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I'm proud of you you know it's not easy
going after your dreams even having the
courage to risk it all and pursuit of
your dreams just having the courage to
risk it all while chasing your dream let
alone fighting through our setbacks
I salute and naysayers on the way to the
dream it's not easy that's why most set
up but should not like the rest that's
why you're listening to this and I just
wanted to say I'm proud I want to say
that because I know most of you may have
never have heard that I wanted to say
that not because you need a pat on the
back you're strong enough to succeed
without any of that just to let you know
you are unique you are a rare breed a
song and a vision keep doing your thing
and don't let anything or anyone stop
for reaching that goal you have
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if you can keep your head when all about
you are losing theirs and blaming it on
you
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you can trust yourself when all men
doubt you but make allowance for their
doubting too
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you can wait
not be tired by waiting or being lied
about don't deal in lies or being hated
don't give me don't look to her
I'll talk to wise you can dream and not
between your master
I can't think
and not make thoughts your aim you can
meet with triumph and disaster and treat
those two Impostors just the same
you can
to hear the tubes open
twisted by Mays Dimmick truck
what are the things you gave your life
to broken
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and make one
risk it on one turn PEMDAS start again
at your beginnings and never breathe a
word about your love you can force your
heart and nerve and sinew to serve your
turn long after they are gone and so
hold on there's nothing in you except
the will which says to them hold on you
can talk with crowds and keep your
virtue or walk with Kings nor lose the
common touch neither foes nor loving
friends can hurt you if all men count
with you
to fill the unforgiving minute with
sixty seconds worth of distance run
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yours is the earth and everything that's
in it
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we
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is to take a brave look at your life
look at your life right now where it is
so let me ask you some questions as you
begin to look out on the future look out
on this year
let's take personal inventory what has
brought you here as you begin to look at
the things that took place this past
year did you get out of it what you
wanted did you achieve the goals that
you set out to achieve what part of your
life well what things that you do that
you don't want to be a part of your life
are there any people as you begin to
look at your life and look at where you
want to go and what you want to do are
there any people that might be some dead
weight that you need to think about
unloading because what you have found
through that relationship that it's more
toxic than it is nourishing is more
debilitating than it is empowering and
so now you've got to make a decision
see if many of us won't be able to move
forward because we're not taking true
inventory of our lives as you begin to
look at your emotional to your spiritual
and intellectual development how many
books did you read how many seminars did
you attend how many classes that you
take to begin to develop yourself
professionally to improve your craft or
your skill how many new things that you
learn just take some personal inventory
just thinking just thinking just
thinking beginning to know yourself one
of the things about your past that has
influenced you right now what's your
philosophy of life what are your beliefs
things that you feel very strongly about
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what are some of the things that you
have picked up along the way that you've
been doing them for so long you think
that they're you that you need to begin
to re-examine them and perhaps get them
out of your life
see a lot of things we're doing we do
unconsciously because we picked it up
somewhere in life a friend of mine out
of Chicago named RIA Steele I was at her
house to have dinner Andrea who was born
in Chicago has a tremendous Southern
drawl after I met her mother I said
where did real get her Southern drawl
from she said my sister's came up from
Kentucky and they used to be her
babysitter and she picked it up while in
their presence Andrea still has that
drawl
what is it that you picked up somewhere
in life that made it me might be a
liability to you what fear what beliefs
that you're holding on to tenaciously
that's no longer allowing your life to
work it's not enabling you to produce
the results that you want to produce in
your life and you're still clinging to
them see as we go into new world there's
some old behaviors that just won't fit
what are the events what are the
circumstances one of the people that
have shaped you just thinking just
thinking one of the things that you need
to let go some things that have cost you
pain that's stifling your growth and
development what are those things as you
begin to look at your profession or your
career what is it that you need to do to
begin to upgrade your skills of your
knowledge to continue for you to be
competitive in the marketplace
as you begin to look at yourself and ask
some of these questions what is
something that you're good at are you
living your passion are you living your
dream
what do you regard is your greatest
personal achievement what is the one
thing that other people can do to make
you most happy let's think about these
things what would you do if you had one
year to live and guaranteed
sess and anything you decided to do what
would that be
what would you do with your life if you
