Quora.com recently posted this, I am not even drunk yet.
>> What'd you say?
>> [LAUGH] Quora.com recently posed this question to readers that I
thought would make for an interesting discussion.
Is it bad for single people to give advice to married people, and vice versa?
>> No!
>> Interesting.
>> Ladies?
When it comes to dating and relationships and advice,
should people stay in their lane?
>> Mm, I don't know.
>> I think it depends.
>> Hm? >> I think it depends.
I think that if you are, I think there's boundaries.
Obviously, every relationship is different, so
I don't think anybody can speak on anything if you ain't in it.
>> Yeah. >> [APPLAUSE]
>> So that's number one.
Married, not married, single, not single, it's not your life.
You really can't speak about anything unless you're the one living in it.
You can give your perspective, you can share your own personal story.
I even have talked to you about this.
>> Yeah.
>> It can get interesting with being married and then divorced.
>> Yeah. >> And then people are like, well,
you can't speak on marriage Jeannie,
because- >> Yeah.
>> You're divorced now.
>> What?
How does that make sense?
>> Yes, that's honestly the number one thing that've experienced,
I noticed already.
First of all, we have a dope fanbase, like this year.
>> [APPLAUSE] >> Yes.
>> So I love everybody who was able to just kind of go
through this with me because it is a journey.
And it's healing, it's learning yourself again.
But that doesn't mean that I still can't share my perspective on what I went
through and what didn't work for my marriage.
And actually now, you don't know it until you're in it.
But now that I'm in it, I'm meeting, of course, so many divorced people,
divorcees.
Who tell me things that didn't work out for them, and I can relate to it as well.
And it made me realize that when I was going through it,
I actually only seeked out advice of married people.
I mean, my counselor's married, my pastor's married.
And I realized, they give great advice.
But I can't connect like I can with the people who failed to be able to catch some
of the things that unravel.
And that you can't save in the marriage that I was in now.
So what I'm saying is, take advice from people's personal stories.
>> Yes. >> Learn from it, at least.
Because today, had I followed and
listened to some of the divorcees that I didn't then.
I might have saw some things that I could have managed to change about my
relationship then.
>> I even think that if somebody has been divorced,
they actually might have perspective that you don't have.
They might be able to look back and say- >> [APPLAUSE]
>> I can see things differently now.
You've been divorced, you've said it.
>> Yeah. >> I've been divorced,
I've been married, I've been divorced.
>> Yeah, but that's like saying, you can't tell me nothing about marriage, Loni,
because yours didn't work.
>> I can tell you when it don't work.
>> That's not true. >> I can tell you that much.
I mean, I think you should look at each person and each individual.
When my friends, if they ask me for advice,
I'm not trying to get into their business.
I hope people look at me and say, I come to Loni for
good advice, not based on where I am in my life right now.
But just based on me being a good human being.
I think that's what you should look out for, when you're looking for
somebody for advice.
>> A person of character, you're a person of good character.
>> Exactly.
>> You've got some sense.
>> Because I ain't gonna ask my Uncle Rayray for no advice.
>> [LAUGH] >> That's true.
>> He been in prison, in jail, he steals, he lies.
I am not asking you, Rayray, I don't want to.
>> You can learn life experiance from all of these people.
>> Because he makes up stuff up, okay?
>> [LAUGH] >> That's what I'm saying.
I love my Uncle Rayray, but no, there's certain people you don't get advice from.
>> Yeah.
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