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why is your state so important stay tuned this is Damon cart from NLP Gym

why state is so important if you haven't already please click subscribe to this

YouTube channel so you can get these videos on a regular basis why do we

emphasize state and state management so much and NLP well the short answer to

that is your state determines what access you have to your inner resources

really the only thing standing in the way of what you want is access to your

resources so we have the present state and that's the state of wanting the

state of not having what you want and there is the desired state the state

that you want to be in that's when you have what you want and you're accessing

whatever it is internally that you want which fulfills you and makes you happy

feels makes you feel successful so the only thing that is the difference

between your present state and your desired state is a resource or resources

and we say in NLP there's a presupposition in NLP that you already

have all the access to all of the resources you could possibly need to be

happy successful whatever it is you want to achieve

examples of resources could be determination creativity persistence

courage these are the inner resources that we have we don't need to go outside

of ourselves to find that even though a lot of people might think that they have

to they may need to find it in the environment or get it from other people

but know these are your inner resources you've experienced this before you can

re-experience it by remembering times when you experience these resources or

access these resources so it's only a matter of remembering a time when or

imagining yourself having that access to that resource or experiencing those

resources really the only thing that's separating you from having what you want

is accessing the right resource or it could be more than one so resources once

heard tony robbins say that the greatest resource is resourcefulness now i

definitely arie with that the only problem is it's

not a very useful statement so let's break this down a bit so the easiest way

to do this is to divide your life up into different contexts it's hard to go

at in life all that warrants so chunk it down to smaller contexts like your

personal life your professional life your social life your work life your

parent life your spouse life it just makes things easier to do it that way

and then take one context do it do this one at a time because it can get a

little confusing if you don't take one context let's say your work life or your

professional life and then ask yourself what resources do you need access to in

order to perform your best perform optimally and once you figure out what

it is what those resources are then ask yourself what state do you need to be in

to in order to access those resources and once you understand what that is

then you can label it and call it your workflow state or whatever it is you

want to label it and then you know that that's the state you need to be in

that's the optimal state to be in in order for you to perform your best

because you have access to the proper resources if you're struggling with

finding the resources what you might want to do then is go with the state

first so remember a time when you were in that context and you were doing your

absolute best the best you've ever done and associate or step into that memory

like you're actually there again and access that state and once you do that

then ask yourself what resources do you have access to what relevant resources

do you have access to in this state that is making it possible for you to perform

the way that you're performing the way that you want to perform it's important

to name the state so that when you're in that context you can just call it back

up the the naming of the state almost becomes like an anchor you can call it

like I said your workflow state so when you're at work you go oh yeah workflow

state I know what resources I need to access when I do that and then just

access them now you might be thinking you want to be in a state where you have

access to all of your resources all of the time all at once

now that might be possible it's unlikely but it might be possible but if you were

able to do that it's such a general state that you probably wouldn't be able

to really focus on what it is you want to accomplish that's why it's important

to chunk it down into context and part of what focus is focus allows us to put

all out put all of our attention or most of our attention on one things that we

can accomplish it so it's going to exclude some resources you're going to

exclude some resources out of that state but that's necessary in order to focus

on what it is that you want so you're actually deleting some of that out now

that sounds like it's a bad thing but no it's it's a good thing it can be a bad

thing I'll get to that in a moment but it's a good thing because that allows

you to focus those resources on exactly what it is you want to accomplish in

that context and then when you step out of that context then you can step into a

different state and access different resources what are some states that you

don't want to be in the states that you want to avoid states like anger panic

fear these are the states that you want to avoid now there are some good things

about fear and anger they're not good states to stay in but fear and anger can

actually be a good thing in the sense that it wakes you up it can wake you up

to injustice as it could wake you up to dangers that are coming your way so

they're good as a wake-up call they're not good states to stay in and the

reason for that is fear anger and panic is an extreme narrowing of your

awareness and when that happens that narrowing cuts out or deletes out a lot

of your resources and you hear people say that all the time don't don't make

decisions out of fear don't make decisions out of anger and panic or

don't panic in a crisis situation it's a hard thing to not do but it's important

not to because you're cutting yourself from off from all your resources and

that would that is what panic is it's you feel like you have zero resources

and it's not that you don't have any resources it's just that you can't

access them fear and anger you can probably access some resources but very

few so it's not a good idea to make decisions or try to resolve problems or

try achieved something coming from those

states these are what I call scarcity states and their scarcity because

they're not rich in resources they're lacking and resources remember every

state has its limitations and this is why it's really important to map this

out ahead of time map out ahead of time what states you need to be in to access

the right resources and any given context if you chunk this down and you

map it out ahead of time then you don't give in to this problem of being

distracted with other resources are being distracted with your focus not

being where it needs to be so when you map this out ahead of time and you step

into any of these contacts you know what state you need to be in to access the

right resources and what resources you can leave out when you're able to do

that this will heighten your ability to focus and concentrate and effectively

and efficiently achieve what it is that you want in whatever context that you're

in it's also super important to be in a state that aligns with the context that

you're in because if it's not aligned what you might end up doing is and a lot

of people do this it's very unconscious and it creates problems but if you bring

this into consciousness and you map it out ahead of time you won't have this

problem and that is you go from parenting and you step into a

professional your professional life your work your office wherever you go to work

