Waching daily Jul 4 2017

hey guys it's your life coach Alyssa Hammond here and I wanted to talk to you

for a couple minutes about the do's and don'ts of texting in relationship. So,

the reason I wanted to cover this is because texting is probably one of the

best modern inventions we have. It makes our life so much easier and it's really

really helpful for relationships because you can keep in touch throughout the day

without having pressure to answer the phone you can kind of get to it when

you can stay in touch throughout the entire day and you never have to

miss anything that's going on but it has introduced some issues into

relationships that probably weren't there when our grandparents were around

primarily because things can be really misconstrued with with the reading

through text so I thought I would take a couple minutes to talk about a couple

do's and a couple don'ts as far as texting in relationships go. So number

one with the do's do send sweet text throughout the day this is something

that I think a lot of people don't do because they think it's something that

their cell things he doesn't care about but just the same as it makes you smile

to get a text I promise your significant other will appreciate it as well

especially if it's a girl they love hearing that you're thinking about them

and that you're excited to see them so don't underestimate that that is a way

to keep your relationship alive and I really think texting was a huge help to

my husband and I win he was living in Philadelphia for two years when we

started dating so that's how we kept in touch that's how I knew was going on

with his life and we had a lot of growth through texting but also issues which is

why I'm doing this video. So number two for Do's would be ask yourself how

things could be interpreted whenever using the text so I'll give you an

example cuz I think it's kind of funny so I had texted my friend one time and I

used a period at the end of the sentence and she texted me back like 'are you mad

me?' and I was 'like what are you talking about?' because we were talking about something

super trivial and she was if we put a period at the end of your sentence and I

was like oh wait is that something that for people like take the wrong way

because I probably do that a lot so now I don't mean like periods at the end of

any sentences another example would be my husband- if I'm having a crappy day

and I text in something and it's just kind of like off the cuff and it's not

particularly one thing or another just adding in that smiley face at the end

makes a big difference in the way things can be interpreted so just always ask

yourself how things can be taken I know it seems like a lot of work but I

promise you after two days of doing it you're not going to think that anymore

just going it's just going to come naturally. Let's move on to don'ts because

that's the primary reason I wanted to do this video. So don't assume that their

text means anything just so me that I just said be careful to make sure that

there isn't a way for someone to interpret or rather misinterpret the

things you're saying the same goes for when you're receiving a text if you get

a text from your significant other saying something that you're not sure

what it means just ask them to clarify cuz we've all done it we've all been like

'what was that?' and then they're like 'oh, no, I was just walking very quickly and

trying to text you before I went into a meeting' and I'm sitting there waiting

for like an hour thinking he's really pissed because he put a period at the

end of his text or you know whatever it may be so um don't make assumptions if

anyone says something that you don't understand get clarification I promise

it'll save you a lot of sight okay number two with the don'ts don't ask

them for a favor without responding to the last thing they said. For example if

I am you know heading out and I need my husband to grab something on the way

home if I notice that he texted me and I hadn't responded to it yet I need to

make an effort to respond to that instead of just 'texting can you get milk

on the way home' and I think that's something that you probably

think that much about until you're a bit older and you've been kind of settled in

your marriage and you are just really communicating without saying anything

like particularly lovey so I know that's one thing that I've really tried to

focus on is respond to my husband whatever he was saying you know say 'I

love you' say whatever I need to say in response to whatever he was saying and

then ask him nicely for whatever favor I need him to do and tell them how much it

means to you so reminding them in text is great because is that something they

can read over and over again the third don't would be don't use texting as a

means of fighting um anytime you're fighting get on the phone I promise you

promise you it will go better than talking via text or go see them that's

even better go see them because when you're texting things can be

misconstrued and I don't know if you've ever heard of a tube of toothpaste

theory where when words are like a tube of toothpaste if you like squeeze out

the toothpaste it's very hard to get it back in same thing with words if you put

those out there you really can't take them back so via text is specially hard

to take it back because that person can then read back through everything when

maybe when the fight is over and it's going to pick them back off again

instead of texting them quickly and just trying to get the fight over with call

them and talk it through and it will be better. Okay guys so those are my tips I

just had a couple of each but I just wanted to help you if you've been having

any trouble with communication in your relationship texting may be the reason

why so texting is great but keep the conversation light and it will really

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have any do's or don'ts for texting relationships that have been helpful for

you I'd love to hear them and I'll see you guys next time