Jim, the culture is changing and what was tolerated or accepted years ago is no
longer being tolerated or accepted. And I'm watching pain, resentment,
I've been done to from the past coming up in a reactionary kind of way in
people's spaces. Yeah very reactionary. So this in a way
is a follow up on where we've been: you can't take your baggage with you. And a
lot of the energetics of: I've been wronged, I've been abused, I've been taken
advantage of, let's start right from here - yes all
that happened and yes there is real legitimacy to a lot of this. But the real
issue is it's you, we're talking about you or me, the individual. How valuable is
it to continue to carry that? Now one of the things that's interesting is where
let's say in the past jokes were acceptable. Handicap jokes, handicapped.
Racist jokes or blonde jokes. Yeah, about you. Jokes about you. And there was a
period of time a Don Rickles, a Joan Rivers, really outrageously insulting and
many people thought that was both acceptable and funny. And so now you have
a lot of this unacceptability beginning to come to the surface and it's
happening in real glaring ways in terms of sexual harassment. So in sexual
harassment and again not making this okay or not okay
it's a point of observation here, sexual harassment is all coming to the surface
but in the past, bantering, jokes, kind of making innuendos about hey is there some
room here to go fool around. All of that was maneuvering, positioning.
It was part of the culture. Was part of the culture. And now all of this isn't
acceptable. You watch some of these really glaring examples all coming to
the surface. Well and it's important to point it out in order to change the
culture because it really is not acceptable anymore.
But I think there's a dance between revealing it, talking about it, and
reacting and pushing against and resentment and holding anger inside your
body. Point it out and say this happened but don't make yourself sick over it.
Yeah and that's the place where a lot of people rightfully so were approached,
were scared, were terrified, were abused, were put in very awkward, embarrassing,
shameful, all big huge energetic words that people carry. But pretty much to the
audience that we're speaking to this is all about your evolution now. You're
beginning to be aware enough that you can't take your baggage with you on
this journey. Now the response is to to lash out, or to point to, or to blame, or
say I need some satisfaction with this. I need to be you know, vindicated, I need to
be heard, and so there's room for all of that also. And so again not taking
anything away from anybody. But where you can come to some level of of acceptance
about, "Okay this happened." Just like the conversation we had a while back about
my parking ticket and all of the adverbs and resentment and rage and blame, being
real silly about the parking ticket. It's not so silly in other people's realities
when they've been put down. I have a biomedical company
that I'm the chairman of the board on that I-- a company I founded a long time
ago that's still very successful. We make diagnostic tests for different diseases.
And we just had a really both unfortunate and amazing example of this.
So we've got a sales manager, a woman. Marketing manager is a woman. A chief
scientific officer who's a woman, who is Indian. And these people are very capable.
And they go off to a conference. They show up late, they get drunk and then
they have dinner. And in the course of the process the marketing, the sales
manager basically starts to say to the science officer who's Indian, how old are
you, are you, are you still a virgin, you know in India you don't have
this, and, and didn't let go. Now I wasn't at the meeting. And didn't let go and
didn't let go. Now this is a double PhD, very intelligent woman and she got up
and walked away from the-- The scientist? The scientist walked away from the
meeting. And this at the same time I've got emails from this woman that have now
kind of come to surface negotiating a distribution agreement with a company in
Canada who is not our client and yet somehow in the conversations, handicapped
jokes were okay. And in her email there's four or five handicap jokes she says,
well I just wanted to keep the humor going. And so completely oblivious to
this thing and yet here's a business negotiation, here's bullying and
intimidation, and you know it's just unacceptable. And in this case she was
fired. Virtually once all this came to my
attention it was: you're terminated. Yeah. And that's really challenging because
here's a head sales manager, a small company that we kind of count on
there, but this whole level you're watching this come to the surface. So
you've got all of this happening in different configurations.
This woman was basically living in her past where things were acceptable. And a
woman intimidating other women in a workplace is just simply kind of a
unconscious ignorance in terms of the times. But the point is we all have some
level of where we have been discriminated against, where we have been
abused and some level of where we've been the abuser. Yeah and what I'm
watching on that end of the stick is that people are thinking of their past.
Oh my gosh did I say something wrong five years ago, is this person gonna
reveal? You know, did I, did I pat somebody on the back? There's a kind of a
paranoia or did I, a worry. Did I do something wrong in my job. Yeah and both
sides. You have the side that says I've been violated and I can now speak up and
the side that says oh my god I didn't pay attention. I screwed up. What you're really watching is
again the energetics being forced to the surface to be cleared away from. And one
of the things that is helpful here, you may have been the abuser, you may have
been the the abused in one way or the other. But you're carrying that in
someplace and the real opportunity here is to begin to let it go. And the sooner
you let it go you're no longer walking around with that big catcher's mitt
saying you know, "kick me" type of thing. So but it's a place where in real, in a
spiritual evolution standpoint you came, you had an experience, the experience
didn't work out for you-- and again I'm not making light of it-- and the key
piece is: can I now unwind myself from this and recognize am I going to be
not speaking up if that ever happened to me again? Am I going to allow it to
happen? Am I going to be submissive to the circumstance or am I going to own my
certainty and just simply say no? And on the flipside do you get it that this is
no longer, even though it was never appropriate, this is no longer
appropriate behavior. But the real key here is letting it go but not blaming
yourself on either side of this. And basically the question is, is this, do I
feel good walking around with this in my space? Now for the most part a lot of
that's been pushed into the unconsciousness but those events shape
your personality and if you can begin to let go of those and find some inhale, you
know just take a breath and begin to move on, a lot of the places where your
personality doesn't allow you to engage or you avoid or you hold back or you're
a hider, is driven by these events. And so beginning to recognize them in your own
best interest, if possible, without the blame and finding that place of letting
them go. No, they weren't correct. And just like my parking ticket. Really it was
like okay I parked in the wrong place, I I didn't know this but I parked in the
wrong place. Do I want to continue to fight the battle of "they did it to me" or
do I say okay I don't want to part with 25 bucks but, okay, today's experience.
Yeah being in present time, clearing that old painful experience out of your space
gives you the freedom, present time, to choose. Yeah. To observe and choose what's
happening. Yeah and part of the way let it come up, argue with it, really just
argue with it. No they did it to me, take a breath, move away. Let it come up
again I mean intentionally bring it up again and see, all right is this in my
best interest? And the answer will be: no it's not I don't like it. Let it be come
back to it. Again all you're doing is going from I'm outraged to
I'm really disappointed to I'm unhappy or gee, this really wasn't a good thing.
So you've toned down the real charged energies or angers or frustrations in
beginning to step down the emotion and de-charge the energy. And again use the
tools. Use the tools that you have available to you. So this isn't meant to be
advice and it's not meant to be justifying somebody else's action
towards you or towards another person or your action towards somebody else. This
is basically the mechanics of energy and this transition is really pushing and
it's going to start to push a lot harder. And it's all about you can't take your
baggage with you. So the sooner you can take a breath and let a whole bunch of
these things go that we just carry around the sooner you're going to be
able to navigate this transition with a lot more ease than carrying that baggage.
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