had it to live over getting to know
yourself what is one value one deep
commitment from which you would never
bulge what is one cause that you would
like to become involved in to make a
difference on the planet I work in the
Cook County Jail in Chicago it gives my
life a great deal of joy and fulfillment
have you found something like that in
your life that you could enjoy doing
working with people I have a friend
that's working with physically
handicapped people she said it's been
the most rewarding experience she's ever
had she used to be a constantly
depressed individual always feeling
sorry for herself it has changed her
life she's a grateful person she's found
something that she's lost yourself in
what is your biggest setback failure or
defeat of the past year what is it about
you if someone who really knew they
wouldn't get into a relationship with
you
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now don't go tell it but once you
acknowledge what that is then start
working on and changing it change that
it's easy to blame the other person but
start taking ownership for where you are
are you proud of how you have been
living your life have you explored your
natural talents your gifts by
enthusiastically trying a variety of
activities ladies and gentlemen a lot of
us have so much talent and abilities we
just put them back on the back burner
just left them aside some please never
did anything with them never brought
them out here
used to do them extremely well in high
school or college or just had a natural
gift and never did anything with it what
are you sitting on what gifts are you
sitting on have you resign yourself to
life feeling that nothing can be done to
change your future or your circumstances
have you been afraid to try something
different because you're afraid of how
people will react to you or what they
will think those are some of the things
that I suggest that you begin to answer
yourself now here are some things that I
suggest that you begin to look at
working on to develop your character
some things that will give you some
personal strength Webster says character
building activities he says character
the pattern of behavior of personality
found in an individual or group moral
strength self-discipline fortitude
that's what's going to be required in
order to begin to manifest your
greatness now looking at yourself one of
the things I'm suggesting you look at
what is it that you need to be in the
process of doing more of a less of like
being more direct so I used to have a
problem of not telling people what I
actually thought because I didn't want
to hurt anybody's feelings saying no
without feeling guilty more focused so I
used to be the jack of all trades and
master of none use do a lot of things
one year I decided to do one thing well
I looked at all of my talents and I
decided the strongest one my ability is
a speaker that's the one
going to focus on but I'm capable of
doing a lot of other things but only
when I decided to focus that I begin to
reap the rewards of my talent and then
after you do that you can begin to
expand and use the other talents that
you have deciding to keep your word if
you just decide I'm going to keep my
word if I say something I'm going to do
it regardless being more considerate
more trusting more discipline being less
fearful being more adventurous find
something that you can look at your life
that you say hey I know I've got a
problem in this area being late I need
to take care of that for Crossin a ting
I need to deal with that not taking care
of business being seriously not serious
creating an imbalance in my life where
I'm spending more time looking at
television or having social fun
and not spending enough time working on
me see most people ladies and gentlemen
spend more time working on their jobs
and they'd spend working on themselves
they work harder on their jobs and they
work on themselves and whatever we
achieve in life whatever we create
whatever we able to manifest comes out
of the human mind now I want you to
think about five things as if you had
the courage to do them it will give you
a feeling of satisfaction and
self-respect think of five things that
if you had the courage to do those
things you will feel a tremendous
feeling of satisfaction within and
self-respect take the time to write
those things down whatever they might be
to you it might be in your personal life
it might be in your your friendships
your family relationships might be in
your business I was negotiating with a
friend of mine that I admire a great
deal and this person went back on their
agreement and I did not challenge them
on it number one because of my
admiration for her number two
because I really wanted the business and
I think she sensed that so I didn't want
to see him to pick it I was nervous
about it and I was cowardly because I
should have said listen that's not what
we agreed to
I should have called her on that but I
didn't want to look bad or to appear to
be negative or risk losing the business
look at five things that if you had the
courage to do those things that you
would do those things a lot of people
say well I've been like this all my life
I just can't change that this is the way
I am dr. Harrell Griswold a psychologist
and author of direct decision therapy
said something he says when someone says
I can't change some part of them wants
to change but the payoffs for his
present behavior are greater than the
payoffs for a changed behavior or his
fear of change is too great ladies and
gentlemen it takes courage to live your
dreams it takes courage to manifest your
greatness it takes courage to decide to
live to decide to bring out all of your
talents and abilities to decide to
stretch out design to take a chance it
takes courage to be happy just to be you
I saw a friend who I hadn't seen for a
long time her whole personality has
changed
she was an extroverted a certain person
