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For more infomation >> Kareena Kapoor Khan'S Latest Photoshoot IS A MUST MUST WATCH - Duration: 1:32.

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Kyrgyzstan religious leader admits on social media his first wife is "a little bit angry now". - Duration: 6:08.

Kyrgyzstan religious leader admits on social media his first wife is "a little bit angry now".

My first wife is upset a little - Kyrgyz scholar on polygamy. By Sherie Ryder and Maruf Siddikov BBC Social News and BBC Monitoring.

  When a religious leader in Kyrgyzstan broadcast he had married a second wife, and told other men to follow suit, its no surprise there was mixed reaction on social media.

Chubak aji Jalilov revealed in a video, posted by Nasaat Media on YouTube, I have not divorced from my first wife.

She is a little bit angry now. However, a repost of the video has been viewed 60,000 times - rising by about 5,000 views per hour (at time of writing) - since the footage was published.

According to the Kyrgyz constitution, polygamy - the practice of marrying more than one woman - is restricted in the central Asian country of approximately six million citizens, most of whom are Turkic-speaking Muslims.

  Image copyright Getty Images Image caption Kyrgyzstan gained independence from the Soviet Union in 1991, and is home to six million people During the Kyrgyzstan elections in 2015, only one party answered yes to the question of whether polygamy should be legalised.

The practise of polygamy is illegal in many countries. In July, two Canadian religious leaders were found guilty by the Supreme Court of polygamy.

Winston Blackmore, former bishop with Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints (FLDS), was married to 24 women, and his former brother-in-law had five wives.

You might also like: Jalilov claims he is not hiding his second marriage from anyone. His second wife is a 30-year-old widow with a child who lived in Turkey and he is encouraging other men to take a second wife.

Why is the former mufti - Muslim legal expert - giving this advice? He blames the fact many Kyrgyz women are leaving the country for Russia, Turkey and China.

They should be taken care of and provided for in Kyrgyzstan, Jalilov says, adding he is providing food for a poor fellow citizen. He says women should allow their husbands to marry again but not everyone is pleased.

My first wife is upset a little, but I think everything will get straightened out.

She has the right to be upset and to be jealous. Some people say he has done the right thing: According to Sharia law, men do not have to ask permission from their first wives [to get married again]. says Jyldyz Sultanova.

Blogger Daniar Aitman, did not agree and wrote on Facebook this was a challenge to the secular state and civil society.

Jalilov wants to show that he wanted to spit on secular laws and womens rights, spit on the Criminal Code and the Constitution.

Jalilov wants to show that in Kyrgyzstan, the Constitution is not first, but the Koran. Aitman reminded readers Jalilov had lobbied to legalise polygamy for many years but failed, and describes the scholars latest action as a way to achieve his goal one way or another. However one reply to Aitman claimed this was not news: Nowadays, every second person has two wives.

Presidents also have two wives, the only difference is that they publicly dump their [first] wives, whereas Chubak Jalilov did not dump his first wife and took responsibility for another one.

If the second wife agrees [to be the second wife], what is the problem? Meanwhile another reply urged men to divorce the first wife before marrying another.

In 10 years, the deputies will push through this law and in 20 years we will live according to Sharia law. On her Facebook page, Aziza Abdurasulova, who is head of the human rights organisation Kylym Shamy, said Chubak aji Jalilov has knowingly broken the law and is encouraging citizens to do the same.

Therefore Kylym Shamy will file an official statement to Bishkek prosecutors office..

For more infomation >> Kyrgyzstan religious leader admits on social media his first wife is "a little bit angry now". - Duration: 6:08.

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This Is Us - Who Was I? (Episode Highlight) - Duration: 4:49.

For more infomation >> This Is Us - Who Was I? (Episode Highlight) - Duration: 4:49.

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EP 043: Why Jargon Is So Dangerous - Duration: 5:04.

- I had a friend reach out recently,

asking if I could please

help him help a client to understand

how jargon, those code words we all have

in our industry or our company,

how jargon was getting in the way

of the strength and power of their message.

Well, that's one of my favorite topics,

so that's what we're gonna talk about this week

on Find the Red Thread.

I'm Tamsen Webster of TamsenWebster.com.

I can't think of anyone

who doesn't want their message to be more clear,

and that makes sense,

because the clearer the message,

the clearer the meaning,

and the clearer the meaning,

the more likely the action we're looking for will follow.

But there's a challenge here,

and it's one we can all recognize,

and that meaning relies on words to get it across,

and sure there's times we get to use additional things

like sounds, and images, and even smells,

but ultimately words are the currency of ideas.

We have to translate our ideas into words

before we can articulate them to somebody else,

and it takes words for someone to understand

what it is that we're trying to say.

So it makes sense then,

if the words have different meaning for people,

then we're going to have a problem,

because we're not going to get the result

that we're looking for.

So ultimately that's the reason why jargon,

in and of itself,

is a challenge,

because it either has no meaning,

which means there's nothing for it to anchor to

within the person who's listening,

or it already has another meaning,

and that's where we can get into trouble.

That's where the gap

between one side and the other can become a trap.

Here's what I mean:

If you take three phrases

that are, on the surface, very simple,

but they have a deeper meaning depending on your background,

you'll see what I mean.

So for instance, if I say, "Black lives matter," or,

"Netflix and chill," or,

"Bless your heart,"

depending on what you associate with those simple words,

all the way across,

you're going to have very different reactions.

And that's because what's lying in the gap,

the gap between one side or the other,

the gap between my meaning and yours,

is filled with the patterns of meaning

that are already there,

and that leads us to hear things that aren't there,

to hear the additional meaning that surrounds those words.

So, "Netflix and chill" means one thing to one group of people,

but if you misunderstand it, I mean,

you don't want Grandma to misunderstand "Netflix and chill,"

I mean, bless her heart, that would be awkward,

but think about it when it comes to really weighty phrases

like Black lives matter,

depending on the meaning that you already have,

you hear additional words there.

You hear either "Black lives matter too,"

or, "Black lives matter more."

That's what the meaning that's already there does.

So how do we resolve this?

Well, the resolution lies in the gap itself.

It relies on remembering that we make meaning,

every one of us, in the same way.

We may come to a different conclusion,

but we get to it the same way,

which means we can use the Red Thread in those questions,

not only to engineer meaning,

but we can also use it to reverse-engineer meaning

out of somebody's position or somebody's phrasing.

That means we need to look for

what are the shared Problems that we see,

what are the shared Ideas,

so that we can find shared Change.

That might mean that the language needs to change,

but ultimately what we're trying to do

is connect on the meaning underneath it,

and frankly,

that's the simple explanation for jargon as well:

what does the word actually mean that you're using?

Use that word first.

Help them understand that that's what you mean,

and then attach the unique term to it.

That's how people are going to make sure--

that's how you're going to sure that people understand

not only what you're saying,

but what you're meaning as well.

So take a look for those phrases,

and those words that you hear,

and find the meaning beneath them,

and every time you're working on that clarity,

it will help your messages make more sense.

Thanks for joining me this week on Find the Red Thread.

I'm Tamsen Webster of TamsenWebster.com.