you know how sometimes you meet people
and it just clicks
if you don't see them for a year
when you do it's like no time has passed
and then with others it seems like it's so much work
emotional effort and time and
if you don't see them for a week
it's like they don't even know you
there's a reason friends was enough to fill
ten seasons of a TV show
why it was the sole metric
on Facebook used to gauge popularity
three years ago
and why the friend zone
is such a scary scary place
if you take the exact distance you stand away from someone
divided by the exact distance
you stand away from a stranger
added to the exact time
in between messages they send you divided by seven
added to the rate at which they speak to you
in words per minute
altogether multiplied by the number of years
they've known you and then divided by
the number of times they've shared food with you
you find out
absolutely nothing about how close you are to this person
or how hard you should work for the relationship
it's a lot more subjective
from both sides
so here's my thereom
on how hard you should work for a friendship
firstly you need to know within yourself
what you need from a relationship to be happy
it could be anything from finding somebody who
speaks in a similar way to you
to someone who has the same interests as you
to, simply, somebody that does not smell like turd
if a relationship is not making you happy
but is in fact making you very unhappy
she's a fiery demon from hell
it might be time to consider
whether you should be putting the work in to keep the relationship
or whether you should cut it off
most of the time I'd say it's probably worth it
because humans are humans, we go through rough patches
and sometimes they might be hurting you without
even realising cause they're off in their own worlds
but
I've made the mistake many times in my life
of trying to pursue a friendship
or a friend group that was never going to progess
to a good place and
that's just not worth it
a prolonged feeling of emptiness
like there's nothing there
a lack of connection especially to some sort of
deeper level
and feeling like you need to change the way you talk
or behave to be accepted
they're not really good signs
but there's another side to the coin as well
it's not just about knowing what you need from a relationship
it's not a one way thing
you need to know what you're willing to give
who you're willing to be what you're willing to do
as a friend as well
if you're expecting someone to always
be there for you when you're in trouble
you should always be there for them too
baked me cookies and brought Invader Zim DVDs
oh that's so sweet
I'm glad you like'em
um, I'm kind of thirsty
after the journey over
what?
get your own water you fiery demon from hell
this is what you wanted all along
isn't it?
you water thief
I am not your water bringing slave
leave, leave now
begone demon begone
generally it's a lot easier to feel it
than logically think it out
think about it, you kinda know what sort of connection
you have with someone, how you feel around them
kind of can even tell how they feel around you
of course if you're teetering at the edge of the relationship
or you really can't tell it's worth
chatting it out with them
but
this is one of those cases
where your gut can genuinely be
a decent navigator
now I've got a song coming up which I wrote
which is about more tough relationships
where you're working and working and
nothing seems to budge
but before that, don't forget
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with your experiences with friendships
things you've learnt
questions, and we can all feed off each other
and learn from each other's
yes, things that have happened
for now, here's the song
it features many hats
I try so hard, I wear the funniest shirts
but it don't please you
you said you like pirates so I bought an eye patch
but it don't please you
I memorised jokes from the best damn comedians
but it don't please you
I wrote you poems, got all Shakespearian
but it don't please you
I went to study the art of persuasion
just to see if I could get on your wavelength
I wrote songs about you but you didn't even hear them
even when I was right beside you when I sung them
I guess I don't please you
I don't please you
is it me? Is it my hat?
is it the way I sometimes say stupid things?
is it me? Is it my hat?
cause I would change almost anything
for you
but it don't seem to work whatever I do
I learned to eat fire and I learned to juggle
but it don't please you
I built you a Minecraft box empire
but it don't please you
I painted ten portraits of you in acrylics
but it don't please you
I wrote you a love story in heiroglyphics
but it don't please you
I stayed up late just trying to move you
trying to show you I was worth for you to talk to
I listened, I smiled, I tried to be lovely
I even wore makeup just so you'd like me
I guess I don't please you
I don't please you
is it me? Is it my hat?
is it the way I sometimes say stupid things?
is it me? Is it my hat?
cause I would change almost anything
for you
but it don't seem to work whatever I do
would you like me to wear a top hat?
or would you prefer a fez?
would you like me to get down on the floor
get down on my knees and beg?
how's a beret? A baseball cap
or a beanie?
is there any possible way
you'll accept me?
is it me? Is it my hat?
is it the way I sometimes say stupid things?
is it me? Is it my hat?
cause I would change almost anything
for you
would it even matter if I do?
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