I like to talk about what to do in English if you are nervous in a conversation or when
you have to talk to people you don't know.
I use the guitar as an example because I perform concerts and play with other musicians.
Some of these other musicians are much better at playing the fancy parts on the guitar than
I am.
They have been playing a lot longer and they practice more.
And it can be the same for you in English.
Maybe you are speaking with a native speaker and they speak quickly and you have to try
and keep up.
What I would tell you is learn the very basics of English.
All the words that you need to know in the areas that interest you.
And then if you are nervous, you can acknowledge it.
We all can feel shy or be nervous.
I am by nature an introvert but I try to mask it or overcome it by performing - it helps
me get out of this shell that's safe for me and experience more things and that's been
the case for singing and playing guitar and speaking.
It is all a way for me to go outside of the little box that I live in and experience more
of the world.
And by speaking and singing and playing guitar even at this basic level, I've been able to
meet people who are very kind and charitable and want to encourage me.
In a situation where you are in front of people, remember in general they are cheering you
on or rooting (supporting) for you.
They want you to succeed.
They know that English is your second language.
And so look for someone in the crowd who is going to give you a positive reaction.
Look for that smile or their eyes open, not the guy focused on his smartphone or mobile
phone.
But takes that person's interest and direct this joy you have and what you want to say
to that person.
Also breathing deeply and kind of clenching your fists and releasing them and doing that
three times helps get rid of these kind of nerves.
It's called "stage fright" where the stage is where someone performs.
Many many famous performers who perform in front of thousands or ten thousands and hundreds
of thousands of people experience this "stage fright" whether its an actor or even musicians,
many of them admit they actually get sick before the performance but when they are out
there and they hear people cheering because they want to hear their favorite song or experience
it, they get energy from the crowd and they are no longer nervous, they can go and perform
and do what they love to do.
So that is my suggestion for you - look for somebody in the audience.
You can acknowledge that you are nervous and then go on.
It also helps to greet people when you are in a situation - acknowledge people and look
them in the eye and get them on your side.
Let them know why you are there.
You are there to give a speech, you are there to introduce yourself, you are there to work
with somebody.
Let them know you are brave enough to say "Hello!"
And they will appreciate that and that brings them to you as a supporter and someone who
is interested in you.
All of these techniques have worked for me for many years since I started trying to go
from being an introvert to an extrovert.
I still do like to spend time alone or with a limited number of people, but I also perform
because I like to play the songs I write and play along with other people who have similar
interests to me.
Those are the people I find I can have the most interesting conversations with.
So I would encourage you to do the same.
Acknowledge that you are nervous, reach out to the crowd and be prepared to learn from
them and remember, people are on your side, they want you to succeed in English so if
they correct you, if you say, "My father, she is very tall" and someone corrects you
in English that your father is a "he" or "him", it is a small mistake but you can learn from
it and thank that person for helping.
They do want to help you in general.
People are not out to get you or to punish you.
They want to help you.
So give yourself the opportunity to be helped by going out in public and speaking with people
and interacting and taking a risk.
It is very much worth the effort.
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