In my study, what makes me happy is that
I don't know. Just
trying to make the world better
with your knowledge.
I mean this is science and
I'm,
I call myself a future scientist so
I would like to say it's like;
when you do something
and then you see that it really works
that really is what makes me happy.
The performance was like really really good
and we
we put everything that we could into it,
So the moment right after
when you
when you're coming back to the stage
for the applause,
and you're completely, completely happy with your friends
and you know that you have done something
that made other people enjoy and
and, and celebrate the dance.
And I think that was, that was such a beautiful moment.
I'm really curious about stuff.
So I'm,
If something interests me I read a book about it, you know.
Or like
spiritual books and stuff.
It can help you like see different perspectives.
I think.
So like
I like people.
I like to
exchange ideas.
I think I'm one of the luckier guys
that found a job that makes me happy.
Definitely.
Does studying make me happy?
It does, when I'm interested in like what I'm doing very very much.
Like I could just sit and do this thing for like ten hours.
But when I'm not interested it's just like I'm doing anything else
It does make me happy.
Like, I just like learning.
So basically, I am happy in spite of
everything that's going on in Croatia so..
Well I think basically if you work hard and everything
And if you work smart most of all
then you can do something anywhere.
But you know
Croatia is just a lot harder than anywhere else I think.
Sometimes I can feel it.
When I'm in a concert and
there is a very passionate
artist.
And I feel when he gives me something
And I feel these good
emotions and
something more than
normal life.
I started skateboarding in Italy.
And a lot of people said to me: ''Go home and play with your barbies
because you're a girl and you can't skate''
And I moved to here.
It's another thing.
Not like, like in Italy.
And also my mother said it : ''Oh don't skate. And
it's shit. You're a girl.
Come on, don't be like a boy''.
And I said ''Ok, I'll move here'' and
I started a new life when I was seventeen.
Started working.
And
now I do what I want.
My passion.
is very close to writing.
It involves writing but not the writing itself.
I mean no one else should
should say what you should be doing
instead of you.
So yeah, you have to be brave
to make such a big decision
to move somewhere else because you are
maybe you're not meant to live
where you were born.
It's not a big thing.
Just move and find it.
You don't have to work in an office
until you go and retire.
I saw a study
that was made in Harvard University.
And it was like a longterm study about happiness.
It took them like 100 years.
And they were interviewing people
from a very young age until the old age.
And they had different backgrounds
different
careers
different like
way of life.
And what they basically found out
is that relationships
are the most important thing in life.
When I
meet somebody
and I have a good time with him
and then we can split
for a couple of years
and then we meet again
and it's the same.
That's the
that's the real friendship.
I'm married. So.
Now I can tell that
my wife is also one of my best friends.
She's my best friend.
What do I miss?
That
I can't hear her voice.
I can.
I can call her of course.
But like,
I don't feel her.
I don't see
what
what her face looks like when she's talking.
Or something like that.
Her emotion.
You know.
So I miss this.
The only, the only person
Who knows about is is my girlfriend.
That I'm
That I'm afraid of
of losing my parents.
The strong relation between parents
I think, it is the
the really basic elementary
and the most important thing in family.
Because when you see your parents
They are for thirty years together
not with anyone else.
You also
you also want to be like them. You know.
So this is really,
really important.
You have to make compromises.
Because
there is no one in the world
who is exactly the same as you.
If your friend can make you laugh
then that means that you're like on the same wave in life I think.
People make happiness.
I would say.
So if you want to be happy;
Be the people.
Be the friendship.
And have strong families
with strong relationships.
I don't live with my boyfriend right now.
Because
He is in Denmark working and I am now here in Czech studying.
But
in
this
how do you say it
electronic life
we are almost all the time together.
Because you are chatting on the internet
or calling on the phone
so we are not
I'm not living now with my boyfriend
but actually
we are almost all the time together.
I guess, personally
I just think it's important to love yourself first.
Because you can't build a healthy relationship
if you're relying on someone constantly for validation and affirmation.
You need to really just stand on your own
and be independent while also being with someone else.
And I think that has always been really important to me.
I think that it's crucial not to need someone, but to want someone.
Love and happiness I see as the same thing.
