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Hey there it's Dr. Andrea Libutti and today we're gonna talk about "is my child

gifted or autistic'" and you know this is an important topic because we often get

hung up on labels and labels can be really damaging now I get it you want

the autism label because you want to get services for example but we're gonna

talk about three things we're going to talk about redefining or reframing the

autism label we're going to talk about what gifted what it means to be gifted

what that is and I'm also going to introduce a new label a more empowering

label so the reason that this topic is really important is your child's

educational plan is very much connected to the label your child has so if they

have an autism label or a gifted label right but the problem with that is think

about it when you have an autism label what are they focusing on they're

focusing on the deficits if you have a gifted label it's like everybody's

focused on what that child is so good at so important topic here and I want to

try to reframe some things for you so you can look at things differently and

perhaps get your educational team on board with looking at things differently

too so let's talk about autism the word I I'd like to reframe the word autism

because and that's part of the work that I'm doing right I want to shift the

autism paradigm there is such a stigma behind the word autism right people want

to cure it people want to recover their child from autism and I totally get all

that autistic adults by the way hate that they there is no cure this is

ridiculous they're trying to ruin us as people or or you know belittle us as

autistic you know as humans so and I and I agree because it's the label that's

the problem so I look at autism not as a series of deficits and challenges I look

at a child with autism as somebody that came into the world extremely hyper

sensitive to everything around them right their brains are wired a little

different they think differently that's a really

really good thing that's not a bad thing my child's brilliance is because of his

autism but we get hung up on the label of autism and we want to recover them or

cure them from autism because we don't then want them to be autistic but what

if we what if we reframe autism as being just a hypersensitive individual of wire

differently individual and work to focus on what that child's strengths are not

just their deficits so you know it's important because the expectation of a

child that has autism versus a child that is gifted are two totally different

things and I want to reframe that for you I don't want you to think because my

child is autistic that all of their potential lies here but if they're

gifted their potential lives up here so think about it as you know a strengths

mindset really instead of thinking of your child with the label think of your

child not with their about their challenges so much but their strengths

and you know gifted this is the second part of this gifted is you know people

want their kids to be gifted they want them to be academic geniuses or musical

geniuses but giftedness can come in many forms it can be the academics for sure

we could have a a math genius and ela genius I know one of my friends has a

son that's 12 with autism and he is a language genius which is really ironic

cuz he doesn't talk much he can't talk much but he knows different languages

like he taught himself Japanese on an iPad I think that's phenomenal

but he's autistic and nobody's nobody's focusing on the fact that he has all

these amazing abilities with language they're focusing on his deficits so

anyway I diverged a little there gifted can take many forms yes the academics

yes musical giftedness artistic giftedness language giftedness visual

spatial giftedness my son is a visual spatial genius so to speak he is amazing

at his ability to manipulate visual spatial you know stuff learning

and details creating things and putting things together you can also have

athletic giftedness or physical can kinesthetic giftedness right like

athletes and people like that so don't just think of giftedness as only

academics it comes in many forms and you know again when you compare and contrast

autism versus gifted the label really gets in the way so I'm coming to number

three which is let's give a new label to our kids

and while the research says there's a very small percentage of autistic kids

that are are gifted this label it's called twice exceptional or tooie I

actually disagree because I think that every child has a genius something okay

there is some genius in every child no matter what it is and it's our job as

parents to figure out what that strength is but anyway the chui label I really

like that label because it's a very empowering label so consider if your

child is both are they autistic and gifted you don't have to be one or the

other you can be both and I suspect that a lot of these kids even these so-called

nonverbal low functioning kids which I hate that label they are extremely

intelligent and gifted in certain aspects so the take home label here okay

sorry the take home label the take home message here if there is only one thing

you take away from this then I want you to stop thinking about a label for your

child and think about a strengths mindset so if you can come up with what

is your child really good at what are they strong at and focus on that focus

all of your attention on that you will see your relationship with your child

your child's abilities everything will start to blossom if you if you come from

a place of a strengths mindset and it's really important to get your teachers

and educators on board with your child's strengths so if your teacher doesn't

know what your child's strengths are and they're not interested in learning get a