but because her husband has a fragile
ego when she's around him she caught on
to him she plays to him she's very
silent she doesn't express herself her
feelings and there are many things she
wants to do but before she even make a
decision of what she wants to do she
checks you know how will he handle this
how will he see this will this be
disruptive in our relationship a lot of
us readjust our behavior and we end up
not being who we really are in deference
to relationships men and women looking
at the word courage Webster says the
attitude of facing and
with anything recognized as dangerous
difficult or painful instead of
withdrawing from it as you begin to look
at where you want to go and take
personal inventory it's going to be very
uncomfortable that's why most people
don't do it it's very painful to admit
your shortcomings to admit your
weaknesses it's very painful to do that
it's much easier to withdraw from that
and just ignore it it goes on to the
courage of one's convictions the courage
to do what one thinks is right as you
begin to look at yourself and look at
where you want to go with your life it's
very important for you to ask yourself a
question as you look at various areas of
your life is what you are doing right
now is it giving you what you want if
it's not giving you what you want it's
going to take courage to decide to do
something differently it takes courage
to enjoy yourself what are some of the
self-defeating behaviors that we become
involved in that prevent most people
from enjoying themselves some people
develop the what's the use attitude why
bother
some people have the I really don't care
and they convince themselves that they
don't care and they don't feel anything
and after a while they really don't feel
anything their lives are empty some
people say well it's really not worth
the hassle just too hard it doesn't
bother me anymore the fact that I'm not
living out my dream the fact that I'm
capable of doing more and I'm not doing
it the fact that I'm content but I'm not
fulfilled the fact that I'm not living
my dream Tom Ruskin Randi read in a book
call I want to change but I don't know
how said people go through life many
times playing it safe he says that's the
secret hope that they say to themselves
if I never let myself feel too good
maybe I'll never get hurt too badly
a lot of people don't ever do the things
they're capable of doing because they
allow themselves to go along with the
crowd following the crowd
many people have things they want to do
and they find themselves in
relationships with people who are
addicted to mediocrity and they allow
their behavior to influence their
behavior following the crowd many people
don't do it because of the fact that
they allow their lack of self-confidence
to immobilize them I remember when I
wanted to go into business for years I
was an agonising thought in my mind I
wouldn't try it because I didn't believe
that I could make it of the five things
that you would like to do if you had the
courage to do I want you to pick one
thing pick one and here's how to set it
up for yourself that will help free you
and get you unstuck what is the worst
thing that could happen if you do it so
what's the worst thing that can happen
let's say going into business for
yourself or changing careers or getting
a divorce
taking some kind of chance of something
that you've always thought about doing
but you just haven't done it for
whatever reason what's the worst thing
that can happen do the worst case
scenario now when you do the worst case
scenario you write those things down the
worst things that you fear would happen
when you name your fears that put you in
control what are you afraid of name it
write it out so you can look at it
confront that fear what is it I'm afraid
that things might work out what else
less I well I've never been in business
okay what else less time well I don't
have all the help I need okay good what
else less well I don't have enough money
all right good what else less what I
don't have a college degree uh what else
I'm not as good as those other guys that
I've seen up there speaking okay what
else well that's all I can think of
right now okay good
now that takes you to the next step what
are the benefits one of the benefits of
your acting courageously taking life on
well part of what happened was that I
felt better within myself and I had a
strong sense of self-respect
going into business for myself I've made
a lot of mistakes sometimes I was down
on myself I felt stupid I felt dumb
because people who were in business said
why would you do something like that
well I didn't know boy boy were you
really dumb and I used to chime in with
him yes I guess I was I didn't know any
better but the other thing is I had to
say to myself but I did it I did even if
I made a flop of it I did it I took the
chance I took the leap one of the
benefits of your acting courageously
whatever it is that you've identified
right the benefits down and then focus
on them focus on the benefits not on the
liabilities not on your fears focus on
the benefits that which you hold in
consciousness tends to manifest itself
think about how good you feel think
about the level increased self-respect
the sense of self-worth that you feel
how good you feel getting up in the
morning looking yourself in the mirror
because you're taking life on the other
thing is acknowledge your fears and then
go into action this book it's called
feel the fear and do it anyway
that's it see I believe anybody who's
ever done anything who's ever taken a
chance doesn't mean that they are not
afraid
courageous does not mean being the
absence of fear I think that being
courageous is willing to do it because
that's what you feel and you're gonna do
it anyhow regardless so you're not going
to be immobilized by your fears or your
doubts you admit okay I'm scared to
death now okay what is it that I must
