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6 minute English, from BBC learning English.com Alice
Hello and welcome to 6 Minute English.
I'm Alice…
Neil … and I'm Neil.
Hello.
Alice Hello, Neil.
Now tell me, do you usually go dutch when you take someone out to dinner?
Neil Now go dutch means to share the cost of something,
for example a meal in a restaurant.
Well Alice, no, I usually expect my date to pay actually.
Alice I hope you're joking, Neil.
But I wouldn't be surprised!
Personally, I think it's a nice gesture to offer to pay for the meal when you're on a
date.
Neil Yeah.
But it can depend on the situation – some people might be very offended if you offered
to pay for everything!
Alice Well yes, true.
Clearly you're not going to offend those people, Neil, though are you?
And I won't be going to dinner with you any time soon.
Neil Well, I didn't ask so calm down, Alice!
Actually, money matters can cause relationship problems in couples – and that's the subject
of the show.
Here's today's quiz question based on a UK survey.
Ready, Alice?
Alice I am indeed.
Neil What percentage of married couples don't know
exactly what their spouse earns?
Is it: a) 4%?
b) 14%?
Or c) 44% Alice
Well, gosh!
I think b) 14%.
Yes, that sounds about right to me.
Neil Well, we'll find out if you're right or wrong
later on.
Now, it seems important that couples are honest about their finances because it can have an
impact on their future financial options together.
Alice Yes, that's right.
If you're buying a house together and then find out later that your spouse – your husband
or wife – is thousands of pounds in debt, then the chances are you won't be able to
get a mortgage.
To be in debt, by the way, means to owe money to someone.
Neil Good point.
A mortgage is where a bank lends you money to buy a house.
Let's listen now to what Arabella Russell, a relationship therapist, has to say about
this.
INSERT Arabella Russell, relationship therapist
The fact of the matter is it's very difficult – it can be very difficult – to talk about
money.
Often when we talk about money, it's emotions very close to us – there's guilt, there's
shame.
What have we done in the past?
To start those conversations is complicated.
Money can be about how we value ourselves, how we feel valued.
It's not just a simple case of talking about hard cash.
Neil Arabella talks about 'hard cash'.
Now what does that mean?
Alice Well, we say hard cash when we talk about
physical money – the coins and banknotes – as opposed to other types of payment.
Neil And why do we find it so difficult to talk
about cash, Alice?
Alice Well, because we get emotional about it!
Arabella talks about feelings of guilt and shame.
And for many of us, money isn't simply money – it can be about how we value ourselves
or feel valued.
Neil Right – so if I were to buy you a cheap
engagement ring you would feel undervalued.
Alice Nice example, Neil!
You can't be a cheapskate when it comes to engagement rings!
So how much would you spend on our engagement ring, Neil?
Neil Well… um…
I didn't know we were getting married!
But if I was buying an engagement ring for you Alice, I think definitely I would spend
about… you know around... in the region of … mmm pounds…
Alice Sorry, Neil, I didn't quite catch that.
Alright!
Neil Are you calling me a cheapskate?
Alice I certainly am, Neil.
Cheapskate means someone who doesn't like spending money, by the way.
Moving on – let's hear more from Arabella about how people have different attitudes
towards money.
INSERT Arabella Russell, relationship therapist
Accept the fact that in your relationship you might do money differently – there might
be a spender there might be a saver.
It's very tempting if your partner does things differently to say they're wrong.
They might do it differently because they see money differently.
Do it differently but have a budget.
Of course be honest about each other but recognise that you might just have a different view
of money.
Neil Now that sounds like excellent advice to me!
I'm a saver, and I'm not ashamed to say it.
Why waste money on an expensive engagement ring?
Engagements don't always last.
You might drop the ring down the kitchen sink or…
Alice How romantic, Neil!
Neil … it could be stolen or you might meet someone
else.
Alice Indeed.
Now I know I shouldn't say you're wrong… but you're wrong!
You have to invest in a relationship if you want it to work.
Neil Calm down.
I see money differently to you.
I'm a saver and you're a spender, and that's all there is to it.
And a budget means the money you have available for something and a plan for how to use it.
Alice Well, we'll have to agree to differ.
And that means accept that we have different opinions on this one!
Can we have the answer to today's quiz question then, please?
Neil Yes, we can.
I asked: What percentage of married couples don't know exactly what their spouse earns?
Is it: a) 4%?
b) 14%?
Or c) 44% Alice
And I said b) 14%.
Neil And you are absolutely and completely… wrong!
The correct answer is 44%.
Now that's according to new research conducted by the UK credit report service, Noddle, who
also found that an astonishing 1.9 million married couples actively try to keep their
finances secret from their partners!
Alice Gosh, what a lot of people!
Can we have today's words again then, Neil, please?
Neil Yes, we can.
Here they are: go dutch
spouse to be in debt
mortgage hard cash
cheapskate budget
agree to differ Alice
Well, that brings us to the end of today's 6 Minute English.
We hope you thought today's programme was good value.
Please join us again soon.
See you then.
Both Bye.
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