new teacher but if they are interested in learning be detectives together

figure out what they're really good at because that's the way your child

we'll be able to thrive so thank you for listening really important topic but

don't let the label lower your expectations okay if your child is

autistic look for the gifts okay they can be both and most are so thanks for

listening come on over to my website AndreaLibutti.com, if you're interested

in downloading some free checklists and some guides

that will help you on your autism journey I am really doing this because I

want to change how the world sees autism, I want parents to have the tools that

they can use to really help their children thrive and hopefully become

independent one day. So thanks for listening and have a great day

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IS OUR 27 YEAR FRIENDSHIP FAKE?! - Duration: 16:41.

[Abi:] We're trying to determine if Ashley and I are real or fake friends.

So how would we know if we're fake or real friends?

[Lana:] I would know and I would tell you. [Abi:] Okay, well what would you say?

[Lana:] It would kind of be like a Would You Rather test [Elise:] So Aunt Abi...

I've got a question. [Abi:] Okay.

[Elise:] Test one. [Abi:] Okay.

[Elise:] Do the robe dance in front of Ashley. [ Everyone laughs ]

[Abi:] Ooohhhh... [Lana:] No!

That's a dare.

We're doing, like, asking them Would You Rather questions

to see if they're fake or real friends.

[Lana:] Question number 1:

Would you rather… go out to a restaurant

or just sit there at your home and talk?

[Abi:] Are you saying what I think that Ashley would rather

and what Ashley thinks that I would rather?

[Lana:] No, you're saying...

[Abi:] I'm just saying what I would want.

[Lana:] It's only for one person at a time so I'd go—go like you first and then Ashley.

And whether which they would say is determining

if they are a real friend to each other or a fake friend to each other.

[Abi:] So what is the friend part?

Am I just saying what I would rather do and if they're the same then we're real friends?

[Lana:] No... [ Background laughter ]

[Abi:] I'm confused. [Lana:]But I'm saying—

We're saying, like, what would you rather do with them?

[Abi:] Ohhh, oh oh, okay. [Lana:] So...—

like, what would you rather do with or for them.

And determining what you answer would score you points to being real or fake friend.

I know a lot about it. [ Everyone laughs]

[Elise:] Or like what you would get for the other person—

[Lana:] The question was, Aunt Abi, would you rather go with Ashley to a restaurant

or just sit at your home and talk?

[Abi:] I would rather sit at home and talk.

[Lana:] How 'bout you? [Ashley:] I—Same.

[Elise:] Okay, now I'm gonna change the question up a little bit.

Would you rather go to a restaurant and not talk at all...

[ Ashley laughs ] [Elise:] Or—

Or would you rather sit at home and have to talk all day long?

[Abi:] We'd definitely sit at home and talk all day long!

[Ashley:] (Laughing) Same, but it would be funny

[Lana:] Oh wait can we go— [Abi:] (Laughing) We should do a challenge

Real Friends Challenge:

Go to a restaurant and not talk! [Lana:] Can you go upstairs—

Can you go upstairs and, like, make a thing... [Ashley:] You know what, we would just laugh.

[Lana:]... and put "F" and "R"? [Ashley:] We would sit there and laugh 'cause we weren't talking.

[Abi:] So we have our—our camera here now.

[Lana:] Would you rather...— [Abi:] I like that Emmett's just in the background.

[Ashley:] He's just chillin'. [Lana:] Oh, I need a pencil...

Be right back, YouTube!

[Ashley:] Oh, yeah, yeah, that's right. [Lana:] Okay!

Would you rather... go to the mall for a day... together. Or would you rather...

[Ashley:] ... stare at each other in a coffee shop? [Lana:] (Laughing) Nooooo!

[Abi:] (Laughing) Without talking. [Lana:] —just...

go and sit in a restaurant and stare at each other.

