In the last episode we were discussing about how
our energy gets depleted and how we need to
conserve our energy.
Even while we are asleep our mind creates thoughts.
You also gave a good example of a tap that is left open
In Mumbai most homes have overhead tanks to store water
so if any tap is left open, the entire tank gets emptied out.
Likewise even our energy
with or without our knowledge
Cannot say with or without our knowledge, it is with or without awareness
Okay
Suppose I am thinking and an hour has passed
we just been thinking
thinking and thinking without being aware
of what we are thinking
about whom we are thinking
how much we are thinking
And most important how we are thinking
quality
At that time who is controlling the thoughts - is it the mind?
Yes, the mind. You said even when we are asleep, the brain remains active. It is not the brain, it is the mind.
We are not very clear about the difference between mind and brain
in the sense that we tend to use them interchangeably
Brain does not create our thoughts.
Yes but we casually say "May heart says so." or "My mind says so."
Right.
You mentioned about awareness of our thoughts
but even when we are focusing on being aware, these things (wrong usage) happen.
Not a problem.
Journey of
We want to be aware but we get drifted
It is like - let us say for example
There is a mother
and she has a little child.
But that mother has to complete all the house-hold work
apart from taking care of the child because she has no-one else to help at home.
there is no one else to take care of the baby or to do the household work.
This happens in many homes is it not?
So what does this mother do?
She leaves the baby in the cradle and goes about doing her work in the entire house.
But while doing all that work,
where will her attention be?
On the baby - whether it is crying or making any noise
She is constantly alert about the baby, her mind remains focused on the baby.
Her next focus is on her work.
But in her priority list
Who will be on top? Her baby.
First priority is taking care of the child.
Second responsibility is taking care of the whole house.
This is very clear for the mother.
She does not say that if she has to take care of the baby, she will neglect the house.
Or that if she has to take care of the house, she will neglect the baby. No, she has to do both the things.
That is her responsibility.
She is responsible for both
But among her responsibilities, the priority is very clear.
That the first priority
The first responsibility is her baby, and second comes the household work.
Can she do it?
She can. As you were speaking I was visualizing
as an actor
I was visualizing a scene
A woman in a village carrying her baby and feeding it food, and on her head she is balancing a pot of water
Beautiful.
She is balancing the pot and simultaneously feeding her baby
She is walking balancing everything perfectly.
She can even be talking to other women who are walking along with her
So they also have to be watchful about vehicles on the lanes to avoid being hit.
She is aware of everything.
Yes but while doing all these, what will be her number 1 priority?
Her child
Even if the pot of water falls, she will not let her kid fall.
This is life.
This is life.
Even if there is a pit and she slips, the pot of water may fall but not the kid.
Completely clear.
That she has all these responsibilities
but priority is very clear
Number One is to take care of her baby
Second would be to take care of everything else.
She will do it is it not? If we have to do it, we will.
You so lovingly labeled the 'Mind' as a 'Child'.
I had thought it to be my enemy.
Even after all these episodes I used to scold my mind that it does not become quiet,
it just goes on day and night
But now you have labeled it as a child.
It is a child is it not? Don't we feel so?
So even we need to take care of everything else throughout the day
Take care of family, office, social life, time for friends
Hobbies, Gym - we need to take care of everything
go everywhere
But while doing all this, pay attention to the child within (mind)
Can we do it?
So what is Number One on our priority list?
My child, that means my mind.
While doing everything just check that everything is fine here
What kind of thoughts are going on
Is the mind crying - in the sense is it questioning
Why this, why that, why did this happen to me.
Now
For a mother her child is important
She is doing many other things
but if her child starts crying
what does she do?
Whatever she is presently doing
she withdraws from it
goes to her child for a minute, consoles the child and gets back to work.
Suppose she does not take out that one minute for the child
the child will continue to cry
Suppose she says she has no time for the child, as she is busy with other work
The child won't stop but goes on crying even louder while she is busy elsewhere.
Until the mother does not withdraw from her work for a minute
and just lovingly spend one minute with the child to console him
The child will become quiet.
Now she has to choose when she will take out that one minute
Take out time as soon as he starts crying. Why wait for an hour and then console?
The child would have cried so much by then (by an hour) wasting a lot of energy.