and you're still at a parenting state and you haven't switched over to your

work state so you're not accessing the right resources in your work state

you're still accessing resources from a parent state and then you come home from

work and you need to be a wife or a husband and you're still in the work

state so you're still accessing resources that are appropriate and

aligned for work but you're not doing it for your spouse or being in a

relationship with someone else so when that happens you're you're going to be

distracted you're going to be accessing you won't be accessing the resources

that you need in that situation and it starts to create problems but when you

understand this you've map it out you chunk it down you notice you can step

into whatever context and know in what state you need to be on and so you

immediately gain access to those resources and then you perform optimally

in that context so greater awareness of your states will give you greater

ability to control manage those states and it'll give you more flexibility and

shifting from one state to the next whatever you need to from going from one

context to the next you've got to have more flexibility the more awareness and

consciousness you have around these states and around these contexts you'll

get a shift much faster and life is it's happening fast and sometimes you get

thrown into a context before you even realize you're in the context and this

will give you that ability to realize oh I need to you know I need to shift over

to this I need to be in this state in order to be the person I need to be be

the performer I need to be in this particular context the main goal here is

to be at your best in every context that you're in not to be better than anyone

else but to be at your best and the way that you're going to do that is to

understand it and preframe it first know what you need and each such in each

situation first and just know that you know there's not one super state that is

appropriate for all contexts you need to define which state is appropriate for

each context when you do this ahead of time you will learn to perform at your

best in every area of your life

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Motivation is TRASH!! Willpower and Discipline vs Motivation - Duration: 8:08.

Motivation is trash! So today we're going to be talking about willpower and

discipline versus motivation.

One form of perfectionistic thinking is thinking

that things have to be absolutely perfect before you start and that

actually includes motivation. So if you think about what motivation is it is, you know,

having this feeling like you want to do something and it's gonna compel

you to actually do that thing, but if you wait around for motivation to strike you

before you actually act, then that leads to perfectionistic thinking.

So motivation is defined as "a general desire or willingness of someone to do something"

So being motivated is just an emotion, a good feeling that we have, and

honestly, that good feeling doesn't last in the long term.

People think that thoughts lead to emotions which lead to action.

This is waiting around for motivation before you actually do anything.

But actions can actually change our emotions more than thoughts can. This is because our

thoughts are usually clouded by the emotions that we're trying to change.

But instead we can try this formula: action leads to emotion which leads to thoughts.

This is willpower, and willpower defined as

"the control exerted to do something or restrain impulses". The difference is

willpower will actually allow us to work with our emotions or against them.

Versus motivation which is waiting around for that feeling to come, for us to actually do something.

It's one of the reasons why people will go to self-help seminars so much.

Instead of actually soaking in some of the information, they're actually just

going for that boost of motivation and that may carry them for a little bit

but it's definitely not going to help them long term. This is because they're

trying to chase a losing horse.

Quote: "Getting motivated is a strategy that

attempts to build from a point of weakness it's better to start with strength"

That was said by Stephen Guise in his book "How to be an imperfectionist:

The new way to self-acceptance, fearless living, and freedom from perfectionism."

OK! So you may be asking how do we go from having our emotions guide our actions to

having our actions guide our emotions and thoughts... I have an equation for you!

The process goes like this: first you decide, then you commit, then you use

willpower, and that turns into discipline. So let's take a look at what each of these mean.

First step is to decide. Now, decide has its origins in the Latin word

Decidere, which literally means to cut off. If you truly decide something then

you actually cut off any excuses or any other options that you might have to do

instead of that thing that you've decided on.

The second step: commit.

Commit also comes from Latin from the word Committere, which is "to unite, connect

combine, and bring together". So by committing you're taking yourself and

your goal and you're uniting them together.

Now what do I mean by becoming

one and uniting yourself with your goal? Essentially what I mean is that you take

that in and form it as part of your identity so instead of saying "I will

work out, you know, three times a week", you say

"I AM someone who works out three times a week" "I am someone who is healthy" "I am someone

who is health-conscious", and then you just remind yourself of that every day

whether it's on a note or you say it to yourself or you do like I do and before

you go to bed rate yourself on the areas that you want to improve in.

Third step: willpower. This is literally the power of will

and this comes from Old English the word Wyllan, which means "to wish, desire; and

be willing, be used, be about to." You have to be willing to do something and

actually about to do it. Again, willpower is "the control exerted to do something

or restrain impulses" and because of the last two steps, you've decided: you've cut

off all your options other than the one that you want. You have committed and

become one with that goal, and now you can use your willpower to actually do that thing.

The final step is discipline. Now discipline is "the orderly conduct as

a result of training", so you can't get there without training. You can't get

there without practice. You have to train your brain to work that way.

Discipline comes from Latin the word Disciplina, which is "instruction given, teaching

learning, knowledge; and object of instruction, knowledge, science, and

military discipline". It's the knowledge of having self-control. It's having

practiced it enough to get to that point and "the knowledge of restraint exercised

over one's own impulses emotions and desires."

So first you decide on a goal,

cutting off all other excuses and all other options.

Then you commit.

You unite yourself with that goal, you make it part of your identity.

Then you use willpower in order to control your impulses to follow through,

and then finally that turns into discipline, which is practiced learn self-control.

Here's a good exercise! In a video by Elliott Hulse where he's talking about this same

kind of subject (and I'll go ahead and link him below) he issues a challenge and

I'd like to challenge you out there to do this as well. The next time you have

that feeling of being motivated and wanting to do something, instead of, you

know, doing something big or making grandiose plans, just take that feeling

that you want to actually do something, and sit down and write out two simple

small things that you can actually decide and commit to.

And these two things should be very simple, and things that you can do every single day,

No matter what. It can honestly be anything. Elliott Hulse uses the example of

journaling which is a great example, it's something that's small, you know, writing

one page in your journal every day and something that you can do no matter what

the circumstances are. So one good example from my own life is every night

before I go to bed I actually sit down and I write out three things that I am

grateful for from that day, one thing that I have accomplished, and one thing

that I have... or one way that I have provided value to someone else.

So what are one or two things that you can do every single day, no matter what, to start

building that self-discipline? Go ahead and tell me in the comments!

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