[Abi:] Are we allowed to talk? [Lana:] Just staring at each other.

Does it sound like it?! [Abi:] So—are we—are we allowed to talk at the mall?

[Lana:] (Quietly) Yeah... [Abi:] Okay, then

[Abi:] the mall. Yeah! [Ashley:] The mall.

[Abi:] I don't know how points work in this game [ Ashley laughs ]

[Abi:] To clarify— [Lana:] Trust me,

we know what we're doing. [Ashley:] I think that we might be tied so far...

[Abi:] Yeah, I think—

[Ashley:] ... if there's a point system. [Lana:] I can tell you right now, real friends is winning.

[Abi:] Oh... oh great. [Ashley:] Oh, real friends is winning.

[Abi:] Good, phew! So— [Ashley:] Real—hashtag real friends team.

[Abi:] (Laughing) Yeah! Hashtag real friends! Team Real Friends.

Comment down below if you think Ashley and I are real friends.

[Lana:] Yeah! Comment down below if you think they're gonna be real or fake.

[Abi:] Can you real quick explain what's happening? 'Cause I don't think we did that.

[Lana:] We're doing a test to see whether they're real or fake friends.

[Abi:] Ashley and I, who have known each other for 27 years.

[Ashley:] So we say... [Abi:] Yes! So we say! is that true?!

[Lana:] And don't forget, smash that like button!

Subscribe... [Ashley:] Smash it! Smash it.

Smash that like button. [Abi:] (Aggressively) Smash that like button!

Like! Subscribe! [Lana:] Follow her Instagram and Twitter!

[Abi:] Click that notification bell. [Lana:] No Snapchat.

[Abi:] Yeah, let's not do Snapchat. I don't do Snapchat anymore.

[Lana:] Yeahhhh, anymore. Okay.

And I hope you like this video! [ Ashley laughs ]

[Abi:] She watches a lot of YouTube.

Um, excuse you! That's not how you spell my name! [Elise:] I don't care...

[ Abi gasps ] [Lana:] Yeah, she spelled it on this thing too.

[Abi:] Do you know how to spell my name?

Let's say real niece or fake niece! I think that is the bigger question here!

[Lana:] No... Third question. Oh wait, no, fourth.

Would you rather... go to each other's house and help decorate

or would you rather go to her house and just stand there [ Abi and Ashley laugh incredulously ]

—just stand there whatsoever while she's decorating?!

[Abi:] I think I'd like to help. [Lana:] Yes! Good!

I would do that too. [Ashley:] That's a good answer.

I would love it! Yeah. [Abi:] Yeah!

Can you imagine? [Ashley:] Yeah. It would be so fun!

[Abi:] I'm just imagining me being like, "You're doing great!"

[ Abi and Ashley laugh ] And you're just like, "Christmas!"

[Ashley:] "Yeah, more that way." [Abi:] Yeah. "It's gotta—You're missing a spot."

[Ashley:] I love that that's always the other option.

It's just like not anything [Abi:] I like—well—fake friends!

They just stare at each other! [Lana:] Same? Ashley, Same?

[Ashley:] Sorry! Yes, same! Absolutely same. [ Abi laughs ]

[Abi:] You would help? Oh my god. [Ashley:] I would help you. Hundred percent.

[Lana:] Real is still winning.

[ Ashley laughs ] [Abi:] Phew...

[Lana:] I think we're asking too basic questions, like they know.

[ Abi laughs ] [Ashley:] Okay... [laughs]

[Abi:] Oh god, it's gonna get harder! [Lana:] Five!

Would you rather... go and get Ashley a Christmas tree

or go and get Ashley a special ornament for her Christmas tree.

[Abi:] I would get her a special ornament because I would want her to be able to pick out her tree.

[Ashley:] Same. Yeah. A hundred percent, that's what I was thinking.

[Lana:] Real is still winning!

Now this is gonna be the hardest question! [Ashley:] Okay, I'm ready.

Hold on, I'm gonna crack my neck.

