- David Brower. (cheering)
It's really important in life to appreciate others
as we want to be appreciated.
Ladies and gentleman, David Brower!
(cheering)
Yeah, you see, it's just like you were coming up
onto the stage here, did you feel that?
And that's how if you start appreciating people like that,
you'll start appreciating you like that, isn't that cool?
So today I wanted to come up and share a little bit about
my version of Alivefulness™ that I call, which is
loving life fully, deeply, a lot of emotion.
Kind of getting beyond the head
into a flow state with people
and using everyday life.
So I got an app for you.
Are you ready for this new app?
Do you like free apps?
Do you like free apps?
So this app is called reciation.
It's called appreciation,
app reciation. (laughing)
(rimshot)
So my life is really about
helping people appreciate more
their experience of life.
I think we have such a richness,
and a wealth, an abundance
that's around us and within us
and between us in particular
that if we can focus on that
and become masters at THAT,
that becomes the core of our existence,
we become the meaning-maker, the perspective maker
of what we actually go through in life.
And we don't have to have an experience and react to it
like everyone else does.
We can really choose
to react in a completely different way.
And it's all about appreciating more.
And appreciating is something that
goes way beyond an intellectual way of perceiving the world.
It's how we use our senses to open up to the world,
which, for me, translates a lot to
an emotional thing, an energetic exchange.
And I do experiences that involve lots of live
performance artists and interactivity with people
and gorgeous foods
cause I want to get people to refocus on
the basics of every life, the interactions
and moments where we are actually with people
or we're eating three times a day, we're eating
and we're sharing this potential with other people,
and we've kind of fallen a little bit into
hedonic adaptation.
You heard this term before? Probably, a lot of you.
So it's like becoming jaded
for things that we've kind of just cataloged in our life.
And so I really, I guess,
kind of woke up to this when I came to France
and realized, first of all,
I wasn't really eating very tasty food.
Bread sucked where I grew up.
My mom was vegetarian.
I'm eating tofu burgers,
which would be great if she knew how to cook,
but she don't know how to cook.
The same spices in the cabinet for 20 years, mom.
And then the next thing I know, mom dies of lung cancer
at 74, which is like the average age to die of that,
and she was doing headstands just before that,
was really loving life,
but she had a bit of a struggle
in our family and some of the relationships, emotional.
And I realized, in that period
with the last three weeks with her
that the core of life is really this
expansion and healing of
appreciating those that are around us, our family members,
our loved ones, our friends,
and focusing our life there.
And that's what I do with my life,
I focus on the people around me,
I focus on how I nourish myself
and how I share that with other people
and how I gather people around tables
that are insanely tasty, and not like mom, right?
Because it elevates people's appreciation.
You go to a fancy three-star restaurant,
you're way more attentive
than when you're going to a fast food place, for example,
at least I hope so.
And so this is really a way to raise
the quality of your life,
is to focus more on appreciating things.
What I really mean by this is, you know,
with food, of course,
you can start to choose things differently
if you're actually really in the present moment
when you are eating and enjoying something.
And it's just like when you're with somebody, right?
If you're really with the person and you can
get out of multitasking your brain
and the phone's coming out and all this stuff.
And this is tough stuff for us today, I'll tell you.
We're all so addicted, right?
So it's really a practice of,
if you start to lean on your senses.
So I look at people
and I try and notice something really amazing.
You know, I love your hair.
So, it's just like wow, it's like electrifying.
Or someone's eyes or the way they're dressed,
the way they hold themself, their voice,
their demeanor, their energy,
to kind of externalize that to people
and share that expression onto other people.
And you will see that
this will also come back to you.
What you're giving out is gonna start to come back to you,
and you suddenly start to notice the really
beautiful things in people.
You start to notice in every kind of person
the beautiful things.
And then this boss that's the total jerk,
you start to notice that this is kind of comical.
This guy's a real ass, yeah. (laughing)
And you're saying, you know,
god, you'd step back like two, three degrees,
and you're like, oh, I'm starting to appreciate this.
