Hi.
She's so cute.
Does your son really starve when he's angry?
He doesn't eat at all.
I cook for him just in case he wants to eat.
I always have something prepared.
But no matter what food I offer him,
he won't eat at all.
It breaks my heart when he doesn't eat.
I cry a river of tears inside.
He doesn't express his anger to anyone else.
He gets over it by starving.
That's so tough for me to watch.
I feel bad for my son.
When he threw down the food that you cooked,
how did you feel?
That was my fault.
I realized that I shouldn't cook for him anymore.
All parents feel the same way.
They all want their children to eat well.
It's like dry land being watered.
What time do you get up to cook breakfast?
I wake up at 5 a.m.
In your opinion...
It's a habit for me to wake up at 5 a.m.
In your opinion,
do you nag your son too much?
I don't think I do,
but he doesn't want to listen if I tell him things.
I end up repeating myself without realizing it.
It's because you can't hear very well.
I can't hear my mom nag me even if I want to.
You know she's heartbroken when you don't eat.
Aren't you taking advantage of it to hurt her?
In a way, yes.
(Shocked)
- It's willful negligence. / - That's wrong.
I've tried to talk to my mom
in order to change her ways
and change her habits.
If she had changed after I talked to her,
I never would've starved.
I must go to extremes by starving
in order for her to respond to my words.
What is it that you want her to change?
I just told you.
- Her nagging you? / - Yes.
(Nagging)
I don't want her to repeat the same things.
But all mothers are like that.
We're shocked right now because
you said you wanted to change her habits.
If she had bad habits like stealing,
then you should try to change her habits.
We'd understand.
But her saying that you should get married
or cooking breakfast for you are the things
you want her to change? That's just shocking.
I'm still not married, either,
so I tried hard to understand your stance.
I changed my mom. She'd gotten addicted to dancing.
I tattled on her to my dad to break her bad habit.
But something like this...
How dare a son say that to his mother?
Your mom was upset because of your dad.
You don't understand.
She gave away so many fish to other men.
If you're this frustrated, why don't you move out?
I used to live with my mom in Daegu.
Then about 10 years ago, she grew very ill.
I asked her what she wanted, and she told me
she wanted to live in a place with clean air.
So I built a house in a rural area for her.
I thought I'd be ecstatic to live on my own,
but I was too worried about her every night.
Since my sick mother was all alone.
So I ended up selling our house in Daegu,
and I moved in with her in the rural area.
So you're taking care of her by living with her.
He's such a good son.
You're a good son. Why are you like this?
I'm so frustrated.
I get that you're her son, and you care for her.
But most parents treat their children
like little kids regardless of age.
Most children don't break their parents' hearts
on purpose by starving
just because their parents nag them.
Your sister told us that
your mom once apologized to you on her knees.
How did you feel then? Didn't it break your heart?
Yes, it broke my heart.
But after seeing it several times, I became numb.
If she had reflected on her behavior,
she should stop doing those things.
But she ends up doing the same things again.
What do you mean, reflect on her behavior?
You're treating your mom like your child.
"You did something you shouldn't again!"
Does that make any sense?
It's funny because...
It was inconvenient when you lived alone, right?
Right.
You were worried, but it also felt inconvenient.
Because you're too used to living with your mom.
I know very well that
she loves me. I do.
But the way she loves me is wrong.
There's no wrong way to love a child!
They say you become a child again when you age.
You said you get upset when she repeatedly tells you
to do something, but we all know this story.
A child asks his mom, "Mom, what's that bird?"
"It's a sparrow."
"Mom, what's that bird?" "It's a sparrow."
A mom answers her child's question over and over.
Now she's older, and she repeats what she says.
You should take it like she did when you were a boy.
It'd be sad to see that.
You should realize that your mom has aged now.
Good job, Taejoon.
(Hmm...)
Was he doted on because he was the youngest?
I think he must've been.
I have one older brother and one younger.
He's six years younger than I am.
Our mom really doted on him.
Whenever there was food,
she would give it to him first.
She sort of caused this by spoiling him.
He's used to whining at her.
So he's used to yelling at her, too.
Your mother is quite old now.
What if she gets dementia
and keeps saying the same thing over and over?