Alright, alright. [ Abi grunts in fake exertion ]

[Lana:] (Laughing) Uhhh, what??

Would you rather buy tickets to a movie— [Ashley:] These are great ideas by the way.

I love them. [Lana:] —she wanted to see

[Abi:] We were just talking about this.

[Lana:] Or ha—or go and let her see the circus she really wanted to see.

[Abi:] Oooooh! [Laughs] Am I going with her?

[Lana:] ... Yes? [ Ashley laughs ]

[Abi:] A hundred percent—this is maybe selfish, but I would buy you tickets to the circus.

[ Ashley laughs ] [Abi:] 'Cause that would be so fun to go together!

[Ashley:] It would be very, very fun. [Abi:] And we could talk!

[Ashley:] Yes. I don't think that I've been to, like, a real circus.

[Lana:] On this question sheet, there are 4 reals and 2 fakes.

[Abi:] (Incredulously) Two fakes?! [Ashley:] Whoa. Where'd the fakes come from?

[Abi:] Yeah, where'd the fakes come from? [Lana:] Fake came in last and fake came in first.

[Abi:] Us going to a restaurant versus [Lana:] But—

[Abi:] us sitting at home and talking. [Lana:] But it's two—It's two—

All your answers were the same.

[Abi:] Oh, but, like circus isn't real friends stuff.

Movies are. [Lana:] Time to get real, people. Last six.

[ Lana laughs ]

[Ashley:] Oh, do you have different questions? [Elise:] Yes.

[Ashley:] Oh, okay, okay. [Lana:] There's 12 questions, there's 12 questions.

[Abi:] So we're done Lana's segment. [Elise:] Okay, so if you had to compete against each other

If you were the one that won, would— and you won a million dollars,

would you rather you win that or her win one penny.

[Lana:] Yeah, like, so, if you were gonna win and you won a million dollars,

would you rather you take it and she gets one penny

or you give it to her and take one penny. [Abi:] This is gonna get me a fake friend.

[Ashley:] I have—I have a way that I'm gonna answer this.

[Abi:] I—I also do. Do you wanna go first?

Since we've switched? [Ashley:] Kind of!

[Abi:] Yeah, go for it!

[Ashley:] So I would obviously rather win the million dollars. [Abi:] Yes.

[Ashley:] But I would give you some of it. [Abi:] Yes!

[ Ashley laughs ] [Abi:] Because winning a penny isn't going

to be good for either of us!

[Ashley:] Not gonna change anything, so... [Abi:] Yes!

[Ashley:] Yeah, dude. Yeah. [Abi:] Yes. Agreed.

I would rather win a million and share it with you. Yes. [Ashley:] Yeah, yes, of course.

[Elise:] Okay, so say the other friend loved loved loved cats.

[Ashley:] [Laughs] Just say. [Abi:] Just say...

[Elise:] You just bought enough money to get three cats.

Would you buy the cats because you think you love cats more

or would you let—give her the money to buy the cats?

[Lana:] What she's saying is

would you buy the cats for her? [Abi:] In this scenario, you only have money for the cats.

Can't buy anything else.

[Ashley:] Uh, money for the cats. Who's buying them, basically.

Um, she's buying the cats...

I'm not. [Lana:] So that is obviously—

[Elise:] I know, I know.

[Ashley:] That's-that's-that's my answer

is that I would not buy the cats. [Lana:] Did you say the same?

Would you say the same? Or would you say— [Ashley:] I would not buy a cat. [Laughs]

[Lana:] Did you say the same?

[Abi:] So no, because I don't think [Ashley:] I think that that's, like, my answer.

Ashley would want to buy cats. [Ashley:] No.

[Abi:] So I would buy cats. [Ashley:] Yeah.

I guess if I had the money and that you wanted the cats,

I would give you the money so you could buy the cats.

[Abi:] Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. [Ashley:] If that's what you wanted.

[Abi:] And I would, like, for sure ask you if you wanted cats,

but if you didn't want cats I'm not gonna force you to buy cats with this money.