choose to do go ahead on experience that
fear but don't let that fear immobilize
you in what you've done with your life
thus far is it giving you what you want
is it giving you what you want when you
look toward the future when you look at
all this going on
here is there someplace within yourself
you say hey I know I need to be out
there in that arena I know I can do more
than what I've been doing I know there's
some great music that I have within me
that I haven't brought out here is that
something that you begin to look at
within yourself so I used to do that and
I used to go to big rallies and see guys
up speaking when I wasn't courageous
enough to go out there and say hey my
name is les brown the motivator made me
a browsable I want to talk I would never
do that I just was I just be back there
looking at if it wanted to get their
autograph it would say can I can I meet
you mr. mr. Wakeley Ole Miss cannot meet
mr. Zig Ziglar please tell him who are
you let's Brown because I thought within
myself uh personalize they want my to go
talk to these guys and go get their
autographs I'd like to do what you do
[Laughter]
see I say if you look at your life and
if you're not getting what you want you
owe it to yourself to do something
differently you are if you own a job 85
percent they say of Americans go to jobs
that they're unhappy if you're doing
something 8 hours a day that you don't
like it's not giving you what you want
it's not giving you a strong feeling of
satisfaction and fulfillment you're
miserable you hate to go there you're
depressed just thinking about it you're
saying they thank God it's Friday song
every week it's giving you headaches
just thinking about it on Sunday
afternoon after the football game goes
off if that's what it is you owe it to
yourself to start strategically working
to change directions see but you know
what most people will do most people
will resist change
most people will fight change as if
change would be worse than what they're
experiencing see they know this they're
familiar with this most people will not
challenge the unknown they won't just
step out there see they
well see there certain things has got to
be in place they got to see it all
together and life isn't like that that's
not how you grow so as you look at your
life you're saying I'm not getting what
I want as you begin to look toward the
future begin to know that whatever it
takes for you to create that you got
that in you you got that you've got
genius in you you've got goodness in you
you've got creativeness in you if you
decide to take the initiative to change
the current quality of your life I say
to you that you will find that the
universe is on your side that life is on
your side now will it be turbulent yes
would it be easy no no well you have
some opposition yes will I make a lot of
mistakes yes will I get hurt yes yes see
a lot of people won't try anything
different like because they don't want
to get hurt let me tell you something
it's too much pain to doc pain is
everywhere you can hide under here it
will come where you are
and really if I go back here pay to come
hey les come on out it will come it's
everywhere Viktor Frankl calls it
unavoidable suffering you can't duck it
but most people spend their life not
wanting to deal with the pain of
rejection the pain of defeat the pain of
being disappointed the pain of losing
the pain of failure the pain of being
criticized the pain of not being liked
the pain the pain the pain that's called
life life is full of pain it's
everywhere but guess what there's no
gain without pain now if you're gonna
hurt anyhow get some yardage out of it
because it's the pain of regret that's
your experience if I had it to do over
again that's a pain don't you know that
someone you know I was in a seminar once
and this lady's stood up if I had my
life to live over again she talked about
all of the things that she would do and
you can feel the pain of regret in a
voice the pain of regret
she still experienced pain she was
trying not to experience the pain of
defeat the pain of disappointment the
pain of loss the pain of lack of support
and she still experienced pain it was
right there we can't get around it most
people are governed by their habits
their fears and the opinions of others a
lot of people never try anything
differently because they have been
convinced by people in their lives that
they value that they can't do it they're
living within the context of the
opinions that other people have of them
the low expectations many people doubt
themselves because when they thought
about doing something at some critical
point in their life somebody they
respected and honored somebody they
believed in somebody that they loved
someone they trust it said you can't do
that and they accepted that that's why I
didn't go off to college I had an
instructor that I believed who said
you're not college material mr. Brown
you're not as smart as your brother
Wesley or your sister Margaret Ann
you're not college material why don't
you try and get you a job at the post
office
try and do something with your hand I'll
go down to the Miami city sanitation
department see can you get a job there
oh why don't you try and go into the
army I took that test mister tell us
already what happened I fail I told you
anybody failed army tests you really in
trouble so I went down to the Sanitation
Department to try and get a job because
that's what I believed was possible for
me as you look at your life ask yourself
the question what would your life be
like what would your life look like if
you decided not to care what people
thought of you what would your life be
like if you decided to give up some of
your fears what would your life be like
if you decided to become courageous
what would you life II like if you
decided to act on your dream if you did
what you felt in your heart you know
what courageous means tom ruskin and
randy reid said they said that courage
