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When a Funeral is Overwhelming - Duration: 2:20.

When someone we love dies,

it's an incredible shock to our soul.

It doesn't matter how prepared we are,

how aware, how conscious,

it is still an incredible reconfiguring

of everything we are,

when someone who's been really important to us

slips out of their body

and out of our lives in a physical way.

In Western culture,

the only ritual we really have

to deal with that is a funeral,

but funerals happen, usually, say a week or so after,

and for many people, funerals are overwhelming

and stressful and we come out of them

not remembering who was there,

not remembering what was said,

just feeling like we got through.

What families need, I find,

is a series of rituals starting immediately at the death,

that help them slowly adjust

and have an opportunity to grieve.

So a ritual at the bedside just after a death,

a ritual with family members who start to fly in,

so there can be some grieving and some family connection.

Maybe another two or three,

depending on who the family is

and what the person's life was.

But if we have all those rituals along the way,

by the time we get to the funeral,

the family has a chance to integrate,

they've landed a little bit with what's happened,

and they're able to receive what the funeral has to give.

And what the funeral is, is a chance

for your friends and community to gather around you

and show you how much they love you,

and let you know, in a really big,

profound, formal ritual way that this mattered,

this death was significant,

and so that's an important soul healing,

but the funeral is not a grief ritual for the family

and families need grieving rituals.

The funeral, in a way, is a grieving ritual

for people who were more distant,

that's sufficient for them, but it's not for the family.

So if there's a way you could arrange a series of formal,

in the most informal kind of way,

but structured rituals between the moment someone dies

and the moment you have a funeral,

the funeral can be much more powerful

and much more effective.