[Ashley:] Yes. [Abi:] So I'm gonna buy the cats.

[Ashley:] You're buying the cats.

[Abi:] Shew. [Ashley:] Sweatin'.

[Abi:] I'm already sweating. I know. [Ashley:] Palms are sweating.

[Elise:] Would you rather take, um... your friend to a store that she hates

or would you rather, um, let her take you to a store that you hated?

[ Adults laugh ] [Elise:] And that she loved.

[Ashley:] Oh, okay. [Abi:] Sure.

[Ashley:] So that's the other part of it is that the store that one of us hates

[Lana:] I get this.I get this. [Ashley:] also the other person loves.

[Abi:] Yeah, would you—yeah, yeah, yeah. [Ashley:] Okay.

[Abi:] Do we go to a store that you love or that I love?

(Laughing) If we hate the other one? [Ashley:] Yeah.

Very hard question. I'm also trying to think of a store that you hate.

[Abi:] That you would love. [Ashley:] But I can't—

Right and I can't think of what that would be.

[Abi:] Like, let's not go to Spencers but I can't imagine that you would be like, "I love Spencers!"

[Ashley:] No. No. I—Yeah. [Abi:] Or Cool Topic.

[Ashley:] I don't know that we would ever be in that position.

Realistically I don't think that we would be in that position.

And I know that's not the answer. [Abi:] Yeah and it's hard for me to imagine a thing

where we can't just both go to the stores that we love.

[Ashley:] Yeah. I don't know, I feel like I can't answer that question.

[Elise:] You have to answer it. [Ashley:] I have to answer it?

[Ashley:] Then the place that I love, then. [Elise:] We're just gonna come back to it.

[Abi:] I would—yeah, I would recommend that we just meet up afterwards.

Like, you go to your store and I go to my store [Ashley:] Yeah!

[Abi:] And then we'll circle back afterwards.

Does that sound good? [Ashley:] I've done that.

A lot of my life I've done that. [Abi:] Yeah! I'm like,

"I don't need to go in that store but you can go, that's fine."

[Ashley:] Yeah. Yeah. [Abi:] I don't need to be with you all the time.

[Elise:] If you guys had to be separated, so like—

[Ashley:] Already are. [Laughs] [Elise:]—one of you had to move.

[Elise:] One of you had to move. [Abi:] So say somebody moves to Montana.

[Ashley:] Yeah.

[Elise:] If your friend moved away and you could visit five days a month

for a lot a lot a lot a lot— so like $100 each plane trip.

[Abi:] Wowwww. That's a lot. [Ashley:] Man. That's—

[Elsie:] Would you do it? Or would you just go one day a year?

[Ashley:] I think if it's $100 a trip... and I could go for five days a month...

I would absolutely do that. In a heartbeat. [Abi:] (Laughing) Yeah, right?

[Ashley:] In a heartbeat! [Abi:] Yeah. Right.

[Lana:] I definitely know what that is. [Elise:] Aunt Abi, what's your answer?

[Abi:] Yeah, if it was $100, sure... The thing is... [laughs]

[Ashley:] ... it is more than 100. [Abi:] It's a lot more than $100.

[Ashley:] Yeah.

[Elise:] Okay, then I'm gonna change it to $2,000.

[Abi:] Okay, so $2,000 every month. That's a lot of money.

I think if I was saying what I'd hope you would do... I would hope that you would save your money.

[Ashley:] Oh yeah! If it was $2,000? [Abi:] Yeah.

[Elise:] But, like, what would you do? [Abi:] I'd be like, "Please, it's okay—"

I mean, realistically I would only come once a year. [Ashley:] Yeah.

[Abi:] Because I don't have that kind of money. [Ashley:] Right.

[Abi:] I don't even make that in a month, [Ashley:] Right.

[Abi:] like I don't have that. [Ashley:] Yeah.

[Elise:] What was your answer? [Ashley:] If it's that much then I would say once a year.

But if finances are boomin' then... [Abi:] Yeah!