So, two sides of one coin.
I can't think of any fear as strong as the one of
''Does anybody love me?''
And if the answer is ''no'' at that moment, it really hurts.
It's really lonely, really alienating.
I think that's a big downside.
If we can call that a downside.
Love contributes to my happiness in life because
well actually my husband has kind of given me purpose since I've been here.
At the time when I met him.
I was really in a bad place where I was, in New York.
I wasn't doing well.
I was really depressed and he kind of took me out of that
and put me in this beautiful place.
And since then I have had a stable career and
I feel home.
So, I have my dogs and everything.
I think he
well I don't know.
It's just,
again, my friends told me it's not true
but I feel that he could get a better girl than I am.
Which is a stupid feeling because no one should feel that way.
But I still do, I don't know.
Don't give up.
When you can not find love in your city move somewhere else.
Change your life, change your, maybe friends.
But don't change yourself
and be sure about what you are and what you want to do
and you will probably find somebody that will fit with you.
I think freedom is
There's thousand different, different definitons of freedom.
And it depends on yourself.
For me it's
trying to be as honest as I can with myself
and with the people I love.
Yeah.
and
and freedom always comes with pain
and suffering.
So in order to be free
you need to go through that
and accept that suffering is part of it.
I think
choice is a massive luxury that we have. I think
choice is a massive luxury that we have.
Some people don't.
Right now like refugees and stuff.
They don't have a choice.
They have to survive and that's it, you know.
So in a way it's a luxury.
It's a huge opening.
But at the same time of course
it brings massive anxiety and
It takes time to find your way.
Because there's so many things.
Just like in a fucking supermarket.
Like I just wanted cornflakes.
You know like.
There's thousand fucking cornflakes.
Which do..
So of course it demands you
to be much more sure about what you need
and what you want.
So yeah it's overwhelming.
Big time.
It means whatever like
I want to be free.
No one's gonna tell me to do this and do that.
And that's why I decided to be a dancer.
Because now I can be my own,
boss.
Even though my parents said: ''Okay hm...''
But I mean
It's my life.
As long as I'm healthy and
I'm free
I'm good.
Freedom is
the
possibility
or the
capability
to choose
to pick on the choices.
And
depending on our many choices
and who decides the choices
we are more or less free.
But also sexually
I think Berlin has a sexual scene
which is
fucking amazing.
And for me
Berlin has made me free in my sexuality a lot.
A lot, a lot, a lot.
I went to a sex club which I would never do before.
And I realise that actually
it's a great place.
People are very respectful and
and it's about pleasure.
And it's about trying to find
what really makes you
you know.
And there's nothing wrong with that.
So Berlin allows you this.
Cause
there's also a lot of history in Berlin.
And a lot of revolution.
And people saying ''No!''
So you feel like you want to be part of this as well.
And
Berlin is special you know.
When you wake up in the morning and you ask yourself
and before going to work
before doing anything.
Am I helping
liberating people?
Am I helping
giving people freedom and happiness?
Because if I'm not I'm oppressing.
And I think
It's a
very needed question to ask ourselves.
It's not just about me as an individual.
It's about me as part of humanity.
Part of a world system.
Planet.
We see happiness as a big long life thing.
No!
Happiness is moments
of life.
Then If you start seeing it like this, then it's fine.
Because if you start seeing is as a big thing
that you have to be happy all the time then
it's utopic.
So ehm.
Freedom definitely brings happiness.
Yeah.
Of course.
These questions were actually
pretty hard to answer.
So we put a lot of thought in them ourselves.
What makes us happy?
Happiness means to me when
All the things we discussed are in line. So
You have a good love life, you have a good career and you have good friends.
And you just are so free that you don't care about all these things.
And I think that thats the moment when you are the most happy.
When I am the most happy.
Generation Y is a problem. Its like all the choices we have.
Searching for happiness and things like that.
But
we are thinking so much about it that we almost forget to just do it.
Just do it and see what happens.
Happiness is something
that's different for everybody.
Something
hat some people get from love, from their friends.
Some people get it from money.
Some people get it when they're like
in balance with their body and their mind.
It doesn't matter what other people think.
It's about what you think.
And if you feel happy then that's the most important thing.
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