- I have never ever seen this in a hotel before.
If I turn my camera around now, check this out:
Disco bath!
What is that?
I have never had a bath that has done that before.
And I'm trying to work it out because it doesn't look
like it would actually be that relaxing.
I think it would actually do my head in
being in that bath.
But anyway I probably should try it at least, you know,
'cause how many times you get to stay in a hotel
where there's a disco bath?
Or maybe that's not the purpose of it,
perhaps it's not for discoing,
but I think it's for discoing.
But anyway there's a lovely room,
this is my room in Northern Ireland.
Look at this bed and I've even got my,
I've got my Num Noms here.
These are from my daughter.
Whenever I go away to work she likes me
to take some of her toys so that they come along with me
so I've got my Num Noms with me.
But anyway, I should stop waffling
about this crazy hotel room
because actually there's a purpose,
and the purpose is that yesterday I shared an article
which was about how our brains are actually wired
for unhappiness, not happiness.
One of the things that they suggested
was that you could spend time trying
to rewire your brain for more happiness,
to find the positives effectively.
Now of course this is something that I've spent
my whole career doing because there's no way
I would have got across the Atlantic
in that tiny little rowing boat all on my own
for three and a half months, had I not found ways
constantly to find the positives.
So I'm a big believer that this can be done
and I wouldn't have achieved that challenge
of rowing solo across the Atlantic without it.
But in this article what is suggested
is that you could make a start by just trying to find,
spend one minute three times a day
thinking through the positives
and do that for 45 days in a row.
Now this got me thinking, it's been bothering me a bit
for about 24 hours because I've realised
that I do that a lot more than three times a day.
And I think we have an opportunity to do it
an awful lot more than three times a day,
because I think we have to find the positives constantly.
And I have a little term for them,
I call them my tiny victories,
and I have a day full of tiny victories.
There's been loads that have happened today.
I'll tell you a few of them.
I travelled to Bristol airport and for once
there were no road works near Bristol
so I didn't get stuck and I made it to the airport on time.
Yes, tiny mental fist pump!
Every time something like that happens and I get there
I think "Yeah, I'm here on time, I'm gonna make my plane.!"
Tiny victory!
And I think we have to kind of mentally
just take a moment to celebrate those tiny victories.
They're really important.
I got here to Northern Ireland,
I flew into Belfast International,
and unfortunately I left my laptop bag in the terminal
and went to meet the lovely lady who came
and picked me up from the Hanson Group,
and realised just as I was getting into the car
that I'd left my laptop bag.
So I raced back into the terminal and it was still there!
Another tiny victory!
I could have really berated myself at that moment,
"Debra, you are such an idiot".
It would have been really easy to have gone
to the negatives in that moment, to think,
"What if your laptop'd been stolen and your whole life,
the three companies you run through that laptop,
if you'd lost that, that would have been a nightmare."
But instead I didn't, I chose to see it
as a tiny victory, that it was still there,
I remembered before we'd driven off
and then I went back and collected it.
It's a tiny victory.
Oh I love that!
Somebody's put a little tiny fist pump.
Yes, mental fist pumps.
So I think we need to be much more aware
that we can celebrate these tiny victories
and that we need to constantly be looking for them
throughout the day.
And the good thing about an exercise like this
is that it's very easy to make it a habit.
You know, once you find yourself trying to get more
and more of these tiny victories into your head,
you start looking for them all.
It's a bit inside your brain,
the Reticular Activating System,
and it's a tiny little filter inside your brain
and it tells your brain the things
that are important to you to see.
And we have complete control over this.
We get to train that little bit of our brain
to see the positives.
So an example would be if someone says to you
"I'm gonna buy a yellow car" and you think
"What an idiot, you know, nobody buys yellow cars."
But then you'll notice when you go out onto the streets
for the next few days, everywhere you look
you'll see loads of yellow cars,
and that's because you've brought it
into your conscious brain,
into that Reticular Activating System,
and you've told it: "This is something in my conscious
that I'm interested to see."
So when we start to do that with the positives
or the tiny victories, we see more and more of them.
So it's just a case of starting to try to find
these tiny victories and then doing
some little mental fist pumps "yes, I did it",
or "we've done it" or "it's been good".
Then we start to see more and more of them.
So it's not a difficult concept, as with most of this stuff
it's really not rocket science, but it is possible
to have a huge impact by doing that.
Because it's not just you it impacts,
and I genuinely believe it makes me happier,
but just think about the ripple effect of that outwards,
what that does for your immediate family and friends.
what that does for your colleagues.
Nobody likes to be around a miserable git.
But when we can start to see the positives,
we become a much more pleasurable person to be around,
we become more motivated in everything.
At the moment the world's a pretty weird place to be,
isn't it? There's some stuff out there
that you turn the news and you think,
"Is this really happening?"
But we could choose to focus on that
and I think that would be a tragic thing to do.
Or we can start to see the tiny victories a little bit more.
And then maybe we can handle those crazy things
that are going on in the world
in a slightly more constructive way
'cause we're coming at it
with a much more positive attitude.
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