[Ashley:] Then I'd be out there way more! [Abi:] Oh yeah!

The sad realities of life! That's where we're at now. [Ashley:] Yeah! Making us sad over here.

[Abi:] I know...

[Elise:] Okay, so your friend had a dream, okay?

They had this really big house, really big mansion, with a lot a lot of money and they don't have a lot right now.

Would you do that? Would you, like, try and make their dream come true?

Or would you just say, like, "Back off, it's not my problem"?

[Abi:] Awww. [ Everyone laughs ]

[Ashley:] "It's not my problem!" [Lana:] Ooooh!

I definitely know which is which right now.

[Ashley:] I would absolutely help you, ya know, if that was your dream.

[Abi:] Yeah. [Ashley:] Ya know?

In any way that would be... Ya know... I would be capable of doing, ya know?

[Abi:] Right! You wouldn't ask me to do a thing that I couldn't.

[Ashley:] No. [Abi:] So I feel like, if you were like,

"Hey, help me do a bake sale so I can get my house."

[Ashley:] Yeah I wouldn't— [Abi:] I'd be like, "Heck yeah!"

[Ashley:] I wouldn't be like, "Nah, dude. That's all you, man" [Abi:] Yeah. Right, right, right.

If—yes, if there was a reasonable way to help you reach your dream of a mansion

[Ashley:] (Laughing) Yeah. [Abi:] I would a hundred percent help you.

[Ashley:] That's actually, uh, a part of my dream so... [Abi:] Oh, ooh.

[Ashley:] And, um... I'm gonna need your help. [Abi:] Yeah—okay, well let's do it!

[Elise:] We're gonna go upstairs and count the results and we'll come back to tell you later.

Comment down there—

[Abi:] What do you think? [Ashley:] What do you think the results are gonna be?

[Abi:] Real friends? [Lana:] Last chance to comment down below

if you think they're real or fake! [Elise:] (Whispering) Comment!

[Ashley:] Real or fake. [Lana:] See you guys later.

[Abi:] I think what's fascinating about this is to see what they think are real and fake friends.

[Ashley:] Yes, yes, yes.

[Abi:] The really fascinating part about this is we were just talking

about how I want to do a thing where I'm, like, looking at friendships

and studying... and talking to people. [Ashley:] Yeah.

[Abi:] That's like very strange that this became a thing. [Ashley:] Yeah!

And we were literally talking about sitting down and talking about that.

[Abi:] And so much of this was like sacrificing for your friends and that is exactly what I was—

[Ashley:] —what she was talking about. That's really funny.

[Abi:] This'll be the-the entry point. [ Everyone laughs ]

[Ashley:] I like their questions. [Mom:] This is what 9-year-olds think about friendship.

[Ashley:] Yes.

[Abi:] Well, and it's so funny to see the difference in their questions.

Lana was clearly like all or nothing. Like, do you want to go all in or do you want nothing?

[Ashley:] Yeah. Either you are friends

or you are absolutely not friends. [Abi:] Right.

And Elise was like how much will you give up? [Ashley:] Yeah.

[Abi:] Like, how much will you give to the other person? [Ashley:] Are you gonna drain your savings to—

[Abi:] (Laughing) —to see them every month?!

It's funny, like, when you're in a situation like school where you see your friends every day

it seems... not possible to have a friendship that you don't see each other for months.

[Ashley:] Mhm. Mhm.

[Abi:] Emmett? [Emmett:] What?

[Abi:] You doing okay? [Emmett:] Yeah.

[Abi:] Okay. [Emmett:] I—I have to scare the persons.

[Abi:] Oh. [Emmett:] The ghost is in the potty!

[Abi:] Man, that's some serious deliberation.

[Ashley:] What do you think?

You think we're gonna be real friends or we're gonna be fake?

[Abi:] I think it's close. [Ashley:] I think it's gonna be close.

[Elise:] (From a distance) Okay, we've counted the results!

[Ashley:] Oh boy. [Abi:] Oh boy!