As soon as the mind starts crying
Why this, why that, why me...and so on
Withdraw. This is withdrawal.
Just as how a mother takes care of her child while doing everything else
We will also manage doing everything in life
We will take up all responsibility but pay attention to the mind.
Suppose the mind starts crying
by creating painful or negative thoughts
if it creates any kind of disturbance
let us withdraw for a minute from whatever we are doing
and whatever thoughts are going on
resolve them.
Why, how, what, why it happened to me etc
Answer all these questions taking out that little, one minute's time.
This is very important. We ask how we are supposed to do this.
This works. Your mind is crying.
It is saying things which are creating discomfort.
Don't keep remaining busy doing work outside saying I do not have time for myself, thinking
that this crying is natural
that the mind crying like this is natural
As long as it keeps crying
mind is wasting its energy. Take out that one minute.
Whatever is going on in your mind, answer them all.
Even if you do not have an answer about a particular issue
you do not yet have an answer for it
you can at least instruct the mind
"I am working on something else right now."
"Could we think about this after hours?"
You have made it so easy
Ever since you called Mind a child
I am thinking about how I take care of my children
Yes
Like I say, "My child, this is wrong, do not do it."
Or speak more lovingly to an even smaller child and explain rights and wrongs.
As a child grows, teach him about things at school and so on.
So treating mind like a child all the timing is so beautiful.
But yesterday I was scolding it
that it thinks of wrong and negative things, why can't it be positive and so on.
But now you called it a child
now a relationship is developing with my mind.
You said it feels better to talk to it lovingly.
Scolding it, suppressing, or controlling the mind does not work.
We do it with kids also
We do it with everyone because when dealing with people
Whom are we actually dealing with?
We are dealing with a person's mind is it not?
We always deal with people's minds. Not with their eyes or ears.
Very nice point.
We are dealing with an individual's mind
And all our minds - mine and everyone else's mind around me
Our minds are today a little unsettled because
our mind is a child which is not taught what is right or wrong, when to get up or when to sleep
Like a child whose parents have not taught him anything
about how to speak or how to behave
Likewise we have not paid attention to this child (mind) to teach what it should think and what it should not.
When to think, how much to think, what to think about
Has anyone taught my mind?
It was like a lost child. Did not even know it is my child.
We did not teach it so far.
If a child is not taught anything, is it the child's fault? No.
We say parents have not taught the child anything.
Now we will talk to the mind and start teaching it.
So when we say the mind is restless
My mind belongs to me
it is my child
even if it is not disciplined right now, it is restless and disobedient
even in this case
I need to lovingly transform it
and teach it the right way to be
because it is my mind.
This is also very important
The more I become its parent and teach it the right things
I will also learn how to deal with other people's minds.
As we all have similar minds.
It is the same with all of us.
This is a new way - of treating everyone else's mind also as a child
That is his child and this is my child.
His is not just a child, it is a restless child
and his mind is not listening to him also these days.
How sweet.
It is like suppose you go to your neighbor
and complain to them that their child is troubling you
and if the parent says, "My child does not listen to me, so please see if you can take care him."
Today people around us are not able to control their children (minds).
So let us not be very harsh with them.
Let us also understand that right now their mind
is not behaving as per their wish or choice
about what to think or how to think.
Let us not be harsh with people.
You mentioned that controlling, suppressing or getting angry did not work.
Dealing it with love works is it not?
That method of using love works with my mind also
and important is that the method that works for my mind
works with everyone else's mind too.
So whatever works for one child, works for all children.
Yes, after all, they are all children.
And children like the same things.
That is why children like teachers who love them. Absolutely.
The teacher or parent who uses Love with them
a child 'feels' like obeying them
not 'forced' to obey them
One is that a child forcibly obeys a teacher
Other is that the child feels nice to obey a teacher.
The teacher says it for the child's benefit and it is coming with the right energy.
Happy to obey. Child gets a comfort feeling. Why?
Both teachers are saying the same thing
But what is the energy radiated from them to the child?
One is negative energy and one is loving energy.
Whichever energy feels comfortable, that thing sounds nice.
It is important to say it with love
But it is also important to check that we will manage both the things?
Taking care of the child (mind) apart from taking care of everything else in life?
What will be our first priority? (Mind).
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