comes from a french word which means of
the heart that how does it feel to you
he says such courage you know it takes
courage to live since most people go
through life not allowing themselves to
step out because they don't want to let
go they don't want to be blown around
they don't want to be moved the courage
to face life's whirling wind of
contradictions the courage to love
yourself the courage to love for years I
was afraid to love the courage to take a
chance the courage to be who you are
he says courage isn't for somebody else
for metals applause immoral debts
courage is what at that moment feels
most right for you
not just situational ethics but what
feels right in your heart the word of
the heart what feels right in your heart
one great philosopher says cowards die
many times before their deaths
the valiant never taste of death but
once what does that mean the valiant
people aren't afraid no no no it means
that they experience that fear and they
move forward they move forward any how
many people are dead now many people
allowing their dreams to die
many people applying the ideas to lie
dormant and collect dust
many people have all this talent and
ability that they are lying to be
embedded inside of them that they will
take with them to their graves because
they didn't have the courage to be who
they are and I say as you begin to look
to all the future and manifesting your
greatness it's going to take everything
in you everything in you that your life
deserves the concentrated effort to
begin to look at how is it that I can
express more of me how is it that I can
bring my ideas out here now how is it
and start living with a sense of urgency
because you're here today you're gone
today life is unpredictable
it's uncertain there's no guarantees no
guarantees out here at all
so holding back what are you waiting on
ask yourself what's the benefit of your
waiting what's the benefit of your not
living your dream what's the benefit of
not listening to yourself oh please
listen to yourself you know the feelings
if you start listening to the feelings
in your heart and I'm doing it down lore
everyday I find that my feelings I can
trust them and I say to you that as you
look toward the future you looked at
life on a daily basis if there's
something that you have been given if
you've heard something within yourself
that you know that that what you're
doing now it doesn't fit for you it
doesn't work for you it's not giving you
what you want and there's something else
that you want to do don't allow that
inner doubt in you to talk you out of it
to build a case on why you can't have it
to tell you why you're not good enough
you ignore that inner voice and all of
the external voices don't
the possibilities for what you can do
based upon the circumstances because the
circumstances won't determine who you
are don't determine what you are able to
do based upon your resources don't
determine what's possible for you based
upon where your life is right now where
your life is right now is not you that's
just what it is right now but the
possibilities for you are unlimited if
you're in a rebuilding process it's
unlimited if you're coming back from
adversity and devastation it's unlimited
of what you can do
that's the capacity of human beings it
doesn't matter how many mistakes you've
made doesn't matter how many flops
you've had doesn't matter how much money
you've lost in fact I see it only as an
investment of what you learned from life
not losses but investments of what's
possible for you and I say to you that
once you start listening to yourself and
as you began to act on your dream as you
start just trying to find your way doing
what you can what you have you will
start seeing things opening up for you
start attracting people you say where
did it come from
things will start coming together
clicking for you say whoa you start
brainstorming ideas will come out of
nowhere as you focus on it the key to it
is to begin to focus and what it is you
want to do Wireless why is that
important because as you focus on that
which you want to do that which we focus
on that which we give our energy to it
will begin to multiply it will begin to
expand it will begin to develop your
consciousness and out of that comes your
greatness out of that comes a commitment
out of that comes a passion for life out
of that comes a special power that you
have in you that you haven't even called
on yet see the the powers that we have
will never reveal themselves if we don't
challenge them if we don't put ourselves
in a position where we have to use them
so one of the most important things
that's reading a book that's a really
interesting book called instant
millionaire and the guy said put
yourself in a position where you can't
retreat where it's do-or-die sink or
swim
here's what your fine
you'll develop incredible swimming
skills or swallow half the pool of life
you'll find yourself stroking unlike
you've ever seen before through the
inspiration of desperation you'll become
more creative than ever before so what
is it how do we handle that whole piece
throw your whole self into it see most
people go at it tentatively they don't
give all their stuff they don't
concentrate they don't put everything
you've got in them one guy wrote a book
called all you can do is all you can do
and all you can do is enough but he said
make sure you do all you can do and if
we honest this evening we know that we
haven't done all we can do so as we look
at the future we can decide that from
this day forward as I look at my
personal relationships if I look at my
professional relationships if I look at
my family relationships if I look at all
the dimensions of my life looking at
myself mentally emotionally and
spiritually I'm going to do all I can do
to develop me to bring my talent out
here to make a contribution to light
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