Oh gosh. [Lana:] I can tell you right now...

[ Ashley laughs ]

[Elise:] Okay, so... [Abi:] Are you gon—Well, get in camera!

[Elise:] Okay, so we counted the results

[ Drumroll ] [Elise:] Okay, so four—five and down is fake.

And six and up is real.

[Abi:] Gotta get to six! [Elise:] So Ashley...

[Ashley:] Mhm? [Elise:] You got a five.

[ Abi gasps ] [Ashley:] (Shocked) Really?!

... Five [Elise:] And Aunt Abi, you got a six.

[Abi:] I'm so real... [Ashley:] Yup, you're so real. So real.

[Abi:] Literally the last thing I've ever called you is fake. Like, that would be the absolute last thing.

[Elise:] See, you can look at the chart for yourself.

[Lana:] So Ashley's a fake friend... [Abi:] Ummm, so I'm confuuuused—

I'm confused as to what you got different than me. [Ashley:] Yeah.

[Mom:] I am too since you all answered every question the same.

[Ashley:] Yeah. [Elise:] No, except for one!

[Abi:] No, we answered the cat question different.

[Elise:] Except for one. [Ashley:] Oh I did say—what did I say...

That I would just take you somewhere— [Abi:] But I would keep the money for the cats??

[Ashley:] Yeah, well the one thing was where do you want to—

do you want to go somewhere that they hate or somewhere that they love

[Abi:] Ohhhhh. Yeah, yeah, yeah. [Ashley:] And I said I'll just pick that

because it was not a— [Elise:] Okay guys, so this is the chart.

[Ashley:] I'm a fake friend. [Abi:] Yeah.

Well, I don't know what this means [Lana:] If you guys voted half/half,

[Abi:] if one of us is real and one of us is fake? [Lana:] then you are real—

[Ashley:] I don't know.

[Lana:] Then comment down below, "I'm right!"

[Ashley:] How do you rate your friendships?

[Abi:] How do you quantify the... [Ashley:] How do you—yeah, yeah...

[Abi:] ...your friendships? [Elise:] And we just figured out how!

[Abi:] And tell us what to do now that I'm a real friend

and Ashley is not! [Ashley:] How do I be a better friend?

[Abi:] Yeah! [Ashley:] How do I be more real?

[Abi:] How do we continue with our friendship knowing that only half of it is real?

[Ashley:] I'm sorry... [laughs] [Abi:] It's okay... my heart is only half broken.

[Ashley:] Next time we'll go somewhere that I hate and you love.

[ Abi laughs ]

And then I think that that's—that's the thing that's needs to happen.

[Abi:] I've just gotta drag you to a store that you hate. [Ashley:] Yeah.

[Abi:] That's how we become real friends! [Ashley:] Yes. That's what it is.

We'll have a moment. [Abi:] Yeah.

Well, and it'll be one of the like—our monthly trips. [Ashley:] I've gotta take you to a place I hate.

[Abi:] To each other, for $100. [Ashley:] It's a—It'll a be a bonding, uh...

friendship strengthening... experience.

[Abi:] 'Cause if there's one thing that I require from my friendships, it's torture.

[Ashley:] Yes. [laughs] [Abi:] I just want you to hate our time together.

Okay! Well, this has been a video.

Thank you to our quizmasters, Elise and Lana. [Ashley:] Yeah, thank you so much.

[Abi:] Thank you to my fake friend, Ashley. [Laughs] [Ashley:] Anytime. [Laughs]

[Abi:] Thank you to our background entertainment, Emmett.

[Lana:] And thank you to the drop-ins [Ashley:] Yes!

[Lana:] and sounds by the tablets.

[Abi:] Yeah, sounds by the tablets. [Ashley:] Sounds provided by tablets.

[Elise:] And we'll see what they should do next time.

[ Everyone laughs ]

[Abi:] See y'all later! [Lana:] Bye!!

We hope you liked this video and we'll see y'all next time!

Goodbye! [Brin:] Byeeee!