Of course, yes you may love this person, but do we actually like them?
The seven-year itch. Now maybe you have seen the famous film starring Marilyn
Monroe you know the one where she's in the sewer and her white dress flies up
it's all iconic and stuff or perhaps you read an article or two about it or
talked about it at book club. It's a theory that states that the Love Train
begins to run out of steam as you hit year seven. Well, I am here to inform you
guys today that it is absolutely not true. As Dr. Helen Fisher a biological
anthropologist and one of my heroes found, it actually really should be
called the four year itch. So what happened is that seven is the median age
that couples break u, four is the mode. It's a kind of mode, median, mean thing
all jumbled up you know long story short yeah it's worse than you thought it's 4.
The theory on why four is the magic number when it comes to
love and relationships goes back to biology because this is again in theory
the amount of time it takes for a couple to get together, get they freak on, get
impregnated, have a successful pregnancy, have that baby and then raise that child
out of infancy and toddler stage. The entire practice which takes a minimum of
two adults to ensure that all three get out somewhat unscathed. Now regardless if
the couple did or did not in fact reproduce the four year system still
works across the board, at that time these hormones shut off kinda like a
sprinkler system and then you stumble out of this love induced coma looking at
the world all anew and now we are left to logically answer a question a very
important question. We may still love our partner but do we in fact like them and
I mean really like them? Now for many people the honest answer to that is no
and that's okay and not uncommon and if that is your answer you set off in
search of a brand new kind of partner one that is as far away as possible from
your ex. That long tooth, halitosis having, dead weight, fool am i right though?
But for those of us who answered yes, we more than love but we truly like our partner
we now have to transition into a brand new phase and stop expecting love to
feel the exact same way. You are now in the phase of companionate love.
A beautiful place of mutuality, respect, and of knowing each other. Not only will
you see new things in your partner but you will see new things in yourself and
give yourself an opportunity to adapt, grow, and change.
Have you experienced the 7-year itch, the four year itch, maybe the two day itch
in which case go and see your doctor. But in all seriousness I want to hear from
you guys and if you did address these issues how did you overcome them? Let me
know in the comment section below and we'll see you guys on the next video.
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