How would you feel then?
I also really wanted to ask him that.
So she keeps saying the same things...
If it was due to an illness,
I would understand.
An illness doesn't come all at once,
right when she gets diagnosed by a doctor.
What if she gradually loses her mind and changes?
Couldn't you be way more understanding then?
As soon as you said that...
I don't think I ever imagined that in my life.
I never did.
I've just imagined what it would be like.
That would be terrible.
You're single, and I'm single.
What? You want to marry him?
(What?)
Yes, let's have a drink together one day.
My mother is the same.
I'm taking care of my mother,
but that's not how she sees it.
She feels like she's doing something for me,
and that keeps her healthy.
My mom came to see me from Cheonan.
We have different taste in clothes.
I chose my T-shirt, but my mom chose my shorts.
They're too big. I wore these when I was fatter.
I still wore the shorts, since she picked them out.
- Today? / - Today?
Look. Aren't these shorts ridiculous?
Think about it. (How to become a good daughter)
(Let's take time to laugh a bit)
We have someone here who can be more objective.
He's a friend. He's here with us, too.
(Hello)
How do you know him?
We go to the same church.
Which of you is older?
As you can see, he is.
Did you know that he doesn't eat when he's angry?
I happened to visit his home once.
She's a great cook.
She thought it was her chance to get him to eat.
So she used me as an excuse to feed him.
I was grateful.
Because she told me to eat more.
You enjoyed eating her food.
But he said that he wasn't hungry
and just left.
I didn't know what to do.
"Should I leave, too?"
You wanted to eat more, right?
But he didn't eat the next day, either.
He didn't eat dinner, either.
He was starving over something so trivial,
so I couldn't understand him.
You said it depends on the situation.
How many days does it take for your anger to cool?
Nowadays, about three or four days.
It used to be a week.
After the breakup, one month.
Let's flip things around. Imagine your mom is mad
and says she won't eat for a week.
How would you feel?
She says it's just what she does, and she won't talk.
Oh, geez.
He's finally thinking from her point of view.
- I'm speechless. / - Right?
You should've thought from her point of view.
What are you most concerned about?
He shouldn't vent by himself.
I want him to let it all out and get over it.
I don't want him to starve.
I want to do everything for him.
Since he's your youngest child.
I tell him things out of love,
and I end up forgetting that he doesn't like that.
I blame myself for doing it again.
I feel so bad for him.
Ma'am.
I want to be good to him, but it isn't easy.
Ma'am.
Thank you so much for this great opportunity.
We're glad you're here, too.
(Thanks for coming today!)
It's not a bad thing to forget. Just forget.
It'll be harder on you if you try not to forget.
It's okay. Just forget about it.
We don't remember what we did yesterday.
I raised my older children with love.
I would lie down with them.
Sir! It's just the two of you at home.
You should converse with her more.
She seems to enjoy talking.
She loves to talk, and she's interesting.
But you won't talk to her.
When we asked him to think from her point of view,
he felt guilty and was heartbroken.
I think it's possible that things will improve.
Lastly, please tell him what you want from him.
Mom won't change.
She gets too upset when he doesn't eat.
It's too hard on our mom.
I hope he finds another way to relieve stress.
Sanghoon, is it a concern or not?
I think he'll find another way to vent.
I don't think it's a concern.
I don't think it's a concern, either.
I hope he finds his true love soon.
Then he'll be able to take
better care of his mom.
I don't think it's a concern, either.
I think they'll be able to talk it out.
Please press the button if you can relate to her.
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Time's up.
A word for your sister, please.
I hope this doesn't become a lie.
I'll try my best to change.
Please say a word to your mother.
Mom!
I'll try to gain weight!
(I'll cook you lots of food)
Please give her a kiss.
No. You should kiss her.
This is what we always do.
She always kisses me when I come home.
- Hold her hand. / - You kiss her from now on.
You've only ever received things from her.
What is it, ma'am?
But I...
She's quite talkative.
He's still single, so we still live together.
He's always been full of love since he was a boy.
Why are you looking at me when you speak?
(I've found my future daughter-in-law)
She has great sense.
Please show us the result.
(Announcing the result)
(The number ends with a 4!)
I don't want to hear my mother nag.
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