This guy is comical.
How can he be such a...
And you start to say,
well, actually appreciating this is noticing that,
observing that, not just suffering and
letting it kind of take you over,
noticing, acknowledging it,
and realizing that maybe that can be fuel for you to
try and look for a new job.
Maybe you're gonna learn how to deal
with really difficult people.
So you take a different perspective
when you start to have more appreciation.
Same with food.
I mean, if you start to realize you're eating something,
you realize you don't really eat that well
because you start to notice it more.
You're starting to look and you're starting to then start to
choose better at the restaurants,
and you're starting to actually enjoy the food more.
And then you're starting to enhance and enrich your life
and you're making the better choices.
You're no longer going to the restaurant
looking next door and saying,
oh my god, that looks so good, why didn't I order that?
People start to say, "Oh, what are you ordering?"
They start to, "Why don't you choose the restaurant."
And you become like this master appreciator of life.
And I'm telling you, the quality of your life,
the joy in your life.
And same thing with people.
As you start to meet somebody,
like tonight, you meet somebody really extraordinary,
the key in meeting someone extraordinary
is first of all noticing it,
recognizing, feeling something, right?
You're like, "Wow, there's something there."
But then after tonight, follow up.
Tenacious, generous follow up.
- [Audience Member] Snapchat.
- Snapchat if you need to.
Facebook, whatever it is.
You know, to be able to connect,
it's one of the things I consider myself quite good at,
is this followup phase and cultivating relationships,
especially when I want this person in my life, right?
Maybe they don't know yet the value of that for them.
But for me, I'm like, I want this person in my life.
And we start pursuing.
I mean, there were stories earlier
about someone wanting somebody in their life,
which was pretty cool.
You know, this kind of thing.
(laughing)
So this appreciation is actually you
giving generously to others.
So, again, with the food,
sensorial experience, first step of self-love,
appreciating what you're putting in,
as you start to appreciate flavors and things,
you raise the quality of your life right away.
If you're sharing that with people,
you're raising their quality of life together,
and suddenly, it's like a keystone habit
to raise the way that you're experiencing world,
and you'll see that you will start noticing
for the other things that are happening in your life,
the things that you choose to do on holiday.
It could be even the types of clothes you wear.
I mean, suddenly, you start to realize
you're becoming a bit more of a discerning person.
There's all these things about, raise your standards.
I think, really, in a free way
just by already observing more,
you start to get to know yourself more,
and especially is you start to really
share that with other people,
this is when the real connection starts to happen again.
Instead of just going to the restaurant and saying,
wow, I like what we're eating.
I mean, let's try and go to another level here.
The texture, the temperature, the juicy covering,
that flavoring that has that Japanese-Korean fusion to it.
The crispiness reminds me of
when we were in Tokyo together eating tempura
and we looked in each other's eyes.
There's like there's all these things
that you start to use your imagination on.
And it actually starts to stimulate your creativity,
and you start to fight against this
quicksand of hedonic adaptation, which is
pulling us back to living this normal life.
You want to live a normal life like this?
This is where everything's pulling us in this direction.
And while we can wait for somebody else
to bring this into our life, and this often happens,
you will meet somebody maybe who has a higher
level of something,
and they start to run out of time while they're talking.
(laughing)
So does this make sense to everybody?
So I've got one challenge for all of you.
Before the evening is done, either alone or with somebody,
to take your phone and take a picture or do a little video
and send to somebody that you either
want to spend more time with or that you love,
a little daring thing.
Send them a little video message if you can,
say, "I'm at Inspired,
"and we're so inspired by all the people who have come here,
"and I want to spend more time with you, I love you."
Just like a compliment.
Who doesn't like to get compliments?
I mean, Mother Teresa, and I'll finish on this,
said something beautiful, she said,
the world has more need for love and appreciation
than it does for bread,
except in France. (laughing)
Thank you very much.
(applause) Have a good evening.
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